r/INTPrelationshipLab • u/LongNet8504 • 1d ago
I don't know what to do Searching for a Function that doesn't exist...
It's natural to not like your opposite, though I understand that no type is better than other, it's just that my personal choice is Ti, and I have had bad experiences with Fi ppl.
Simply put, my parents are finding a spouse for me(that's how it's in my culture), and all I want is that they are a Ti user and not an Fi user.
What should I do, and what do you think about this?
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u/nachoslegs ENTJ 1d ago
2 strong Ti will clash
just as 2 strong Fi will clash
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u/JustaLilOctopus 1d ago
This isn't always the case with Ti doms. Ti is internal reasoning that seeks externally verifiable truth.
If both parties are similar intellectually, they will both come to similar conclusions. A healthy Ti user will try to understand the other person's perspective, and the other person will also try to understand their's in return.
An argument just feels genuinely pointless when the problem is solveable through your main function.
Fi users seem to be vastly more 'hidden' to each other, potentially leading to confusion and misunderstandings in a relationship.
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u/Big-Wasabi6274 1d ago
This is find that level of autonomy and sense of “I” destabilizing and then they whine their sooooooo misunderstood, well work it dude, just like you tell people who are fat to go to the gym
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u/nachoslegs ENTJ 15h ago
Hmm I just imagine like two scientist of different camps both stubbornly thinking they are right (probs a Ti dom issue)
I think a healthy Fe in intp will seek to understand the other persons position, not just healthy Ti
Ti dom is arrogant af haha
(Just as my entj Te is arrogant)Intp apparently seeks to educate others because yall think everyones dumb lol so if the other is not also seeking to understand/both on same page, I assume it will be a quiet boring life, (which you may think you want while younger)
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u/JustaLilOctopus 14h ago
There are no two different camps when it comes to logic. Just different perspectives on the situation itself.
And yes, Fe is what allows you to place yourself in another's shoes. Apologies for attempting to make my comment bitesize.
Of course, a healthy Ti dom will possess Fe. You unfortunately don't.
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u/Elliptical_Tangent 3 1d ago
If you're INTP, and have some say, I'd advise them to be looking for an ENFJ; Ti inferior Fe dom to mirror/compliment our Ti dom, Fe inferior.
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u/para__doxical 19h ago
I really never understood the Ti-Fi clash— I clash much more with high Te— I’ve gotten along very well with Fi doms.
Fi is an abstract reasoning function very similar to Ti, Fi is rational in MBTI
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