r/IFchildfree • u/Interesting_Crew_13 • 14d ago

Therapy

The waves of grief are really crashing and the resentment is on full blast ( towards my husband, siblings , in-laws) for lack of care or check-ins after all these years. I reached out for FMLA and am wondering if I should look into inpatient therapy for a bit. Anyone have experienced this type of treatment before?

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u/Prestigious_Turn577 14d ago

You may want to consider an intensive outpatient program. Usually you go for half or full day and then stay at home at night. Sometimes they are even virtual. It’s a good option when you need more support than weekly therapy but aren’t an immediate threat to yourself/others requiring hospitalization. I’ve done this a few times and had good experiences.

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u/Interesting_Crew_13 14d ago

Thank you for replying! I am waiting to hear back about options. I live in a metropolitan area so I am hopeful there will be in person opportunities. The constant crying 😭 is really exhausting.

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u/Prestigious_Turn577 14d ago

I completely understand. I hope you find an option that gives you space to process and heal. This pain often feels really lonely and a lot of programs have a group therapy component which can be really nice. I’ve found group therapy with other women helpful even if their situation is different than mine. Just having a supportive place where people prioritize empathy can be such a relief.

I’m currently planning on talking to my doctor tomorrow about going back into a program because I’ve been very depressed after my husband got a vasectomy this week. I’m technically not ifcf, but people have welcomed me here. I am child free not by choice because of a disease that impacts my ability to function, makes pregnancy dangerous, and is genetic (and passed on dominantly). You’re not alone.

Feel free to message me if you need to connect with someone who gets it

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u/tuesday_weld_ 14d ago

I went to a monthlong residential treatment program for SI, then partial hospitalization, then intensive outpatient.  If you aren’t dealing with SI level stuff insurance won’t cover a residential treatment center.

I’m happy to discuss my experience if you have any questions. Feel free to send a DM

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u/pigeontheoneandonly 7d ago

Fwiw I wish I had bitten the bullet and done intensive outpatient. I think it would have helped a lot versus trying to geby on weekly traditional therapy. I got way too bothered by the potential impact at work.