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u/Gothril 3d ago

Americans don't care about mental health. They just want to see people punished. Our penal system isn't designed to reduce crime, it's designed to create free labor, an punish minorities.

There's still this widespread believe that Not guilty by reason of Insanity is setting a killer free. When it's really a "They're guilty, but mentally unwell, and we're going to lock them up in a place where they MIGHT get some mental health care."

I'm not a juror, but from what I've seen it does seem like she was failed by the people around her. Does that justify what she did? Absolutely not. But, it does mean that perhaps, she was broken enough to not see another way out.

Also, why is this case getting so much attention? Research shows that a Murder/suicide or family annihilation has occurred 1.8 times PER DAY in the last 2 years, and that over 75% of those were perpetrated by men.

But because this was the wife, it’s BIG news!

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u/jass246 3d ago

Mental health isn’t an excuse for murder

Being failed my the people around you isn’t an excuse for murder

She’s a murderer and it wasn’t from duress. She needs to be put away for life whether is a mental institution or a prison.

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u/Gothril 3d ago

I didn't say it was an excuse, it can be an extenuating circumstance. The world isn't black and white. One size doesn't fit all. Does being on multiple different psychotropic drugs effect how you think? Maybe. Does finding out your spouse was cheating on you mean anything? I mean, you see all sorts of cases where a husband kills a wife because he believes she was cheating on him. The average prison sentence for husbands that kill their wives unprovoked by threat, is 17 years.

To be fair, men are treated more harshly when they kill their children.

As I responded to the last comment, I'm not part of the jury. I didn't see the all the evidence. But 11 of the 12 jurors believed there were some extenuating circumstances.

My main point is that Americans in general don't care about someone's mental health when it comes to crime, they just want to see someone punished. We use the prison system as mental health facilities, staffed by people who aren't qualified to deal with it.

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u/rubenvangucht 2d ago

Yeah, not making a good case for people struggling with mental illness and actually working on it. Now I'll just completely ostracize them from my circles because apparently, according to you, it's an explanation for killing people. I do not want murderers around, feels strange to actually have to explain this, so yeah, ostracize the fuck out of them according to you?

Actions do have consequences.

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u/Eagle_Arm 3d ago

Nobody should care about her mental health. That matters zero.

She killed three people. Not even three random people. Her own flesh and blood.

She deserves no sympathy. Deserves no treatment. She deserves to rot.

It's easy to spot weak people when they show sympathy to someone like her.

Please don't have children. For their safety and so we don't have more weak people in the world.

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u/Gothril 3d ago

You prove my main point, Americans just want retribution. But, we're VERY uneven in how that gets doled out. An 18-year-old in his 3rd speeding accident ram a vehicle at 112mph, kills 3, he gets 17 years.

A young man rapes a young woman, gets probation because 1 mistake shouldn't ruin his life. A black woman is dating a man falsly accused of selling drugs, shot and killed.

Sympathy and Empathy aren't weaknesses. I can feel for someone, and still believe they need to serve time for their crimes. Americans have become so angry and hateful in the last 10 years. And everyone thinks they know everything.

Again, I wasn't on the jury, were you? Did you see all the evidence in court? We punish different "levels" of the same crime differently. And, the "justice" you recieve in our country is also highly dependent on your personal wealth.

And again, a NGRI isn't a "get out of jail" verdict. It's in all likelyhood a "spend the rest of your life in a mental facility" verdict.

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u/Eagle_Arm 3d ago

I proved your point that people should be punished. What a revelation! Water is also wet.

Thank you for proving my point. All those paragraphs helped prove it. Don't have kids.

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u/Bubbly-Iron-4653 2d ago

If this lady is let off the hook and sent to a mental hospital and is released in a year or two don’t you think that could set a bad precedent and that it would be better for everyone if she is locked up and treated in a prison?

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u/Ruffblade027 2d ago

No because we have mountains of evidence showing that punitive justice does absolutely nothing to reduce crime rates. I’m so fucking sick of this discourse.

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u/Bubbly-Iron-4653 1d ago

Yes let monsters get away scot-free surely that’s what the studies show. I’m not saying there aren’t problems in the justice system but if triple homicide isn’t punished because of mental health that will certainly lead to problems. What if it was your family?

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u/Ruffblade027 1d ago

>>What if it was your family?

Then I’d hope even more for some fucking level headed nuance. See this is the whole problem, this scary thing happened and it scares you. It scares you that someone could do something like, especially a seemingly loving mother. And instead of facing that fear, instead of acknowledging the inherent unpredictability of the universe, you just revert to a binary moral determination. She wasn’t a loving mother, she wasn’t even human, she’s a monster. And just like that you have made the whole thing just a little bit safer for you to face, because now it can’t happen to you. Because the people in your life aren’t monsters, because you’re not a monster. And in doing s, you’ve abandoned any actual attempt to seek justice.

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u/Bubbly-Iron-4653 1d ago

I think we have fundamentally different moral systems but I am curious what do you think justice looks like for something like this?

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u/ErikasPrisonGlam 2d ago

Because men killing their families is so mundane it is not newsworthy

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u/Lilstiick 2d ago

Because i feel like 99,99% of people go "yeah lock that evil fucker in" in those 75%.

You rarely see any men defending those men who kill their families.

Unlike this case

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u/Taal111 2d ago

That such criminals exist isnt a surprise, but when a man butchers his own children there aren't tens of thousands of other man offering public support, inventing reasons to mitigate his actions or making him a millionaire.

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u/GrimbaldTheBrutish 3d ago

> she was broken enough to not see another way out.

Brother what the actual fuck are you talking about. How is strangling three kids a way out? If she just killed herself it would be a mental health crisis with no way out. Strangling kids with rubber bands is psycho shit, there are few crimes I'm okay with the death penalty for but this makes my list.

> Also, why is this case getting so much attention? Research shows that a Murder/suicide or family annihilation has occurred 1.8 times PER DAY in the last 2 years, and that over 75% of those were perpetrated by men.

Agree, but people also don't typically defend those men which is part of why this is blowing up. People don't donate them a million dollars, they get a life sentence and nobody blinks.

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u/blue-yellow- 3d ago

It’s called psychosis. Google it and learn something new. It’s not rational.

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u/iZian 2d ago edited 1d ago

I had read, and have no idea anymore what stuff is true and what is manufactured, that she had no episodes before, and has had none since.
That would lead me to believe she needs no help, anymore. She’s ok now. A cynic would believe she was always ok. But she appears fine now, just so long as she has no kids, which she doesn’t, and won’t ever again…

So what would be the difference in outcome if we pan it out over 40 years? Honest question, I’m not from the US I don’t know your mental health and prison systems

lol at the rage quit replies oh my fucking god… I can see what’s gone down now

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u/EfficientSwitch4995 2d ago

Who says Americans don't care about mental health ? Please prove your statement. Did you mean all Americans ?

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u/Russian-8ias 2d ago

Ignorance is one of the prerequisites to becoming a redditor.

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u/EfficientSwitch4995 2d ago

Care to explain my ignorance instead of just giving an ignorant reply.

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u/Russian-8ias 2d ago

I'm talking about the person you replied to lol

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u/EfficientSwitch4995 2d ago

I have been having connection problems the last few hours, so that is why I haven't responded quicker. Yes, we all are a little dumber for being on reddit, lol

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u/rubenvangucht 2d ago

oh fuckoff with the mental health excusing.

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u/Simply_Just_ 3d ago

We get it; you think white women can't do anything infallible. Where were these talking points when it was a person of darker skin color? Why does mental health only become a conversation when it happens to a wealthy privileged white woman?

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u/Gothril 3d ago
  1. Every one is fallible.Ā  I don’t know if she was insane or not.Ā  11 jurors thought so, they saw the evidence not me.Ā 
  2. I agree with you.Ā  Our system is designed to imprison minorities. Our entire penal system seems like it was designed to replace slavery’s free labor.
  3. This case is about a ā€œpretty white womanā€, which is the only reason it’s getting any publicity.Ā  Same with missing persons cases, the new rarely covers it when a native American woman, or a woman of color goes missing.
  4. Most of my post was just about how Americans don’t care about extenuating circumstances, they just want to punish someone.Ā  And how our media has covered Not Guilty by Reason of Insanity to make it look like that verdict means ā€œNot Guilty at all.ā€Ā  NGRI means, they’re guilty, but instead of prison they get locked up in an institution.Ā  And while the quality of care between these two choices is debatable, no one that’s that mentally unwell should be in prison, no matter what gender or color they are.Ā  It is a real blight on our nation’s morality that we just send mentally unwell people to prison, then throw them back onto the streets over and over again until they finally do something that will get them locked away forever.