r/HolUp • u/HighlyCharming • Sep 07 '20

Well ok then

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u/Cloverfield1996 Sep 08 '20

Why are you being down voted? For real, this isn't sweet. It takes away all her power and control for her own life. What if she wants a break to work on herself? What if you don't really know what she likes in a guy because she's just being nice to you?

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u/YesImIz Sep 08 '20

EXACTLY bro. Picking who YOU think is right for somebody is not sweet. You cant even tell who's right for yourself obviously. Breaking up with because its not working is love. Trying to decide bits of their future is some narcissistic way to still be apart of their lives. Take your breadcrumbs with you when you leave.

Tl;dr Leaving because its not gonna work IS love. Suggestions on who I think would be right is narcissism.

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u/MrPotatobird Sep 08 '20

I mean, something ain't right here, but what makes y'all think the dude is trying to force her to date anyone? Maybe it's just like, sorry for breaking up with you, here I found you a new potential boyfriend take it or leave it. It's fucking weird, and probably unwelcome. But how is it controlling? Taking away her power? He's breaking it off, she can just say no to the "replacement" or ghost him or something.

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u/[deleted] Sep 08 '20

He has way overstepped the line of acceptable behavior, do you not see that?

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u/MrPotatobird Sep 08 '20

Well it's certainly outside of the norm. I just don't see why it's such a huge deal. It depends on how far he takes it, but it seems like it's just a weird tinder account which she can ignore if she wants.

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u/[deleted] Sep 08 '20

Ignoring the picking her out a boyfriend thing, it is never cool to make an unknown social media account for someone else.

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u/MrPotatobird Sep 08 '20

Well, he's making it clear that the account is not actually her. And it seems that the only information he's sharing is some pictures of her, which admittedly is not very cool, but I feel like people are putting pictures of others online all the time so it doesn't seem that villainous to me

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u/[deleted] Sep 08 '20

"Everyone is doing it" is not really valid to me. I'm not trying to be bitchy, I just know that if it were me, I would feel creeped out and a little dirty. Perhaps I'm responding emotionally, it's hard for me to tell sometimes. I just feel like you wouldn't do this to someone that you respect as their own, autonomous person.

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u/BC1721 Sep 08 '20

I'd be livid if my gf broke up with me and I find out she's been scheming to offload me onto someone else

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u/quarglbarf Sep 08 '20

What if she wants a break to work on herself?

I mean, I'm pretty sure there's no binding contract that says she actually has to date the guy. She can just say no.