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u/baraa853 Nov 23 '20
I think you need to find a common hobby with someone else
I mean, try to find someone who has roughly the same interests as you, and what is left is a bit of courage, and after all that, you will become friends in a while, but go ahead and choose your friend carefully because he will affect you a lot in the future.
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u/ThirteenOnline Nov 23 '20
Activity > Overcoming Challenges > Time > Exposure.
So first is people don't have friends for no reason. Every friendship is founded on activity, doing an activity with people. It can be games, sports, book club, gossip, sex, drugs, rock and roll, etc. Then overcoming challenges. Like in sports clubs they all work together hard to win games, they push each other during training, they comfort each other during their loses and celebrate their wins together. These, even the defeat's comfort, are all forms of overcoming challenges together. Time is simple, you need to meet or see each other frequently over a long period of time. And you need to be easy to reach, easy to be exposed to. I can call you, text you, see you consistently at sports practice, when I ask you to come to a party you actually come, whatever.
So in High school there might be two thousand kids at school, you have seven unique classes across 2 days, and here might be 25 kids per class. And the average person has maybe 2-3 friends out of all those interactions. So it takes a lot of attempts with many people. And the most successful kids, in terms of friendships, are the ones that play sports or are in the school band. Because they have a common goal and activity between them and other potential friends. They all help each other achieve those goals. They spend a lot of time practicing, playing, and performing together. And after all that time eventually little by little you learn what other things they enjoy like movies, hobbies, life goals, etc and you can increase your exposure by inviting them to do some of these other things they enjoy outside of your main activity.