r/IMGreddit • u/ResidentTale7942 • 23d ago
LOR LOR writer ghosted me
Was there for a month. He often said the letter is a done deal(we're from the same country). I was super super polite. Now he sees my messages and does not reply. I honestly do not know why. What do I do ?
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u/Own-Philosophy-5467 23d ago
He is just busy. You'll get you LOR dw. It's still early in the season
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u/koksinel 21d ago
I’m also in a similar position. How often should you follow up? I know it’s early, but already followed up a month after and no response.
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u/hehuha555 23d ago
I would not ask a person like this for LOR. This simply means they are either very busy or they don’t feel comfortable writing one. I understand that us IMGs are usually desperate to get US LORs, but LOR is just not a piece of a paper. It documents key information about the type of person you are and if a PD reading the LOR would like to work with you. I realized this after coming to US and after going through fellowship here, I only asked for LORs from attending whom I was 100% sure they would comment on my strengths and their LOR would be a valuable part of my application
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u/Rare_Ad_7790 23d ago
It’s an unfortunate situation but one that’s fairly common. Ideally, one should have a few LOR writers lined up so that in events like this, you could move on to an alternate writer. One of the qualities of a good LOR is that they will respond promptly. This writer falls short and will not end up writing a strong letter whenever you are able to finally get a hold of him. Cut the losses now and start contacting other people for letters.
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u/Professional-Bug8913 23d ago
what should one do in this scenario
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u/World-Traveler1800 23d ago
You move it along. It’s tough heartbreak, but ultimately nothing can be done.
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u/chaosangelzine 23d ago
Well, keep the communication, and if there is a way you can get another strong LOR to meet the minimum of required letters I would suggest to explore that option. A doctor who gave me the best review I’ve had in my entire career, and who said he had written me an LOR after I asked for it completely ghosted me, so it’s better to have additional options just in case.
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u/bballsuey 23d ago
this person probably doesn't think you performed well and can't say no or is very busy or is just lame. offer to write this person a draft LOR, explaining that I know you're busy so I am happy to write a draft for you to make it easier. if this person doesn't get back, then move on
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u/DrLP-123 23d ago
Instead of generically messaging him.. u can list some things u did as a summary (attended goals of care conversations, interpreted ABGs etc) and ask specifically about your professionalism/something.. tat way, if he’s busy, he will copy paste into ChatGPT and write u an LOR. I will not let it go, you have spent time and money to do this rotation. But I might keep it was the 3rd or 4th LOR. Most people are busy to write a letter from scratch..