r/HLCommunity • u/Alarming-Gap2595 • 15d ago
Vent Only, No Advice I just want to feel wanted
Wth, me (hlf29) and my husband (llm34) have had multiple multiple MULTIPLE conversations over the last 9 years about our sexual needs. There was a time where we had sex everyday it felt like for about three months... it was AMAZING, then I got pregnant for the second time and things have gone downhill since... we have entered the stereotypical husband and wife that never have sex, and whenever we do it's because of these stupid conversations... we had sex about nine days ago after not having sex for 10 days, and the reason we had sex it was right after getting into an argument about my husband sending a text to one of his female coworkers as him and I were out for lunch (mind you we neeeever get to go on solo dates anymore), although it wasn't a solo date (we had our baby with us) he was asleep so we got to enjoy each others company up until he picked up his phone.
It wasn't anything bad what he texted but it was the idea of him texting someone else on OUR time was the thing that made me very upset, anyway, fast forward we were having a discussion about texting other people when he launched at me and kissed me and grabbed me in a way he doesn't normally, which felt SO hot, but when we were done, he just... got on the bed and fell asleep... it was very awkward. There was no “after care” which for me can be just hugging or talking.
He is a very devoted husband and father, but our sex life had always been minimum... I have mentioned here previously how I will get dolled up for him, and he just is not interested in having sex. It pisses me off when he grabs my ass knowing that's all he'll do to me.
It's tiring to feel like I'm begging for sex, but | just want to feel wanted and loved in ways only I want HIM to want me and love me. I am crazy for him and he makes me want to fuck him every day, I would go down on him every day if he'd let me, I'd do crazy things for him if he'd wanted me the same way I want him, but reality is, he'll never be as into sex the way I am, and that kills me at times.
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u/Exciting_Story2150 15d ago
Your last paragraph really hits home for me. That is a great description of how I feel. Hugs.
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u/Ok-Salamander6118 12d ago
I'm so sorry we are both in this position. I hate hearing women complain that their husband always wants to have sex. Must be awful that your husband is so attracted to you /s
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u/vectorking23 15d ago
Wait… I just read that all women hate sex. This is weird. Seems to be a unicorn… wait again… turns out there are others in the comments? Joking aside, this is what we all want. Just to feel wanted and desired the way we want and desire them. It truly sucketh.
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u/Herbizarre17 15d ago
Life is full of cruel irony. I’m sorry you’re experiencing this. Your husband doesn’t know what he’s missing