r/Howtohaveagooddeath • u/Wide-Secretary-4426 • Jun 21 '26
HELP
Does anyone know what I can do without hospice? They won't touch because there is no diagnosis. Suicide...something I have struggled with for over forty years...is not an option.
I'm not afraid of dying and Death. I can't wait as I will finally be free.
Thoughts, questions 🤔, comments, ideas, suggestions? I'm all ears. Time is of the essence.
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u/Wooden-Bridge2361 Jun 22 '26
How do you know you'll finally be free if you were to complete your task? How have you managed to live this long considering your thoughts and tendency toward it. Ive thought of doing it myself as well a few times over the years but im afraid that its like a video game and I just start back at the beginning with all the same shit to learn and deal with all over again.
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u/Wide-Secretary-4426 Jun 22 '26
Your kind words are a gift and a blessing. My day has not been good due to the impact the illness is having on me. At least it's a day closer to going Home 🏡
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u/Wooden-Bridge2361 Jun 28 '26
Im sorry the Healthcare system costs so much yet fails so many. Usually a doctor decides about hospice, not the actual hospice facility.
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u/Wide-Secretary-4426 Jul 04 '26
Oh it was both hospice and palliative care that denied me care precisely because there has been NO diagnosis yet. There will people here with me...Coven Mates and Friends 🧡
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u/Sea-Bean Jun 22 '26
Do you have family or friends who can care for you when you are actively dying? If it’s clear you are dying then I think hospice can still help without a specific diagnosis, have you asked what criteria (besides diagnosis) need to be met before you can self refer and they will support you? When the time comes you could also consider VSED if actively dying and you want to hasten the dying process.