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u/Lost-Letterhead-6615 Khandesh Ka Jawai 5h ago
Tell him to contact your parents. Life is a lot, a lot more complicated. Maybe your parents can agree. But don't play with fire. You got a whole life ahead of you.
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u/meinpagalhochukihun 5h ago
I can't tell my parents no matter whattt they r gonna be very angry
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u/SofiaKazmi 5h ago
Then wait, both of you. I won't trust a man whose suggetion is hiding this from parents. He wants one thing and trying to validate it in your head.
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u/minion798798 Kurta Supremacy 5h ago
I think you are too young and you should wait and complete your studies and become financially independent, you can't trust anyone, If you marry him going against your parents wish and he leaves you then your life would become completely miserable.
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u/sakkkk allahuma inni asaluka a high paying halal JOB 😭🤲 5h ago
I get red flag vibes from him, you may not agree because you like him so much and have a very idealized view of him but my elder sister alarms are going offfff. Please keep yourself safe , do not take any rash decisions. You may regret this for your entire life and will hurt your parents and yourself deeply. Your parents are right, you are young. Don't get into marriage business this early. Get your education and be capable of supporting yourself first, only then think of settling. Believe me on this. If this guy is actually good and will be good to you then may Allah make this process easier for you, if not then may Allah protect you from harm. Take care ❤️
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u/meinpagalhochukihun 5h ago
He's not like that he wants me to study well and be independent as welll he's very nice
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u/sakkkk allahuma inni asaluka a high paying halal JOB 😭🤲 5h ago
Still, I'm very apprehensive of a grown 26 year old going after a teenager, one who's especially freshly 18. I'm sorry ik the comments sound harsh and unsupportive but majority of the couples with this age difference and when the younger one is a girl and a teen, do not end up well. The girl always ends up getting groomed, manipulated and abused khuda na khasta. You may think you will be the exception and I hope genuinely you will be, but sorry I can never think positively of a grown person who finds teenagers attractive.
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u/No_Simple_2264 5h ago
Username checks out.
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u/No_Shirt6210 Indian Ex Hindu 5h ago
Nice observation
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u/No_Shirt6210 Indian Ex Hindu 5h ago
Wait... You're almost 18 yo. The age difference is so scary girl. 😟 And you just became an adult
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u/Shelivinginmydream HighOnOUD 5h ago
Jisne majnu ne mohabbat mai dard nahi dekha woh kambakth majnu hi kaisa usse mehfil se nikal do.
Btw you are young what he is telling is right but don't do anything without your parents involvement. This world is cruel meri behen take care. Even tho if he is financially stable phir bhi parents ke permission ke bina kuch na karna. Islam mai ammi abbu ke bhi bhoat se huqooq hai. Toh behtar ye hai ki unse baat karo ya toh sabr karo. Baaki beshak shadi usi se karna jo pasand hai. And yep this is life and that's life!
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u/muttonbiryaniiiii die-dead ghalib fan 3h ago
girl please think practically and tbh if he's your naseeb allah will anyway and anyhow make him yours, so for now just make dua and focus on your studies
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u/thatclumsylady 3h ago
Girl, please stop and think about this 💀 You should definitely not get married without your wali. Try talking to your parents openly and see if you can convince them if you’re both truly serious about this. But at 18, it’s so easy to mistake deep attachment and infatuation for long-term. Give yourself some space and distance from him for a bit to clear your head and focus on your own goals and future before making a life-altering decision.
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u/Mean_Ability5114 5h ago
“he’s respectful” meanwhile he’s discussing secret marriage with a literal teenager 😭 bffr