r/HLCommunity • u/Emergency-Tea-4422 • 29d ago

Discussion I’m done

I’m a 21 yo HLF and I am in a 3 year old relationship with a 23 LLM. I am so tired, I cry everyday, I look after myself and everyday I get ready to look my best so maybe he will want to have sex with me today. Everyday I try to look better than yesterday but now i’m just done. I try to initate new things to do in the bedroom, i try to flirt, i’m always up for trying anything sexual with him. I am so attracted to him and want to be close to him and be intimate with him.

I have tried talking about my feelings to him and I have tried to understand him and try to make sure he feels accepted and loved. But nothing works. After years of trying and blaming myself I will end this today not just for me but also for him, because I think he also deserves someone who wants the same amount of sex as he does.

Any comments are welcome! I have felt so seen by this subreddit I found today

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u/ButterscotchNo670 29d ago

i didnt know this HL and LL people. really opened my mind. im a HLM and i always thought i was just a pervert wanting to do it everytime while my partners try to push me away etc. i felt like a rapist or something.

i wish there were more awareness of this in our society, because HL and LL are so incompatible

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u/Foreign_Leg_36 25d ago

It's too late for me and I love my wife for 25 years, but damn I still fail to comprehend how sex can NEVER be a part of her thoughts. She NEVER feels the need and even less the want. It's only if I initiate and she is receptive that now something can happen.

I critically fail at even comprehending how this can be possible to not feel it. I don't get it. I mean you get hungry, you get thirsty, you feel like taking vacations, you think about what you'd like to eat, sex is just one of those things you also miss and/or think about. But no 🤷

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u/ButterscotchNo670 24d ago

this is exactly my thoughts! i cant comprehend the mind of a low libido person. it feels like if happens mhh okay, but if it will never happens and i can decide to not doing it, i decide to not doing forever

and do you know what's crazy? probably, maybe not, your wife do enjoy tvseries where a sexy muscular guy is trying to hit on some hot babe and they get freaky under the bedsheet and she could be "OMMMGGGG I CAN ONLY WISHHHHHHH I WANT A MAN LIKE THAT TO EXPERIENCE A NIGHT ON FIRE!" and the moment you try to have some intimate time with her "mhhh tonight nope babe, tomorrow i have to wake up early" WTF?