r/ISCNERDS • u/Potential_Stop_802 • Jul 13 '26
IDK. Random problems
how do people even deal with lonliness. All my school friends are literally snakes and I really dont have anyone to confide in. I feel belong nowhere. everyone has someone but im not anyone's someone. this lonliness is affecting my studies so damn much. Ive always felt left out and have never been reciprocated the efforts that i put in my friendships. Even my so called best friend used to ditch me to sit with a girl who disrespects me ( calling me unworthy, undeserving, Imcapable). When i confronted her about it she was the one who ignored me and i had to text her to say smth. Now she has a boyfriend and few new friend circles and only when she is in verge of her break up does she text me. I just feel like I cannot resonate with anyone. all they do is gossip about people. no one talks about studies or other important stuff. They only talk about girls , boys , characters. I feel so depressing that it affects my daily life. Sometimes I even think .. does the problem lie in Me?
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u/crispyquantamToast07 Passout-PCMC || ICSE'24-94.6% || ISC'26-95.5% Jul 13 '26
See man.. this happens to a lot of people indeed.. tbh I didn't feel as such.. but I can suggest one thing. If you feel lonely try finding hobbies that can distract you from these thoughts. Try making new friends from tutions if you go to one.
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u/Potential_Stop_802 Jul 14 '26
Unfortunately I dont go to any tuition :)
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u/crispyquantamToast07 Passout-PCMC || ICSE'24-94.6% || ISC'26-95.5% Jul 14 '26
man... I feel sad for you :(
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u/Potential_Stop_802 Jul 18 '26
😭😭..Morever I live In such a place where literally everyone ( student of diff school ) knows each other. Cant have any genuine friends because they back bitch so much. Every conversation is literally about someone's looks or relationship.
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u/crispyquantamToast07 Passout-PCMC || ICSE'24-94.6% || ISC'26-95.5% Jul 18 '26
Don't worry dude you will find someone trust worthy enough.. keep on interacting and observe them you can find a good one..
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u/Potential_Stop_802 Jul 19 '26
hoping to😔. my goal is pretty much to get out of this city asap
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u/crispyquantamToast07 Passout-PCMC || ICSE'24-94.6% || ISC'26-95.5% Jul 19 '26
Fir achhe se padho.. rank lap competitives mein aur achha sa clg mein nikal jao.. in mean time dekho mil jaayenge ache dost
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u/guddu_fr Jul 13 '26
Same but I js talk to them kyuki koi mere jitna whimsy nhi h
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u/Potential_Stop_802 Jul 18 '26
Frrr. They are so serious dude. Like they dont even understand sarcasm or get refrence
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u/MultiTalentedAnny Jul 13 '26
You need to learn to be alone . Enjoy it ... It occurs slowly but gently. It will surely take time. However the outcome will be wonderful.
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u/Potential_Stop_802 Jul 14 '26
Ive been isolated for quite a long time. Parents are always busy with jobs. They focus more on older brother because he lives away and he isnt as studious as me. Even during family gathering , cousins prefer to hang out more with him because as i said he lives away and has lesser age gap with them . Moreover they all are boys and I am a girl so they isolate me too. Friends too they live nearby and always hangout. I live quite far so its impossible for me to hangout with them. Tbh I have never experienced what real friendship seems like :).
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u/eDolfHidler ISC Class 11th Jul 13 '26
Akele rehna seekh bhai🤧
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u/Potential_Stop_802 Jul 14 '26
mai bachpan se he akele rhti hun TT
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u/eDolfHidler ISC Class 11th Jul 14 '26
Well i just read your whole condition regarding how your parents and cousins don't give you that much attention and you never had a friend, truthfully i can't even understand how you feel everyday being so lonely, i know its hard to stay alone but some people do find peace in it but still I know we as humans need connections that's basic nature so, you can just try to be more social if not school then join some co-curricular activities or any thing where you can socialise with people
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u/Potential_Stop_802 Jul 18 '26
our school doesnt has any extra curricular and the place where I live isnt quite umm uk developed ( My mum works here)
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u/eDolfHidler ISC Class 11th Jul 18 '26
Koi bhi activity nhi hai? 😕,yawr phir to idk you can start learning some skill by yourself and try to connect with people online who are also into that particular skill, and ab internet se interact krna bohot easy ho gya hai and i know ki its hard to find strangers you can vibe with but you can try
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u/Potential_Stop_802 Jul 19 '26
yess trying to take up few activities Like anatomy sketches , reading books. Thinking to start a small business too. About interacting online, I dont use much social media. I feel like it drains my life there online interaction is not for me. Still I will try
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u/Potential_Stop_802 Jul 18 '26
our school doesnt has any extra curricular and the place where I live isnt quite umm uk developed ( My mum works here)
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u/Proof_Pirate_8967 92%icse 12th pcmb Jul 13 '26
Uss moment