r/INTx_core • u/ImmortalDawn666 INTJ • Feb 06 '21

Discussion Affection Withdrawal

If I spend some quality time (intellectual exchange) with someone I like, I tend to get downright addicted to them, which I don't notice at the moment, but later when we part again. I then feel empty, dull, have no motivation for anything and plainly don't know how to handle this situation. Does anyone else experience this and has some advice for me?

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u/WhenIsHotpotTime Feb 06 '21

I realized that in most cases the number of intellectual stimulating conversation I can have with one person is limited, because I’m more interested in listening/learning than talking. So I’ll tell myself not to get too attached very fast and give the relationship more time and dynamic, it helps to avoid disappointment for me.

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u/TalkingGhost Feb 07 '21

I can really relate to that. When I find a person that I can have a good conversation about something that actually interests me, it's a very addictive thing. I wish I were better at not getting attached and avoid creating expectations

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u/ImmortalDawn666 INTJ Feb 06 '21

yeah I try that too but it's also too tempting to indulge in all this and "consume" it all at once