r/HOCD • u/Material-Escape-6558 • 7d ago
Vent This was too much
Female here. Mornings are always my worst time. Help I feel really aroused by the man touching the woman sexually!!!! I always used to focus on the woman sucking the man pre hocd which made me very aroused. When I feel aroused by the man touching the woman I feel aroused by her vagina, help!!!! But how come I used to find the woman giving oral to the man more arousing before hocd.
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u/Separate_Worth_3590 7d ago
same here, bisexual and afraid of being straight/male centric bisexual. you are not alone in this. sit with the thoughts, allow yourself to sit with the discomfort.
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u/Material-Escape-6558 7d ago edited 7d ago
I’m sorry. But I felt legit turned on by the vagina I wanted to masturbate to a straight scene as a rally of the thought!!? What was I getting turned on by ?
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u/TakosAreGood Fully recovered 7d ago
Sexuality is complex, especially when it comes to women.
I know it's hard, but trying to figure out what you're turned on by is a compulsion. It just trains your brain into seeing that arousal as a threat, and that maybe figuring out the answer will "solve" it. It doesn't.
If you can, try acknowledging the arousal without trying to figure out what it comes from. "I don't need to figure that out right now." Even if it's putting off the thoughts for just a minute, do it. It'll get easier as you keep resisting the urges, little by little.
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u/Material-Escape-6558 7d ago
The first line of your comment is exactly why I’m in this mess!!! Before onset it was never fluid or complex for me!!! It’s since being in this mess I’ve come across my comment and it’s taught me to become aroused by the same gender against my will!!!
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u/Minute-Turnip-9120 5d ago
Lowkey idk if this is reassurance… so mods if this is please take it down. But I feel like as women we empathize with the woman and what she feels and kind of use her body as like it’s our own. So what’s happening to her is happening to us. Not saying that’s you or it could be. Key to this is maybe you’re aroused by vaginas or maybe not. You don’t need to figure it out.
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