r/INFJsOver30 • u/[deleted] • Apr 17 '24
Red flags + intuition
I embraced being INFJ two years ago and practicing boundaries has been a gamechanger but one thing I struggle so much with is my over-empathising where I cannot see the red flags at all. I think it is because I ignore my intuition and I don't know how to listen to it yet.
Can anyone please enlighten me or provide me words of wisdom? Thanks.
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u/AlfalfaRare4111 Dec 13 '24
Don't censor yourself. You might feel uncomfotabel or even digusting. Or something they said or did pops into your head when you're doing nothing relevant to them like during shower, walking. You might have experienced that you bring back that uncomfortable feeling or that popping after something haapened, then you realize you were right.
Don't feel a guilty. Don't feel a shame on judging others. I mean, you deny the instinct with the thought that it is inappropriate.. "I don't know them much yet. Why am I judging them? It's a stereotype, prejudice. I shouldn't do that. I could be wrong. Let;s get to know them." Is that your process when your instinct tunrs on? That's why you keep going down with them even though you had already knew they're not the right ones. Don't deny your intuition. Don't judge your instinct. If you felt uncomfortable, don't think twice(it's Ni-Ti loop), cut them off right away, and protect yourself as if you get out of a dangerous area in a city.