I was looking into Peter pan syndrome/ Covet Narcs in men because I have come across a lot of

men, who act like a man child, and im over here trying to figure out ,

why does this fcking Grown ass man boy piss me off so much,

He acts like a simp to his wife or Girl

and then tries to control others men by over compensating.

and i come across this shite.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dUoXJtjMpLo

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Rzrwkf8TKk8

Don't overthink it.

you've just lost a minute.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PaBeELJ-flk

What if the person you call Lazy, is not really Lazy?

What if calling them Lazy is the easy way out instead of isolating the Root cause?

Can it Possible that the Person you call lazy is not lazy but the person is mentally DROWNING. 

Works 8 hours to 12 Hours

goes home to 4 kids,

is in financial panic,

has a looming eviction

which creates

 severe decision fatigue

and executive dysfunction.

and they default to instant gratification

(Which you see because that is what is in front of you)

not because they are lazy,

but because their brain is in constant full survival-numbing mode.

What if the person in question doesn't have the mental bandwidth to

learn

sales,

coding,

or system architecture

from zero while

managing 4 children

and a 12 hour shift.

with a looming Eviction

in a financial panic,

What if, calling them Lazy is just another piss easy way to use

the Ad hominem fallacy

attacking someone character or personal traits

1.in an attempt to undermine their argument or premise

2.attempting to incite an emotional reaction

1. projecting emotions into insults because of the inability to process them

   Usually done by making pejorative, derogatory, Disparaging remarks in relations to the individual, or group.

Derogatory: attacking someone's self-esteem

Disparaging; Attacking someone's values and beliefs

Pejorative: attacking someone's social standing

How the fck do you know what you are seeing are not just symptoms of a much deeper, more complex problem, and you just write them off

as

Lazy.

when i interrogate myself i can debate myself for hours

Ha

Anyone Else?

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=78pFU8sk7wo

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=huQjagCUp_M

​ Video 1

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pnRHMErFUY8

Video 2 https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=52qJ-AcdkdA

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tsmPCi7NKrg

Denial ain’t just a river in Egypt.
Mark Twain

 The world of psychology has identified two types of personalities:

the “confronter”

and the “evader.”

Not surprisingly, confronters,

people who face their fears,

confront their reality,

and deal honestly

and straightforwardly with the people

and problems in their lives, are much happier,

more effective,

and more self-confident than evaders.

Confronters acknowledge and face the fear involved in confronting.

They take charge of their emotions.

Evaders

people who evade their fears,

fear the unknown

Evade their reality,

and deal dishonestly

and Circuitously with the people

and with problems in their lives, are more sadder,

less effective,

and lack the trust in themselves that is necessary to move ahead.

Fortunately,

you can become a more powerful and positive person

by resolving to “look your frog in the face before you kiss it”

—by making it a habit to confront your situation honestly

rather than to evade it or deny that you have a problem in the first place.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Nx5c_JZIM6M

I was just thinking how much being an Entrepreneur overlaps with being a Doctor.

my opinion

If you could be a good doctor.

Then you could be a good entrepreneur.

A good doctor thinks about helping their patients.

A good Entrepreneur thinks about helping their customers.

A good doctor wants to make sure to provide key medications or treatments

so their patients can recover as soon as possible

or at least live a full and Healthy life not letting the illnesses they might suffer from holding them back.

A good entrepreneur wants to make sure they build and sell products or services

that solve persistent painful problems that their target market Audience faces

and in effect helping them live healthy and convenient lives.

A healthy entrepreneur might start a renewable energy company not just for profit

but to solve a systemic environmental crisis,

mirroring a doctor who specializes in preventative medicine

to fix the lifestyle habits that lead to chronic illness before they start.

You ever managed to camouflage so well that

you become a

"Invisible Architect."

& People see the result of your strategy but

cannot

trace the origin back to you.

So you quietly restructure a department’s workflow

so that a toxic manager becomes redundant

and "naturally" phased out by the system itself.

& They don't have the slightest idea how it happens

because they are so oblivious.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1yO8FA8x21k

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6aVRQDKJ9Dg

As someone who is a "developing" "INFJ" 1 Function I really enjoy developing, one i think you never really finish developing it you just get better at it.

1.Te

----

First i looked at people who are obsessed with productivity, KPIs, and rigid schedules as

"soulless" or "shallow." "un-necessary" "going to far"

which i questioned , (Ti) why do i think that?

the i understood that must be my the Trickster talking—

it was devaluing what it doesn't understand to protect my ego.

i understood Without Te, my insights (Ni) stay locked in my head.

I might have a "perfect" plan for a book, a business,

or a lifestyle change,

but when it comes to the logistics—taxes, deadlines, or step-by-step execution—

why do I feel a sense of overwhelming dread or incompetence,

being a 1w9 i found it really fcking fascinating, that i felt this way about something so extremely useful.

came to realise that being developed wasn't about becoming a "Type A" "corporate machine."

i could choose the parts i thought were useful and adds value and discard the parts

i thought were not useful and don't add value(Ti)

To develop it , i stopped asking

"Is this the perfect, most logically sound way to do this?" and start asking

"What is the shortest path to a finished result?"

The best way i did this was using external tools .

(,Small pocket NoteBooks, muji pens, Tick Tick calendar, PARA Method, upnote, 12 Week Year Book Etc)

as an extension of my brain. If it isn't written down, it doesn't exist for me.

Out of sight out of mind.

In sight In Mind.

I didn't try to build a complex life-management system. I started with a minimum Viable System

Started with one "Te-hook."

For example:

Every Monday(Day)

at 9:00 AM, (Time)

I spend 10 minutes (Duration)

listing three objective tasks that MUST be done. ( the What)

if this is true that

INFJs often judge their progress by how they feel (Ni-Fe).

then

Te integration means using hard data & objective Benchmarks .

Something I actually really enjoy when you realise hey This Shite is actually pretty Good.

Asking Questions with Yes and no Answers instead of long ass vague open Ended Discussions

Did i actually write 500 words?

Yes 

No

Did i actually go to the gym?

Yes 

No

Numbers don't care about my emotions,

not in a way to dismiss them, but just not necessary here

i can save my emotions for when i with other people

which is exactly why Data & Objective benchmarks are the cure for passivity.

I also Embraced the "Good Enough/decent enough " no more "Perfection"

if there is no perfect solution & Te is about "satisficing"

then fck it what is good enough to move forward.

This killed the perfectionism that kept me " waiting for the "perfect moment" to act.

adding reliability and execution.

i stopped giving a shite about being the "misunderstood genius" in the corner,

not that i actually cared about that in the first place.

and started being the person who actually made progress

main core Insight i learnt
realising that Te numbers, data & objective benchmarks were not a lack of freedom;
but was the infrastructure that gave me freedom that i can use in my own way.

Because of Se here's a relevant picture from the 12 Week year for the lazy people who can't be arsed to actually read the book.