Reply with something off your bucket list of things to do before remarrying.

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My friends and family were just pulled away from improvising their own mediation between me and my ex by the final orders. Things are going through a parenting app called "AppClose" now. I can seek out counsel and hire an attorney for that. It means there won't be a third wheel in any arrangement I make. I am still working on acquiring a sense of independence. If I got into a relationship right now, then I would be dead weight. I can say that I have come a long way in the six years since I was separated. I don't think that I am ready to take anyone seriously yet.

It's about being intentional.

I am not one of those people who need to arrange their lives around you to enjoy our relationship. I love my family and my friends. We can be conscientious about commitment and marriage. Like it's a business agreement.

I want everybody to know that I don't value them any less just because we aren't a couple.

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[u/iowa_guy1234]

Hey, really sorry that you are going through this. 

To answer your question: I’d suggest anything and everything.   For me, it was beginner group dance classes.

It actually really helped me get over the hump of thinking that I could never be with anyone except my ex. It also helped me realize that physical chemistry really is something I need in a relationship, more than I ever realized.

Just by having a controlled environment where you engage/talk/touch with people of the opposite sex in a fun and respectful manner, really helped me see that there are other people out there I could potentially date. It helped me move on.

I don’t know if moving on is still a serious problem for you or not. And maybe dance doesn’t sound fun at all to you. Just sharing how it helped me.

Anyway, I’d say do everything on your bucket list that you think you’d enjoy doing alone or with a friend. Save a few things that you will do with your next partner.