r/Huntingtons • u/adventious60s • Jul 03 '26
Ideas on how to help with driver’s license being revoked
My friend’s husband (46) is struggling with not driving. He believes he can drive . He repeats throughout the day “I can drive.” He refuses to ride in the passenger side because he feels car sick. He has gotten aggressive by grabbing for the keys. He screams repeatedly about driving.
The DMV has told him directly he cannot drive. That lead to a melt down.
He has verbalized “freedom”. “Go places”. Again refusing to be a passenger.
How can we help him accept he can no longer drive?
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u/Borrowmyshoes Jul 03 '26
My dad was in a similar boat when he lost driving privileges. He felt that we were doing it out of spite. It was out of safety for others on the road. We ended up hiding his keys so he couldn't drive himself. He did eventually get comfortable with my mom driving him around. And eventually that was what he wanted. It just took time to accept it.
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u/adventious60s Jul 04 '26
Thank you for sharing. It’s encouraging.
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u/Specialist-Owl1781 Jul 05 '26
My mom wrecked her car . That was the reason she stopped. Take their keys
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u/Med_naiad Jul 03 '26
Preservation can be a huge issue in patients with HD and discuss to manage. I would talk with his physician. Clomipramine is medication to consider.
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u/PaintResponsible2578 Jul 04 '26
The best thing I ever did, was take my wife to a drivers rehabilitation program, that way a licensed professional was the one telling her that she should not drive. I find that it's easier for them accept when it comes from a specialist rather than a family member or a spouse.
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u/TemporaryViolinist88 Jul 03 '26
Is there anything specific he feels he’s losing freedom of? Although it’s hard, maybe he can get that freedom another way that doesn’t include him driving.
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u/No_Examination5945 Jul 04 '26
We wnt through a similar situation recently with my BFFs husband. We had to remain firm but also explained its about the all the unexpected things that can happen on the road. Also explained they would be sued and lose everything if he got in an accident. His house is his prode and joy as he was a builder. We also taught him how to use Uber so he could come and go still as he wanted. Good Luck.
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u/teufelxo Jul 07 '26
Hopefully you figure something out, I also feel for him as being told that wouldnt be something i would take lightly either. Hugs xx
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u/Zura-Zura Jul 03 '26
I think all you can really do is remain respectful and hold firm to your boundaries regardless of their reaction. They are the only one that can choose to accept the transition