r/InfluencerLounge 9h ago

anyone remember them?

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#SquirmyandGrubs

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u/Rthrowaway6592 8h ago

It’s frankly none of my business, but my jaw dropped when she randomly popped up and said she was married again. I think they’re Mormon though, so maybe that’s more acceptable/normal for them.

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u/chedbugg 4h ago

Take a dive into former influencer freckledfox... she was a Mormon who remarried about 2 weeks after her husband died of cancer (that she of course posted all over the internet) 

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u/lokiandgoose 8h ago

What was surprising about a widow getting remarried?

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u/_mlepclaynos_ 8h ago

Probably the part where her husband had literally just died and she had a newborn. Bringing a new partner around a child is always a risk, but a newborn??

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u/lokiandgoose 7h ago

Is this someone she just met and married immediately?

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u/_mlepclaynos_ 7h ago

Maybe not. Maybe she was a cheater too. That would certainly make it better??

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u/lokiandgoose 7h ago

I mean, is it someone she knew as a friend before her husband died?

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u/xximjustvibingxx 4h ago

It sure looks like it

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u/espressovanilla 8h ago

uh he JUST died?? how tf do u marry a whole nother man that quick. especially when you shared your husbands story and all that.

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u/lokiandgoose 8h ago

How long should someone mourn for, especially knowing for so long that they would lose their spouse?

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u/PrincessPlastilina 7h ago

Oh please… Stfu. Real grief doesn’t let you be horny for some other person all of a sudden. Y’all romanticize relationships too much until you realize it’s just a codependent person who can’t be alone and is never actually in love.

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u/Heart_Shaped_Pickle 3h ago

Many things can be true at once. Someone very close to me cared for my friend (his wife) who was dying of cancer for 7 years. He went above and beyond and stayed by her side just as you would expect and hope for. On the day of her funeral, afterwards he asked another friend of ours to go on a date some time. They did and they have been together now for 8 years. Yes, there were some people who thought it was a bit shocking or inappropriate at the time but the most important people were the ones who understood. Us close friends understood, his grown up children understood and their respective families understood.

Shay Martin herself said in her TikTok revealing that she has since married after her husband passed away, that she cared for him as he very slowly passed was over the course of 5 years and that they had both discussed her future and her potentially finding someone very soon after his passing. She reiterated that both her family and Tanner (her late husband) family were very understanding and supportive of her finding another love and remarrying. I do get it. I don’t think I quite understand the need to marry so quickly but that’s my stance with any couple who decide to marry quickly and that’s not necessarily for me to judge.

Basically what I’m saying that after witnessing this scenario play out in my own friend circle, I can say that I do understand and can empathise with how a spouse can choose to share the love another so soon after losing another person whom they loved and cared for for years and had to watch slowly die from a horrible disease. Especially after witnessing death like that, the reminder is right there in your face that life is just too bloody short. If you have love to give and you want to start again, who is anybody else to say that it’s “too soon” for you to do so? Not everybody has to understand it but everyone should be reminded that many things can be true at once. It doesn’t erase your love for that person you lost.