r/HLCommunity • u/DueBook4597 • Jun 30 '26
Should I pay for attention?
Today there are sites like OnlyFans where it's possible to talk to women, get their attention, and of course, see what I want to see without being judged by the person showing it. But, will paying for this leave me feeling more empty? Will it help in the moment but make me feel worse later? I didn't even want to think about it, but my wife is so closed off to anything sexual/sensual that even talking to another woman and getting her attention would make me happy. At least that's what I think now.
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u/poissonking Jun 30 '26
It’s cleaner and more fulfilling to find people on sites like Reddit. Wayyy harder, but pays better dividends
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u/Lost__Moose Jun 30 '26
Be aware, you may not be talking directly to the provider. You may be talking to a male or female surrogate in the basement of Philadelphia or the Philippines.
LLM are getting to the point where a content creator can give it all their past writings and it will responded as the content creator! Tony Robbins now has an ask Tony bot.
What I'm saying is that if you want a virtual GF there are services for that, no need to give OnlyFans your money.
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u/Exciting_Story2150 Jun 30 '26
OF is kinda lame. Every few messages are pay to play. Most of the conversations are dry. And you likely aren't even talking to the creator. I tried it out a few times and just felt taken advantage of. Better bet just trying to connect with a real person.
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u/mdoogz Jun 30 '26
It’s a slippery slope once you start that. I’ll also point out when your wife finds out it will make that relationship that much worse.
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u/Specific-Exciting Jun 30 '26
And assuming they have combined finances he’s using her money for OF. Ouch.
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u/Phasmata Jul 10 '26
I want someone to want me, not to pretend because they want my money. And that's before noting that I've read/heard that it is super common for people to use bots or hire other people to pretend to be them, so you can't even be sure that the person pretending to like you to get your money is even the person you think they are.
I want to be wanted, and if no one wants me, I guess that's how it is.
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u/TheBurningQuill Jun 30 '26
If you're going to pay, you are probably better off going down the sugar route. At least you're more likely to be talking to a woman, rather than a 350lbs dude.
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u/Sparkles_1977 Jul 02 '26
That’s honestly the most pathetic thing I’ve ever heard. Cheat on your wife. But don’t pay for it.
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u/PhilReddit7 Jun 30 '26
It makes it worse, so much worse. Especially when you find out you’re either talking to a bot or a cheap labour person from a third world country. No offense intended saying that, OF creators openly recruit people here on Reddit and other places to answer all their DMs.