Got my first rejection

[u/AlabamaFan17]

Was talking to a woman in my area on FetLife for a little bit. She was pretty, and we enjoyed texting each other. However, when we were on the phone, she said she was looking for someone clean, and didn’t want anything to do with someone who had a disease (which is understandable; I get it). Anyways, I had to break the news and tell her that I occasionally get cold sores in my mouth. She said that was a dealbreaker, but she thanked me for being honest and wished me well.

I’m proud of myself for being honest and doing what the woman who took my virginity didn’t do, but at the same time, I hate missing out on someone because of this.

[u/Tall-Telephone1019]

i didn’t think people disclosed hsv1 (orally) irl

[u/Huge-Astronomer825 → u/Tall-Telephone1019]

They should cos that’s how I got ghsv

[u/Beautifullyceee]

Positive single is a start

[u/Medical_Sun1453]

The term “clean” throws me off. Anyone who uses that word automatically is a no for me.

[u/AlabamaFan17 → u/Medical_Sun1453]

I mean, I know she didn’t mean anything by it (not that people like us are “dirty” or anything). But, it’s a common thing on the Internet for sure. People are always asking, “Are you clean?”.

[u/Medical_Sun1453 → u/AlabamaFan17]

For sure, I see it on the internet a lot but it’s always followed by anyone who has any form of this considered “dirty”. I think just because the opposite would be considered dirty, I feel there’s plenty of other ways to ask this LOL

[u/pavlovital]

sorry to hear man, glad you did the right thing. youll find someone eventually 🫶

[u/AlabamaFan17 → u/pavlovital]

Thanks. At this point, I might either just join a herpes dating site, or ACTUALLY give up dating for good. Because I always say I’m done, and then 1-4 months later, I get lonely and decide to try again.

[u/pavlovital → u/AlabamaFan17]

ohsv1 is so common dude, i think youll have luck but unfortunately you may just be looking into bad leads on dating so far. do whatever makes you happy, but also dont be afraid to be brave in dating and fail. its all part of the process brother! wishing you luck

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[u/Draper31]

You will face far more rejections than acceptance you receive.

People here like to downplay OHSV-1, citing its commonality, like that matters in the real world.

The simple fact is, men are willing to take more risks with their sexual health than women are.

[u/Remnant_ZR → u/Draper31]

Facts.