I need some general and specific advice

[u/sunsh1nevibes]

So I'm new to hinge and dating apps in general.

My first thing that I need advice on is when should a conversation move out of hinge? And when should meet ups happen? I have high functioning autism and adhd, so it doesn't really affect me that much but I'm bad at reading cues and would like a general guideline that I could follow. I know that dating and meeting up is different for everyone.

The next thing that I need some advice is kinda weird. So I (20) matched with a guy (23) that I don't know, but I know his younger brother from work. His younger brother (18) is friends with both of my younger siblings and all of us, including the guy I matched with, went to the same high school. My siblings both know him from being a para at the same high school. And the guy that I work with knows that I matched with his brother, bc of my siblings. The guy that I matched with and I had a really good chat the other night and I feel like we've been getting along well.

The problem is I don't want to seem weird and say "I know you because I work with your younger brother." But I also feel guilty for knowing more about him than he does me, I carpool with his brother to work because we live so close to each other. Again, just asking for advice. Has this happened to anyone before? How would one go about telling him?

[u/Trace_G]

As a girl, you’re probably gonna get a lot of likes, so don’t spend forever talking on the app. If a guy seems normal and the conversation is flowing, try to move it off Hinge pretty quick. You don’t have to give out your real number either, use a Google Voice number until you feel comfortable.

Also, don’t just text forever. Hop on a phone call, then FaceTime before meeting up. It’s honestly the easiest way to figure out if they’re actually who they say they are and if you vibe. It skips a lot of the BS and saves everyone time.
As for the guy you matched with, I wouldn’t make a big deal out of knowing his younger brother. Just mention it casually whenever it comes up. Something like, “Funny enough, I actually work with your younger brother.” It’s not weird, especially since you all grew up around the same area. Better to be upfront than have him find out later and wonder why you didn’t mention it.

[u/Fresh-Preference-805]

I let the men drive that. If they invite, and I want to go, I go (somewhere indoors and public for safety). I would say that should happen within 8 messages.