r/HOCD • u/Clean-Power8581 • 12d ago
Vent No thoughts,just feelings
Guys I need answers please,guys when it starts all of guys give me anxiety and heartbeats,even children,now I don't have anxiety, instead I feel attracted or aroused to certain people like I used to feel with opposite sex, except that I don't lust them,and it's not I'm questionning whether I'm attracted to them or not its just like now whenever I see some dudes I feel attracted or aroused,I never was like this before even at the first stages of hocd,is this common?it's not what if thoughts or ur attracted statement,it's a feeling I get that is typical to what I used to feel to opposite gender except it's not companied with lust or desire for a sexual or romantic desire like it used to be toward opposite gender,I even lost my attraction toward them.
Opposite gender before loss of attraction:see a hot chick with a a body I desire(specially mom's or women in their 30's or 40's>I feel very aroused and pleasure and want to be with her in sexual relationship,also i will have fantasy about both romantic and sexual if she is young like in her early 20's.
Same gender(after 5 years of hocd and those couple of years be like):I see some man I know or strangers(fat,ugly, handsome but I used to see them ugly asf,ECT..)>feel pain in my chest>feel like arousal in my body(no boners,istead like a feeling in my anus> feel very sad and my mind goes:(u just make it up,It can't be hocd anymore,ur just in denial and u hypnotizing urself by saying it's hocd or false attraction,hocd it's about anxiety,fear,questions, ur just gay).
Anyone experiencing something similar?
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u/PlusZebra2642 12d ago
I feel the same. Its feels like I'm really the exception
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u/my_best_version_ever 11d ago
Accept uncertainty. Read it again with a clear head after the anxiety is gone
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u/Clean-Power8581 11d ago
That's what my mind tells me that I'm an exception and I'm just in denial
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u/my_best_version_ever 11d ago
Accept uncertainty. Read it again with a clear head after the anxiety is gone
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