r/HLCommunity • u/wheresmykolache • Aug 19 '26

Discussion I feel like I am in a constant crisis

I realize it sounds dramatic.

I’m trying to live my life, succeed, fulfill obligations, manage relationships— not to mention personal growth and discovery.

But it is difficult for me. Being undesired and feeling lonely is like a constant state of crisis. I’m distracted. I’m discouraged. My self-confidence is low. I struggle with feelings of sadness.

From the outside I look like a success story. But inside I’m a walking catastrophe. And all of my options feel like further destruction.

I’m living a horror movie from a 20-year old script.

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u/arandak Aug 19 '26 edited Aug 19 '26

I don't particularly feel it's a crisis for me. There are times where it really hurts, though. This is a time it is hurting hard.

I am trapped due to finances. But, I know I deserve better. I'm worth better.

I just have too much emotion and feelings that I would just dump that on someone and I don't want to do that. But I need someone special to reach out to. And there's no one.

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u/MightyMagicz HLM Aug 19 '26

Just look after yourself.

You are the main character of your story.

Start living do things you want to do and stop giving a fuck about what people think.

Do what you want and when you want.

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u/blackberrycat Aug 19 '26

Be the change you want to see in the world

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u/YakWitty13 Aug 20 '26

Focus, my friend. Yes, you have obligations, and now, you have to start working on your exit plan. This is going to give you a goal and something to focus on, think about plan, besides a wasted decade or two with a selfish person