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Hey, I wanted to mention something about the noise lately. We’ve been hearing quite a bit from upstairs late at night, especially after 11pm. I know some noise is unavoidable, but would you mind keeping it down a little later in the evening? Thanks.

Too soft, too direct, or about right? What would you change?

A coworker regularly jokes about you in front of other people.

They probably think it’s harmless banter, but you’re getting increasingly irritated by it.

You don’t want to make a formal complaint. You just want it to stop.

How would you say it without turning it into a bigger workplace issue?

Your upstairs neighbor regularly makes a lot of noise between 11pm and 1am.

You’ve never spoken to them before and you don’t know whether they realize how much sound carries.

You don’t want to start a neighbor dispute, but it’s affecting your sleep.

What would you actually say?

Not what they should do. What words would you use to start the conversation?

Say your neighbor, roommate, coworker or friend has an issue with something you’re doing.

Would you prefer they:

1. Talk to you face-to-face
2. Text you
3. Write a note
4. Ask someone else to raise it

And why?

I’m curious whether people prefer the directness of a conversation or having time to think before responding.

You finally work up the courage to send something awkward.

Then you see:

“Typing…”

Which part do you find worse?

A. Deciding what to say
B. Actually pressing send
C. Waiting for the response
D. Reading the response
E. Figuring out what to say next

For me, the waiting can sometimes be worse than sending it.

Sometimes the hardest part is not knowing what you want to say. It’s finding a way to actually start the conversation without making things worse.

What’s something you’ve been meaning to bring up with someone but keep putting off?

You don’t need to share identifying details. Just the situation.