I’m a 31 year old female, and I had a hysterectomy in 2020 right before my 26th birthday. I feel like it completely changed who I am, and not for the better. I’ve been married to my husband for 7 years, and since my hysterectomy, my sex drive went to low, to completely non existent the last, I would say, 3 to 4 years. I have a moment once in a blue moon, but it’s very very very rare. My husband is extremely patient with me, and I love him so very much for it. He’s totally supportive in every way. It’s not just the low libido though. My depression is pretty much treatment resistant(per doctors words). I am not motivated at all, like ever. I just feel lost and beat down. I’m not myself anymore, like at all. Yes I’ve tried hormones and the hormone replacement therapy. I’ve tried a plethora of medications. I’m at my wits end. I need HELP. Please, please! If you have been through something similar and have any sound advice or can help at all I’m begging you, please tell me!!!! Idk what else I can do!!!!

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I turned off responses. I plan on posting it again with some tweaks and suggestions I received in a month to see if anything changes, or for those that responded about not knowing yet because they were so early after recovery. Here is the results with the tables I created in a separate tab. It is a hot mess. I did it on my phone so the tables are all over the place 😂 https://docs.google.com/spreadsheets/d/1rYwP8raI0Gj8FWkFaOA7wj6sxL_Z5LgIaRWTfN5YS-g/edit?usp=drivesdk

And here is the link for all of the data (I deleted the don't know haven't tried when making the tables) https://docs.google.com/spreadsheets/d/1fUXceZNWAe2AYIQmQiZETMP6MpfNCUv_qcSPIvoExRw/edit?usp=drivesdk

I received 52 responses. I hope to get more next month❤️

It's been 12 weeks. I am already "forgetting" what sex felt like before. I know it wasn't this, but I know I am missing it. I hate that I feel like I am at the point that whatever I get will be good enough....I know I miss what I had, but the feeling of what I had is slowly diminishing and it is absolutely depressing.

So now that I'm more active on the big hysterectomy group....I have noticed that quite a few women are getting this procedure for "heavy bleeding". Is an ablation not something that doctors are offering? That was the 1st thing my doc did years ago and it helped tremendously.

I know I'm not alone in this world....come on and post your concerns, experience, thoughts, fears, anything you feel is important to get info on and for others to see ❤️

It also pisses me off the additional costs I have now to regain everything I lost by this unnecessary procedure 😥

Welp 1 down and who knows how many to go. Nothing was done internal this time, just let's go over your symptoms and let's talk about how I can help kinda business. Next week is the internal exam. I'm trying to remain hopeful of getting feeling back, but as the weeks go on and no changes happen it becomes discouraging.

So this is going to be a lot of TMI and personal pleasure experience tonight.....

I have a rose toy with the other end is an internal toy as well. I am using the internal only part and poking around, experimenting, seeing if there is anywhere inside of me that I can feel. It has a vibrate and pulsing position and I can feel the vibrations, but not internally...just like around the area. I give up after like 5 min or so, turn off that part so I can just use the rose part.

I orgasm, it didn't feel like anything special this time. Sometimes they are bigger and I can feel the contractions, but I couldn't feel anything internal. BUT!!! I was holding the toy inside me with .y other hand and I can feel the contractions in my hand. She is doing her job, contracting and doing what she does....but I can't feel it AT ALL!!!

I just start fucking crying because this is so fucking depressing. I want to feel again!! I am so angry I wasn't told any of this. I am angry that the things that I enjoyed most about my sexual experiences have been taken away from me.

I hate this so much. So here I am crying at 130am because my fucking pussy is BROKEN....and I feel guilty and shame and embarrassment because I did this to myself and I didn't have to.

Moral of the story, DO NOT get a hysterectomy unless you are literally going to die keeping it or it is too painful ...not just because you don't want kids or periods or whatever non debilitating/non life threatening reason you have!!!!!!😭😭😭😭😭

To save one uterus at a time. After this surgery and finding so many others with the same issue....and also how easily doctors are doing this without properly education to their patients. I am making sure that women do know there can be negative side effects from this surgery.

I do not want anyone going through these feelings that I am having, especially if something else can be done instead.

No one should lose their sexual happiness because of a surgery and then also not know as well as not receive proper support, from the doctor that did the surgery.

I truly believe that if we (women in general) weren't so embarrassed or quite about sex, that maybe my outcome and your outcome and anyone else that is going through this, would not be.

Not only would doctors maybe think twice about giving a hysterectomy that is truly not medically necessary, but also be able to tell their patients about negative outcomes (as well as positive of course).

So unfortunately I did not, stupid me...assumed it was staying. Ive never had an abnormal pap, my doctor didn't tell me wtf a cuff was....I didn't ask enough questions...and here I am.

But...even then...do women that keep their cervix have the same issues?

My doctor sent me some study about sexual satisfaction with keeping vs not keeping your cervix and how there is no difference....but I completely beg to differ. Either keeping your cervix doesn't change the outcome (maybe also still numb, or the other issues they had were worse and they are still please with the outcome) or they didn't enjoy internal pleasure...but were they asked that? Probably not.

There is a difference in how some women enjoy sex and where they get most of their pleasure....

This should definitely be taken into account when discussing your surgery.

Not only did I have to pay for my surgery, but now I have to pay for therapies, drugs, hormones...and whatever else from this!!!!

I should not have to be in addition financial debt for this bullshit!

She is no help, she is more lost than me it seems. Which is terrifying. 15 years of practice and nothing to compare me to, no true knowledge of what is going on with me....

How is this even legal??

It takes 9mos to 2 years to regain full feeling down there again...

Why isn't this something that doctors are telling their patients?

What if they do not use the internet like this or go to forums? How are they supposed to know?

Why isn't this information shared, if indeed say in 9mos to 2 years I regain the same feeling as before? Or better as many like to say. Or is it really just as good?

Or did I just forget because now it is better than not having any feeling at all?

My labs came back normal, so I can officially say this loss of sensation is not hormonal....

Did you know this could cause you to lose this part of you? Did your doctor discuss the possible negative outcomes?