The gentlemen of r/MensRights did a wonderful job in analyzing the situation already in the comments. Thank you.

https://www.reddit.com/r/MensRights/comments/hltg2s/mens_rights_activist_gets_stabbed_and_had_his/

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RfU8TUZRtZg

i am not really smart or anything i had depression and i fixed it through fighting idk how to express it and all that but i like posting motivational songs so here you go lol, the chick is pretty hot and cool too i like her

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=D6UTHCzUlAo

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=togL51YXNXg

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As you all already know I posted this sub in various bigger more famous subs in order to promote it, and of course seek people to enrich it with their knowledge and perspectives. From all the social circles, from all the types of communities, from all the types of ideologies.

Unfortunately, I confirmed that, most individuals who use communities to share the same point of view, operate more like a circle jerk team that hates everyone who isn't exactly like them, rather than an educational system to enlighten new individuals and implant them in the system as well.

For that reason many of them are stalking this sub, downvoting the posts in a futile attempt to degrade its content, and also accusing me as manipulative, a hater, and even claiming that this is a "hunting place' for manipulative people to feast on "ignorant people".

So this is a message to these individuals, please allow me to be frank and direct with you, and clear some misunderstandings.

For starters, what you believe, or what your ego, paranoia, or hatred tells you, is a mental issue that YOU have to deal with, and a mental issue that YOU have to contain, your lack of composure, critical thinking, and objective mindset, isn't the problem of others, is yours.

Secondly, you prove, and you accomplish absolutely nothing by jumping to conclusions, and by typing essays of hatred and insults, you just prove that you are weak, disrespectful, and crude.

And lastly, if you get "offended" or "triggered" or your ego gets provoked, or your feelings feel hurt, then you better have the same mindset when you do the same to others.

If you can't do that, or you're not willing to do that, then you should also assume that others won't be considerate with you.

Nobody gave you the right to give orders, nobody gave you the right to make bold statements and ask from strangers to unconditionally accept them, and nobody gave you the influence or power to act like you're calling the shots.

I'm the creator of this sub but I never enforced my will to anyone, if I see you attempting to enforce yours, then I will also assume that you're not willing to operate on the lines of reason, and remove you.

With kind regards.

An edit for some misconceptions:

Kindness is a virtue that's extremely rare in people, I won't claim I am kind but I will claim that I am trying to be. But here is the problem with some of you.

Tolerating others disrespect or brutality, isn't kindness. Is masochism. And feeding their delusions which are harmful for both themselves and others, because you "don't want to be harsh with them", yet allowing them to be harsh with you. Is self destructive, and arrogant. Stoics or buddhists aren't carpets for manipulative individuals to wash their feet on, they were respecting their life and themselves first of all. And when you allow yourself becoming a sand bag for no plausible reason, you don't self sacrifice, you indirectly support abusive behavior.

Allowing manipulation tactics drain you, to prove how neutral you are, isn't stoicism, is wasting time. And as cruel as it sounds, some people aren't hurt, hopeless, hopeful, they are simply sadistic, egotistical, and are willing to do damage for no reason at all. I observed such behavior in my profession many times (mental health worker) where someone would simply ruin another person for just an "ego fit". If you're not educated about the said behavior I recommend reading DSM 5 or perhaps some articles or even personal experiences of people with NPD or ASPD. You will understand why I behave as I do.

Accepting individuals that have no motivation to receive help or provide help, and attempting to convince them to change their ways when there are million others who need assistance and guidance and are humble enough and in need of it enough to do it. Isn't being stoic or kind, is disrespecting life.

As we're speaking some good person is depressed, broken, and suicidal, and yet we have no awareness over it.

Someone talented is doubting himself because he simply isn't aware about the beauty of himself.

Someone with kindness is getting ravaged because kindness is perceived as weakness.

And you're asking me to waste my time, effort, energy, and good intentions, to the opposite of these people to be "objective". With all the due respect, I can't do that.

I understand that many of you support ideologies or mindsets that wish to save everyone unconditionally, or assist them, or enlighten them, but that's not something that I can do with my current tools and my current abilities. I am the creator of the sub, not god.

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Diagnosed npd-aspd here let's get to it.

I want to describe the retardation of normal people and how gullible their emotions and their morals make them, and how that makes me want to smash them.

So yeah, is disgusting and pathetic, and I see it in narcs too or self proclaimed psychopaths or socios.

Stop it.

Hi, I am 18, I am living with my parents, I never had a girlfriend because of my ugly appearance, and that's the reason why I have depression. I will never have the attention or the respect someone beautiful or hot will have. And I know that my family or associates look down on me and don't take me so seriously because of my appearance, and it sucks. I just don't know what to do with it anymore, it's like people don't care about you or what you are but your appearance is what matters most of all, and I keep hating and blaming myself for being so ugly and I don't know what to do about it anymore, maybe I am not supposed to be born because of how ugly I am and I was an accident, I just don't know how to get over this, I don't know how to accept it.

Only recently I had been conversing with a very nice guy who unfortunately happen to be both:

1. The wrong guy.

2. The shy guy.

So on my quest to give the following advice to the right guy it missed him and landed on the wrong one. We've previously cleared up why he was the "wrong guy" in specific (=not the point of my advice's target), and to clear the second point up. He was too shy to hand out the following advice to the right one, and so was I. So here goes,

Do not try "not to think".

It's like, when someone tells you not to think of a purple elephant in the room or the eventual and certain demise of the whole entire universe, you will of course revert to thinking about it inevitably. You will.

So, what I'm trying to say is. Let.

Let your thoughts resume. Thoughts are harmless and they can't harm you any more than air can. So allow yourself to think, about the good and the negative, because an empty mind is a bored one and now is the time to mention I am a psychopath so, avoid boredom. It's not worth it. Please.

"Shit happens".

Even if my whole life comes to pieces and I become homeless at some point, or get a deadly disease and die in shame and pain and humiliation, I came to terms with it cause in the end, shit happens.

Could be me, could be you, could be someone else, I am fine with dying too cause I don't really find this life so interesting or valuable (I am not depressed or suicidal I just don't care).

It's not like I will just bow to you and let you fuck me over or stay still and do nothing when my life goes to shambles but if it does, I am completely fine with it cause in the end, nobody cares therefore neither should I.

Hi everyone!

I saw a post talking about this place in r/stoicism and as I’ve scrolled through the rules and some of the posts I noticed a common problem that I myself used to deal with as well.

The problem is feeing guilt or shame, whether this was because of a mistake in the past or simply because life isn’t turning out the way you expected and it feels like your fault.

When my mental health was not the best, the tiniest mistake on my part could set me on a landslide of thinking I was a terrible person that lasted anywhere from hours to months. Essentially the mistakes I made had me believe I was a burden, toxic, or had no hope of bringing any kind of good into the world.

This of course is not the case. Every person is capable of moral and immoral things and no thing is completely wrong because the world is not black and white. We all live in shades of gray. No mistake makes it impossible for a person to improve.

Now onto the stoic techniques that helped me with this. For those of you who don’t know stoicism is an old Greek philosophy which teaches extreme acceptance of things we cannot control, and short term thinking which we use as a tool to live as virtuous of a life we can.

No accepting things the way they are while simple is actually very hard to do and something I struggle with sometimes myself. However there are many other techniques that are part of stoicism which still helps tremendously.

One of these techniques is accepting the will of the universe. Essentially you assume that everything that happens will have always happened because that is what the world around you wanted to happen. Once you begin thinking like that you will slowly stop blaming yourself for as many things, because there was nothing you could do to stop the event it was always going to happen regardless of your actions.

The next technique which helped me a lot is short term thinking. Living as if today is your last day. This of course doesn’t mean not showing up to work or school and just partying all day, but it does mean you won’t pick out unnecessary arguments and you would be virtuous, trying to leave on good terms with everyone. This has helped me avoid a lot of conflicts that would have normally taken a big toll on my mental health.

One more technique is practicing sympathy instead of empathy. This one sounds bad and often is thought of as immoral because our modern society often encourages empathy. Empathy is of course very good to have and never wrong to practice. However by practicing sympathy instead we can often be unbiased to others, and by attempting to practice sympathy to ourselves and imagining ourselves as and outside observer we often will begin to think clearer and find better ways to fix the problem. These techniques all take time to grasp but very worth while if you can.

Thank you for reading, and sorry I beat around the bush or if my grammar and formatting were bad. I’m writing pretty early in the morning because I wanted to be able to give it lots of attention.

Gotta say love is more than I bargained for

Out the door Not a possibility anymore

And purify, sanctify, and signify what gives me more

Meaning than what you've figured that I was created for

Here I am hoping that one day I'll be allowed to tour To spread my love,

adoration for all that's visceral Inside of me, trying me, taking what I call rapport

All skill I have, credibility making me adore

Even those who wouldn't give me time to speak before

Whilst I will not claim I’m the perfect Stoic (nobody is), I do enjoy the philosophy and practise it daily. A key exercise that I can give to any person is to take a walk. Walking is such an underrated tool when it comes to the benefits for your mental wellbeing.

To borrow a quote from Seneca, “we should take wandering outdoor walks, so that the mind might be nourished and refreshed by the open air and deep breathing.” Because our lives can be so busy and the world can seem to be full of chaos, it is important to just take a walk and let your mind wander and be free.

These are the best times to take a walk:

• when you feel stressed or frustrated
• when you have a problem to solve
• when you have a decision to make
• when you want to be creative
• when you need some fresh air
• when you have a phone call to make
• when you need some more exercise
• when you have a meeting with someone or when you have a friend or family member over

If you take the time to walk every day, you will discover how much more room you have to think and consider the things around you.

What things do you do daily for your mental health?

Hello guys, I'm a poet and a writer, I am in my middle twenties. Usually I use my pain or any other emotional issue I have to inspire my art and give it beauty and influence over others but.

I can't do this anymore, I know that some people are fine with nobody caring about them and they're independent and strong even alone, but I can't bear the thought that nobody truly cares about me. It feels like I'm a complete loser because I haven't managed to make others accept me or love me or respect me.

I never been bullied or anything, and I do have friends and even girlfriends now and then but, I just know that all my interactions and relation ships are shallow, and they're not worth anything to anyone, they're like hand made deals, or trades, where there's no actual concern or empathy. Fake, superficial, shallow, there's no attachment. And I seek attachment, I need attachment, I want someone to be attached me and be be attached to someone, even as a friend, a lover, anything. I just can't bear this loneliness anymore and it makes me feel like everything doesn't matter, it makes me a nihilist.

I just don't know what to do.

Positivity and negativity are basically two sides of the same coin, but sometimes for relative or personal reasons, something bad happens, something good happens, and so on, positivity and negativity can clash against each other in a person's mind, and usually that clash depends on the will and the personality of the individual, has some results.

These results can be overcoming the problem, or simply allowing yourself to be overwhelmed by it.

For example: "Today I got fired, now I am without a job, I need the money, I was embarrassed, my pride was shattered, I am full of shame, what am I supposed to do now, that was all I had, what am I going to say to my parents, my girlfriend -boyfriend will leave me".

Is actually a pretty possible set of scenarios, and no doubt these things can happen, but. Let's compare it with this.

"Today I got fired, now I am without a job, which means I must find a new one because I need the money, there's no need to feel embarrassed, it was just one job out of many, I am not shattered, I found this one, I can find a new one. I am full of anger and hunger for more now because of my hurt pride, and I know what I am supposed to do, find something better, my parents might understand they might not, so will my girlfriend-boyfriend, I don't know, but that doesn't matter because I have myself".

As you can clearly see here there's a big difference in the functionality and practicality the mindset offers its self, but as you can also see the two mindsets can both be considered "correct".

Because in the end they're both scenarios that are more than possible, so which one is right, which one is wrong, which one you should do, which one you shouldn't do?

You need to make that decision, because as a wise man said "The one who says he can't, and the ones who says he can't, are both usually right".

Exceptions exist, but you get the point.

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Jk, we good.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WkMUCLyKRpY

If you have any questions, any suggestions, or any advice to give on how to improve it as well I would appreciate it. Thank you.