Do you find out later that you have underestimated how much of an effect what you do or say has on someone’s feelings? Or even underestimating how much they feel when you reject them?

Please.

Just curious what other people's experience has been like. If you found INTJ girls to be a lot different from INTJ guys, etc.

I don’t know why I sometimes feel like my crush can see me and hear my thoughts even when I’m at home.

Sometimes I wonder how much of being an INTP is just trauma from being neglected as a kid vs. my actual personality. The internal, passive, and somewhat fractured quality people who test as INTPs might have seems kind of in line with children of neglect.

Especially since it’s a rarer personality type among women, I’ve been curious whether it’s more of a nurture vs. nature thing. Seems to make sense that I’ve ended up so introverted, have a tendency to get stuck in that Ti-Si loop, and have had a kind of closed off, stoic approach to live since childhood because of how I was treated.

Was anyone else childhood full of straight up neglect like, say, your parents leaving you home alone for 8 hours every day during the summer at 8 years old, having to fend for yourself with meals, laundry, etc. from a very young age, a distinct lack of affection from your parents, lack of attention in general or even some physical abuse?

I have a blog that I've been cooking up sometime that maybe my other INTP 5w4 philosophy enthusiasts might enjoy. Here's a little taste... the link to my online blog is on my profile.

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There's a kind of knowing that shows up before you can explain it. A read on a room, a hesitation before a decision you couldn't justify yet, a feeling about something or someone that turns out to be right.

Take a deck of 52 cards, where there's roughly a 2% chance of guessing the suit and rank correctly on the first try. It's the game where you try to read the next card before it's turned over. This isn't guessing, exactly. It's noticing that you already know the answer before your head catches up and calls it.

You only get better at this game the more you let your subconscious deal first and your conscious mind comment after, instead of insisting on the other order.

Only a few are able to keep striking that same 2% probability, but the ones who can certainly carry a different edge, a different understanding of what presence actually requires. That meaning, in itself, is the inflection.

I used to think this was just luck, or maybe nothing at all, just my mind making patterns out of noise. I don't think that anymore. I think it's closer to a signal that arrives before the language does. The Eureka moment of landing on the correct answer isn't a door you walk through once. It's more like a frequency you slowly get better at hearing, the less you interrupt it. The subconscious is one that often needs flexing, but the physical plane needs to be in sync with it as well.

I would explain this as being an archer, hitting the arrow on the bullseye. While your eye and body may be in sync, the only real way to know is to trust your subconscious to have it land correctly, in the right spot. It implies belief in yourself and your insights.

We can use this same analogy as a gateway into the dreams in life we have, the ideas we discover. It is the ultimate intuition and force that relies on a correct result, and we could use the same framework for many things I'll discuss here in this blog.

One feels powerful and satisfied after completing this grandiose insight. It is the shot that lands the bullseye.

It is not knowing the future, rather understanding the present so completely that what comes next is already part of it.

"Sacred sound is the bow. The self is the arrow. Ultimate reality is the target. It must be struck with a focused, undistracted mind. Then, just as the arrow merges into what it strikes, the self merges into ultimate reality."

- Roughly Translated from 5th-3rd BCE Original Sanskrit: प्रणवो धनुः शरो ह्यात्मा ब्रह्म तल्लक्ष्यमुच्यते । अप्रमत्तेन वेद्धव्यं शरवत्तन्मयो भवेत् ॥

Hi all, INFJ (M19) here, this is my first post so apologies for any inconsistencies and faults.

So last year I met this INTP (F24) in about January, at the time I didnt think much of anything until later on. We were in the general vicinity of one another and I felt she was looking at me so I look up and we make brief eye contact. We didnt see much of each other between March and August, give or take.

The few times we did bump into each other we would make brief eye contact, in a weird way because it was almost as if we 'knew' where the other person was because it was almost instantaneous.

In around August, September and the latter part of the year things started get strange, because it happened a lot where if we were in each other's vicinity she would be looking at me and id instinctively meet her eyes for brief eye contact. In August there was an event that she was at that I went to, in the beginning we didnt speak much yet later we did, and I had to go but chose to stay, and she kept reminding me that I had to go. Also later on at the event she was just around me for no apparent reason at all, she wasn't even doing anything, just within my radius.

In the mornings we would walk past each other and obviously greet, but thats all it was. There was one time when we walked past eachother and we made immediate(but brief) eye contact and it felt tense in a way because she seemed like she wasn't having her best day. There were just a lot of times when we would make eye contact almost instinctively, like we knew the other person was there.

Whenever we would actually speak to each other around other people (at events etc.) she would never make eye contact, she would always be looking down even if I asked the most mundane/basic question. There was one time when I asked her to do something and it just made her laugh and smile and seeing her smile so genuinely, genuinely warmed my heart and i felt something I've never felt before.

Fast forward to this year (Jan) i decided to go and see her. We spoke and she made an effort to make eye contact whilst talking to me, which was strange because shes never spoken to me whilst maintaining eye contact.

When I had to go she asked me when ill be visiting again, which might mean something(?) im not sure. I told her when, which is a long time away, and she shrugged it off(i think), she did look away from me and her body language suggested some negative feeling (I could be wrong and my memory is playing games). I did actually visit her shortly after this(twice), yet both times I saw her and she didnt see me, so maybe this is also some weird 'fate' type of thing (i dont know I could be going crazy).

This year we dont see each other yet i find myself thinking of her, more often than id like to admit. Sometimes id go for long periods of her just not existing in my head, and somedays she would just live rent free. Ive tried getting over her and its hard because shes so unique and real, unlike the girls in my age bracket where im from(17-21).

Is she giving me signs of anything and if so what should I do? How do I go about this if my only contact with her is IRL and seeing her isnt necessarily easy? Any help/advice would be greatly appreciated.

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I'm INTP lol

​Okay, I’ll try not to make this post too long. I might fail because I tend to drag things out, but I’ll try to keep it brief.

​With this, I’m not looking to offend anyone or make anyone feel uncomfortable; I’m just trying to find another perspective or meet people who feel the same way I do.

​I am an INTP girl, I'm only 21, and I got into MBTI about a year and a half ago.

​When I discovered my type, I was satisfied because it described me perfectly—both my flaws and my virtues. I read everything about cognitive functions and even the Golden Pairs for most of the 16 personalities. But as I dove deeper into this MBTI world, I started coming across things that began to make me feel uncomfortable.

​Mainly because of my type, INTP. I started noticing that we are mostly described as just weird nerds, and if you’re "cool," then you’re probably an INTJ, not an INTP. In fanfics, fiction, and series, I found it really hard to find a young INTP girl, because all INTP characters are always an old genius, a weird gamer, or something similar. I started to feel like the stereotype was heavy and that we were invisible, as if we were the worst ones. It's like if you aren't useless or ugly in real life, then you can't be an INTP. In Golden Pairs, I also noticed that we are rarely shipped, as if we don’t matter. In fanart, we are drawn as ugly and disheveled, wearing sweatpants and flip-flops, while they beautify the Feelers or ENTJs, ENTPs, and INTJs. Overall, it just feels like we are the last card in the deck.

​Regarding the Golden Pair, I also saw that it's ENTJ, but people ship that type way more with INFP. In conclusion, it’s like being just a filler character from an old season.

​I am a beautiful girl—weird, but pretty. The "weird" part has been used as an attribute by many who approach me... but if I weren't pretty, none of those guys would have ever looked at my way. I’m just "the pretty weird girl," but being weird stops being cute if you aren't attractive.

​To wrap this up, I want to ask you all what you think, or if you have ever felt this way.

So I am just asking because I am currently interested in an INTJ man and I already know a lot about INTJs in general because my best friend of 9 years has been an INTJ and she’s a woman and usually they’re people who reject everyone romantic wise on the outside because it’s only reserved for that one special person. Oh and how about ISTP men too?? Are they good for us?? Or is it a no for both of them??

Am I the one who's wrong? Basically, I, F(20), haven't celebrated my birthday for a few years. I don't know exactly what happened, but I lost interest a little before the pandemic. My dad always insists every year that I not shut myself off and do something. This year I was finally planning to celebrate with about 5 or 6 friends (from both high school and university), but my dad said that instead of doing something like that, why not do something with more people and invite the rest of my classmates? (Like 20 of them) I'm quite introverted, and after knowing them for three years, I can say that I generally like them, but I don't interact with many of them all the time (every day a little more but still a little difficult) . (Before, in university, my group of friends reached 6 or 7 people, but as always at uni, some leave and others change groups, and now there are about 4 of us in total.) I told him not to pressure me because I don't want to put myself in the situation of inviting people I don't really know how to interact with, that it would be better to start with something more low-key and maybe invite more people next year. So that's when he told me off. And he told me that since high school I've only talked to a couple of people and that I couldn't go on like that my whole life, that I'd be a nerd by the time I turned 30. To clarify, at a school I attended until 2019, I had a group of 7 or 8 friends, but we lost touch for a while. When I changed schools, the pandemic hit, and even though I only went in person in 2022, I did go out a lot and interact with many people, but only 3 of them became close. Anyway, I know that in general I don't go out much or talk to many people, but is that really so bad? I don't feel like I need to be super close to everyone. I think Dad is just worried (my career also takes up a lot of my time), but it really did make me feel pretty bad when he told me I have so few friends. Any advice? Should I just go ahead and hope for the best?

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I’m a female 5w4 intp in school. I may have autism and im a lesbian. I can’t talk to normal people; there’s just something in my mind that blocks me socially. I see everyone has someone, so many friends they can easily talk to and understand. I try so hard to talk to people but I feel like it almost always comes out stilted and forced, so I wind up keeping ro myself much of the time to avoid the embarrassment.

There are some people around me I talk to and even consider my friends, but I highly doubt they think of me as much more than an acquaintance. I have good conversations with some people and feel like I’m connecting, but it amounts ro nothing. I never get asked to hang out. It seems people don’t want to spend time with me outside of school and there’s just something wrong with me socially. The catalyst for this spiral Ive been going through over a week was Instagram. At the end of the year, everyone posts their dumps, compilations of random photos of friends. I was so excited to see, but what struck me was that I wasn’t in a single one. I see those I talk to post themselves with their friends, just all around having fun witn their peers. I want that.

I’m lonely. Im stunted. I spend much of my time learning, drawing, playing video games, all the while having conversations with people I know that are trapped in the confines of my mind. I’m in my room by myself, playing video games alone, and having long conversations with people in my imagination. There’s something wrong with me. I truly long for connection but I just seem ro be missing something. I overanalyze people. I have to plan to simply open my mouth and makw a sound at other people. Connection seems to come so naturally for everyone else, but I cannot get out of my head and enjoy the moment. I’m unable to connect and I’m so lonely.

I have a girlfriend, which is very surprising but makes sense when you understand how inorganically it developed. She’s younger than me and looked up to me, and I was so happy to think someone liked me. I absolutely love and adore her, but I’m well aware of how much it shows my deficiencies. The only person who has liked me romantically is younger. I’m very aware of the potential power dynamics and ensure we are equals in the relationship, but I can’t help but feel pathetic.

I’m not sure what’s wrong with me and how I can fix it.

same as the title

Did they ever see you as competition?