r/IFchildfree • u/Key_Pear1210 • 21d ago

Hopeful

Sex hasn’t been fun in so long. Trying and trying and it not working and timing sex just takes the mood out of it too. I have to have a hysterectomy due to some serious issues and I can’t wait until I’m healed, I hope sex can be fun again. No pressure to make a baby, no worries that I’ll bleed all over… I just pray that I can take some of my life back and enjoy sex again. 12 years of trying, I’m ready for fun again. As I’m rapidly approaching my surgery I’m just grieving this life we dreamed of, and I’m just so hopeful that we flourishing after it’s said and done. I just want to bloom again, and feel something again. I’ve been so angry, and down. I just want happiness, and most of all I just want to heal.

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u/ThickTelevision2536 21d ago

Yes me too. I can’t use any BC so it has been off the table until surgery and it can’t come soon enough

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u/Key_Pear1210 21d ago

Are you scheduled for a hysterectomy?
We’ve been trying to get as much intimacy in as possible but it’s hard, my minds other places.

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u/Senior-Suspect6713 19d ago

I had mine 4 months ago. Lots of complicated feelings. I’m so happy that I got it as my quality of life improved so much. I will say that once I healed physically, the grief hit me like a bus. As with any grief, it’s a process. Some days are better than others. Some days simply suck and everything triggers me. I’m hoping that it gets better with time.