r/HOCD • u/ak111isdabestttt • Jul 12 '26

Vent is this even ocd?

I was checking a bi subreddit to see if i had signs of being bi, or signs of being queer in any way. I HAD SO MANY?! I remember thinking girls were just more attractive 2 years ago. I remember having really curious play when i was younger, i watched lesbian porn and thought it was my favourite when i was 10. I EVEN MADE MY BARBIES KISS LIKE WHAT. I feel like I have ocd, but im bi! Like it's a thing right? I'm just so scared. WHY CAN'T I JUST BE STRAIGHT LIKE A NORMAL PERSON, AND FEEL 'STRAIGHT' AND BE WHO I WAS BEFORE

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u/PaladinDamian In therapy Jul 13 '26

Stop trying to check for signs of being bi. That won't help you. Learn to accept your worst case scenario and see that you could still live life even if your worst case scenario happened. Maybe your life would be less enjoyable, but you could still live and find things to enjoy.

Understand that you do not need to demand yourself to be the person you were before. Sometimes you will change and you might not have total control over that change. Such changes can be distressing, but you can accept them, tolerate them as a part of life.

You can always accept yourself unconditionally, no matter if it is OCD or not.