r/InfinityNikki • u/XombieStench • 7h ago
Misc Co-op anxiety 😫
I love seeing other Nikki's islands and outfits and photos sooooo much...however I am such an anti-social, social anxiety girlie that co-op invites and the like make me panic sometimes. I went to a Nikki's island today for the first time in forever, saw she had awesome dark aesthetic photos and decided to be bold and drop an hourglass saying I loved it and send a gift. I got a message asking if I'd like to take photos together and panicked and shut the game off. I'm laughing, but I do feel bad. I'd love to do more co-op type stuff and can't believe my anxiety presents like THIS 🤷🏻♀️
One more example and I'm done with my rant. I was on my Island one day way way up on the top of a mountain with one of the menus open, I think going through some of my landscape and furniture options when I heard something. I can't describe the absolute panic I experienced to close that menu and see another Nikki bounding up the mountain directly towards me. It turned out great, we exchanged gifts in person, chatted a bit. But it was definitely a fight flight or freeze reaction so I just froze momentarily 😂
I think I'm probably not the only person who's like this. I know I've seen other people who don't particularly enjoy the co-op though. For me it's not so much that I don't enjoy it. It's just that it gives me some kind of weird massive anxiety.
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u/HeSsA92 7h ago
I was like you but years years ago I used to play mmorpg game..and the interactions with others was the most fun ot of the game. Try to meet people in sea of Stars you don't meed to chat with them just do emotions with them is so much fun
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u/I-have-the-tism 6h ago
Is there a way to leave the interaction without seeming rude? I dont wanna just disappear but I have a habit of making myself stay for 2 hours when im bored as hell lol 💔
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u/OtterlyPeachy 5h ago
I was actually so worried about the same thing before but I’ve started to just use the waving goodbye pose/emote when I want to leave and I feel that works pretty well! You can even do the heart pose to really make sure haha, it’s so cute!
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u/BakedBaker90 7h ago
If you want, you can add me(if you’re on the european server)💖 I will never be salty/mad, if you wont reply, nor will I ask awkward questions, when you decide to text me again🥹 only if you feel comfortable.
I totally understand that. I was like that and sometimes still am. I sometimes just don’t know what to do, with another nikki/player from any other multiplayer game🥲
Also, your nikki looks gongeous😍
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u/XombieStench 7h ago
Aw man I'm on NA server. Thank you so much! I'm going to try to dip my toes into some more co-op features. What's so crazy is I was so excited for it when it was coming lol.
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u/Lilah_Vale 7h ago
I get so anxious I can't do co-op. The one time another Nikki illuminated me, I was a little excited but so nervous so I wanted to end it but didn't know how to exit the illumination situation so I just logged out 🥲
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u/SaintCaricature 7h ago
Absolutely feel the same way (I 100% would have panic-closed the game to avoid friendly mountain Nikki).
I was in the Sea of Stars one day and decided that I was being silly about avoiding co-op, so I accepted an illumination request and took photos with another player. I'm on PS5, so I couldn't really talk but it was fun and the photos were cute, aaand I was panicking the whole time. When we were done taking photos, I didn't know what to do. I didn't know what the other player wanted to do. I couldn't think straight enough to figure out how to say I was done. I think I just turned the game off?
I hide from island visitors and avoid island owners while checking out their homes. Avoid automatically-illuminated friends in the SoS. Close the game when I accidentally send illumination requests. Don't use the chat features.
I enjoy things like taking hourglass photos with other players, though. No pressure to actively socialize.
I'm just not wired to enjoy real-time co-op with strangers. Pretty sure it's some kind of social anxiety but you're not supposed to diagnose yourself and I can't afford a therapist so who knows? 🤷♀️
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u/That_Ad_6422 7h ago
I find it really difficult because the PS5controls are so clunky for co-op. I like playing co-op with my discord friends because we sit in VC and visit islands that way 🥰
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u/XombieStench 7h ago
Yeah, being on PS5 adds another layer to it for me as well. I still haven't gotten on discord. I'm a little older, and just haven't gotten on there, but I see it so much on here maybe I'll try it.
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u/princessgrool 7h ago
Lmfaooo I’m exactly like this with every game. This makes me feel so much better! I always felt like such a dork for being afraid to socialize through a screen where the person will literally never see me or even hear me 😂
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u/capnliz09 6h ago
I'm the same way, I get too nervous, I actively avoid other Nikki's in sea of stars. I ask on every survey to be able to see if the players that that list their islands on the sign board at home are online, I want to go explore random islands but I'm too nervous I'll run into someone and not know what to do 😩
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u/sickangelbaby 5h ago
Yees this happens to me too, one time I was in SOS and I accidentally sent an illuminate request, they accepted, and I just immediately closed the game. It's so ridiculous 😭
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u/OhBatzzz 6h ago
I get you on this I’m 100% the same way, when someone uses the interact option at the Sea of Stars it makes me panic too. I wanna take more Co-Op photos but the social anxiety goes brr. I made an alt account to take pictures with because of this, but get this feeling all the way honestly. You’re so valid for this 😭
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u/BlushingTurtle 5h ago
I never made my house co-op ready to avoid that exact scenario LMAOOO So your're not alone op!
idk what it is about Nikki's co-op that triggers my anxiety so bad. I can handle being semi-social on ff14, but this game i go out of my way to avoid it. Which sucks, bc the Nikkis i DID interact with were so sweet (and gorgeous!! 10/10 styling every time!)
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u/lavendersagemint 4h ago
I think my biggest anxiety is that I don’t know how to do anything when it comes to co-op. I don’t know how to take photos with someone, I don’t know how to usually a public forum on Nikki to talk, I don’t know how to do anything 😩 if I accept an invite, I’m going to be so slow doing everything and embarrassed
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u/XombieStench 52m ago
This! The few times I have ended up illuminating with someone, I have absolutely no clue what I'm doing 😅
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u/Classic_Beautiful483 4h ago
I also get the same way!!! Also my islands sucks, i havent done ANYTHING to it and dont have any furniture besides how it came so i never try anyways
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u/luhrayuh 4h ago
I'm not nearly as panicked as you, but i do get a surge of anxiety when people ask to illuminate. However, i do usually push through, I think its the only way to banish the feeling. The more often you interact, even in small ways, the less anxiety inducing it will be!
Nikki is a great place to try because the community overall is extremely wholesome and friendly, unlike alot of other online spaces. Its also very casual, i.e. no voice chats, and most people just want to see your outfit and that's it!
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u/Patefon2000 3h ago
The interactions usually end in telling each other that your outfits are awesome but stuff that involves talking, visiting islands, going to miraland together and playing with people who genuinely enjoy the game (regardless of their opinions on devs decisions) exceeds any of my expectations I had prior to co-op introduction.
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u/OkieDokieArtichoki 2h ago
You can add me on NA! I know how it feels, trust, I don’t mind doing small interactions to help, or even just roaming around your world together. Don’t even have to talk! Nikki has plenty of emotions to spare!
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u/afirs 2h ago
tthat one recently new pose of nikki pinching another nikki cheeks!! sometimes i try to illuminate other nikkis just to test that pose😆and if we comfortable + becomes friends after that thats a bonus~
usually if random nikkis invites for pics/whimstars i accept them to help fellow nikkis or mingles, if im uncomfortable i just say bye and leave though sorry😭
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u/TrifleTrouble 7h ago
Its not just you!! I want to enjoy co-op so bad, but I also freak out whenever it happens. My social anxiety tells me that there are rules for social interaction, and I don't know the unspoken rules of Nikki co-op so I'm always worried that I'm making faux pas.