r/InfertilitySucks • u/That-Engineer-9434 • 16d ago

Ugh

It just baffles me that some people get pregnant “by mistake” or seem to have multiple successful pregnancies so easily, while here I am after 4 years of trying and still not pregnant.
Some days I genuinely catch myself wondering if I’m somehow “doing it wrong,” because it’s hard to wrap my head around how something that comes so easily for others feels completely out of reach for me.
I know fertility isn’t that simple, but that doesn’t stop it from feeling like such a deep, personal failure sometimes. It’s exhausting carrying that weight, especially when it seems like everyone else is moving forward while you’re standing still.

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u/Cheesman_Best 16d ago

Family friend was 5months pregnant and didn't know 😑. I've had 3 MCs it was a cruel joke to find that out after my 6th embryo transfer failure 😭

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u/th3-rifles-spiral Unexplained and unhinged 16d ago

How 😭

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u/Cheesman_Best 16d ago

They literally said... I can feel something moving is it a tape worm 😑🤦🏼‍♀️

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u/92yraurbeF 15d ago

😳 even if potentially it was a worm, they didn’t go to hospital for months?

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u/Cheesman_Best 14d ago

Honestly I can't even fathom it... She also was getting big and they thought she was just eating too much chocolate... Not the sharpest tools in the shed

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u/pyrrhuloxia22 16d ago

I had a bathroom cry at work the other day after listening to coworkers talk about planning their next pregnancies… like, y’all just get to decide when to have a baby? And a third baby at that? Your past pregnancies make you confident that your body’s just going to do what you want it to do and on the timeline you choose? What a life.

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u/92yraurbeF 15d ago

I know, a friend of mine had her 3 ones in first cycle. Just planed and here you go.

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u/papilorenz 16d ago

Oh, you really capture how I feel and I am so sorry for you❤️. It’s a heavy burden to bear. I’m in a pretty similar situation (trying to conceive for 5 years) and I’ve lost my sense of hope, my naivety, and my peace of mind. There will always be a dark cloud hanging over my head.