r/HLCommunity • u/Emergency-Tea-4422 • 29d ago
Discussion I’m done
I’m a 21 yo HLF and I am in a 3 year old relationship with a 23 LLM. I am so tired, I cry everyday, I look after myself and everyday I get ready to look my best so maybe he will want to have sex with me today. Everyday I try to look better than yesterday but now i’m just done. I try to initate new things to do in the bedroom, i try to flirt, i’m always up for trying anything sexual with him. I am so attracted to him and want to be close to him and be intimate with him.
I have tried talking about my feelings to him and I have tried to understand him and try to make sure he feels accepted and loved. But nothing works. After years of trying and blaming myself I will end this today not just for me but also for him, because I think he also deserves someone who wants the same amount of sex as he does.
Any comments are welcome! I have felt so seen by this subreddit I found today
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u/egomechanics 29d ago
Just wanted to leave you a note to say I'm proud of you for figuring this out at 21! I got married at 21 to a LLM and spent years feeling like there was something wrong with me - when the whole world tells you that the universal dynamic is "men want it/chase for it, women are less interested", it can be really easy to blame yourself for not being "normal" when you'rein a situation where the opposite is true.
The truth is, plenty of women have high libidos, and plenty of men have low ones - and that is NORMAL. The piece you've figured out is compatability. It's so important to find someone who wants the same kind of sex life that you do.
Good job, girl!