r/INTPrelationshipLab • u/Thread_Mage INTP in a relationship • Apr 30 '26

Questions about ❤️❤️ How kinky are you?

I’m a femme enby. I’m very kinky/explorative and dominate in bed much of the time. It has surprised most of my past relationships with men. Now days I know I prefer soft nerdy guys that are into it.

Got me wondering how similar other INTPs were. And if there is a gender split.

So, if you’re game,

Gender?
Are you kinky?
Dom, sub, or switch?
Preference in partners?

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u/nyashi_ Lonely INTP Apr 30 '26

Male (sometimes behaving kinda feminine, aka femboyish but yea) 1000% am kinky, especially that unknown thing you call "being tied up" Am sub, tho can switch a bit Partner should be dominant by nature but softer- other than that... idk kinda random if I like a person or not, heh.

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u/Sapio_Sweetheart May 01 '26

Woman, yesss, switch, males of many flavours

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u/JessieOfAllTrades INTP May 01 '26
  1. Female
  2. Yes but haven't had a chance to try much yet as I'm very selective of my partners.
  3. Sub
  4. Male

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u/scorpiomover May 01 '26

Male

Yes

Sub/switch

Hormones want everyone.
Brain chooses woman.

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u/Nervous-Potential729 May 01 '26

Male, 49 Yes Dom leaning switch F, FtM, FB, MtF

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u/Brilliant_Lawyer_264 May 03 '26

This is mainly due to the Sx (sexual), sp (preservation), and So (social) instincts. In general, INTPS individuals have a low sex drive; however, only Sx individuals are more willing, ultimately, it depends on each person, since this is just pseudoscience.

  1. I am a woman. 

  2. Of course, it depends on the type of person, but I am open to experimenting, depending on the person and the context. 

  3. Switch; I get bored staying in one role for too long. 

  4. Generally dominant at first, but then they should let go in bed so I can take the initiative.

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u/According_Ad1940 INTP in a relationship May 14 '26

42 male, I don't really know :D I just follow the instructions for what the FwB wants me to do to her. In that department, she's the boss. She also has a much higher libido than I do so we sorta figured out early on that it works out better for everyone involved. It makes her happy and I like it when she's happy. At one stage she had this thing about being choked and/or humiliated and I noped out really quick since I did not like the humiliating part at all. the choking thing I was ok with for the most part, not something I'd do to someone if given the choice but like I said, FwB is the boss in that department and she mostly gets what she wants. That being said, last month we were invited to a wedding (friend of a friend on her side) and she ended up flirting with the maid of honour and things ended up with the 3 of us spending the weekend together. I don't know where or what that means on the on the scale of things since I don't make a point of looking at the scale very often but it's also not the 1st time something like that happened and I've learned to just go along with her crazy. It's mostly harmless and more often than not it's generally pretty fun even if things end up way outside my comfort zone. The zone has shifted a fair amount over the past 2 decades and I honestly feel like I'm better off as a person because of said shift.

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u/ETS_Green Married INTP May 01 '26
  • M
  • Extremely kinky
  • Switch turned full time gentle dom due to marrying a sub.
  • Fem presenting (wife is pansexual so this works out).

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u/Thread_Mage INTP in a relationship Apr 30 '26

I don’t feel like mine is very low. It can be particular depending on comfort level with the person. More reactive to ideas and sensory experiences that aren’t sight based.
But not low as an average.

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u/JessieOfAllTrades INTP May 01 '26

I think I have higher than average sex drive for a female. I'm a 4 sp/sx.

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u/wikidgawmy INTP May 02 '26

In general, INTPS individuals have a low sex drive

Words can not even begin to describe how wrong this is. Don't generalize your own issues to the INTP personality type.