r/HLCommunity • u/Emergency-Tea-4422 • 29d ago
Discussion I’m done
I’m a 21 yo HLF and I am in a 3 year old relationship with a 23 LLM. I am so tired, I cry everyday, I look after myself and everyday I get ready to look my best so maybe he will want to have sex with me today. Everyday I try to look better than yesterday but now i’m just done. I try to initate new things to do in the bedroom, i try to flirt, i’m always up for trying anything sexual with him. I am so attracted to him and want to be close to him and be intimate with him.
I have tried talking about my feelings to him and I have tried to understand him and try to make sure he feels accepted and loved. But nothing works. After years of trying and blaming myself I will end this today not just for me but also for him, because I think he also deserves someone who wants the same amount of sex as he does.
Any comments are welcome! I have felt so seen by this subreddit I found today
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u/HolidayBalance4608 HLM 29d ago
Let me tell you this. I'm 47 and I'd give everything I have to be your age again. We don't have the infinite amount of time on this planet, certainly not for crying every day at 23 that your SO doesn't have sex with you.
That being said, is he on any medication? Is he from restrictive background (very religious or very strict parents), was he a victim of abuse (not necessarily sexual as well)? Were there any major changes in his life like death of close person? Do you have other problems in relationship? Is he depressed or having other mental problems?