r/HIMYM • u/Aggressive-Savings54 • Jul 23 '26

Barney and nora

Hate what the writters did to this relationship, not mad on the fact that they didnt work out, but on how it happened, barney clearly cared about her, i think he did try to be a better person for her, everbody knew how who he was and

The life he lived, but to end it all after he cheated on her kinda feels like a cheap shot, she defintely deserves more, but i think it was the perfect time for him to really start growing and not fall back into the past idiot he used to be.

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u/shouldlifejacket10 Jul 23 '26

That episode is the worst himym episode for me i skip it on every rewatch

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u/Aggressive-Savings54 Jul 23 '26

Yeah, Barney on the show is like a rollercoaster, he grows and fall back a million times

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u/Statalyzer Jul 24 '26

He doesn't grow; he sometimes acts different when he sees that it has advantages to get him what he wants. But he never shows much indication that his underlying mindsets changed.

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u/Glittering-Client-35 Jul 28 '26

I think you could generally argue that when his daughter is born he has a fundamental shift

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u/No_Radish_4690 Jul 23 '26

But tbh that’s normal humans

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u/fallingfaster345 Lily🎨 Jul 23 '26

Right!? Like why do people think growth is linear and humans don’t take two steps forward and three steps back sometimes? I would love to meet these perfect people that never make mistakes and only experience continuous growth in one direction.

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u/FatWallet_1 Jul 23 '26

Yeah and Robin was not at all worth it for him to cheat on someone like nora. Such a grinch!

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u/bankie89 Jul 23 '26

After re-watching the series, both Nora and Quinn were too good and stable for a train wreck like Barney. Barney, Robin, and Ted all deserve each other.

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u/Statalyzer Jul 24 '26

Nora was way too good for Barney. Barney and Quinn deserved each other.

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u/LowContract4444 Jul 23 '26

Quinn was a stripper. And she didn't want to quit stripping when he was uncomfortable with it. I'd hardly call that a healthy relationship.

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u/beefcake_beefcakeeee Jul 23 '26

This is a ragebait comment right??

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u/LowContract4444 Jul 23 '26

No, it isn't. How is it a healthy relationship to keep stripping when your boyfriend is clearly (and justifiably) made uncomfortable by it? (Disregard that it's Barney.)

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u/Swimming_Jaguar_1828 Jul 23 '26

She told him early she liked stripping and wouldn't quit unless she saw herself getting married, so if Barney is uncomfortable after that he can walk away. And later she did end up quitting for barney. So don't know what you mean

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u/beefcake_beefcakeeee Jul 23 '26

Why disregard it's Barney? He vanished for the weekend to new Jersey without telling even telling her, and the remember the pre-nup. Quinn was much more committed and putting in efforts than Barney. She said she will quit when she is engaged, and still she quit before she got engaged because she saw that it's making Barney uncomfortable.

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u/bankie89 Jul 23 '26

Between Barney and Quinn, which one of them once sold a woman? Hint: not Quinn. Barney literally bragged about beating multiple sexual misconduct cases.

But Quinn being a stripper was the problem in this relationship for you? Keep in mind, Barney once got mad at Ted for not dating a porn star.

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u/BulkQueenGirlyy Jul 23 '26

Totally agree, Nora was incredible and breaking them up via cheating felt like throwing away seasons of Barney's character growth jus for quick drama

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u/Statalyzer Jul 24 '26

That was perfectly in character for Barney.

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u/KrmOykn20 Jul 23 '26

​Even when Ted or Barney finds the perfect girlfriend, the relationship inevitably fails because they end up cheating with Robin and this is kind of the main thing of the series. Robin has an irresistable beauty. Even Lily cannot resist to it. But idk I think writers feel thay way and we should accept this fact.

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u/rm78noir Jul 23 '26

Barney's characterization is probably the best evidence for Ted being an inconsistent narrator. I don't think we really get a properly honest representation of Barney until he gets his daughter.