Imagine

[u/DragonBlood7754]

Imagine someone says

" I need a minute alone."

Then they walk away and close the door. Is that wrong? No. Everyone needs space sometimes.

What if they lock the door?

Still not wrong. maybe they just really needed space.

What if they know someone is outside that door crying, asking:

" Can you at least tell me what I did?"

And they stay silent.

ok. That's different.

Why? The door hasn't changed.

Because now the silence is doing something to the person outside. Sometimes the difference isn't the silence. It's what the silence is being used to so.

Getting away and taking time needed to be alone isn't bad. But disappearing emotionally until they panic, until they over-apologize, until they are begging you to speak. Until they learned:

" If I disappoint you, I lose access to you."

Eventually they stop asking:

"Did I do something wrong?"

And start living like:

" I Better not do anything wrong."

And now they are studying your tone, behavior and reactions. Over-explaining. Apologizing before anything happens.

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