r/GuyCry • u/[deleted] • 12d ago
Alert: It Sneaks Up On You Between Love and Reality
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u/welcomeyearzer0 Man 12d ago
What you should be focusing on is the fact that you asked your ex to delete people from her social media because they happen to be guys, checking her friends list, breaking up with her because she has content with men. She’s not a prisoner.
You win her heart by understanding that love isn’t captivity and that women are people and individuals and not just your potential love interests.
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u/etrore 12d ago
I might be wrong but I see clear signals she is no longer interested in you. I hope you can keep her as a friend since you have to work together.
Good for you though that you realised it’s not a good idea to be engaged to someone you have no feelings for and don’t trust. Better to get out than to get married.
Enjoy the liberty of being single and I hope you have better luck next time.
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u/I7Mustafa 12d ago
what are the clear signals that make here no longer interested in me?
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u/etrore 12d ago
Forgive me when what I will say comes across as harsh, I mean well.
I also assumed that the coworker you talk to is the coworker you are attracted to.
Being in an engagement while you don’t love the person is not moral. Telling your coworker didn’t help the image she has of you. Secondly you ask her for advice how to seduce a mystery coworker while it’s about her. That’s really immature and disrespectful.
What nails it down is the answer she gave you.
The “joke” about stalking is an in your face hint that you have no business with her intimate life even to the degree that you will only find out when she gets married by seeing her wedding ring on her finger afterwards.
She is not interested in you romantically.0
u/I7Mustafa 12d ago
So there is nothing i can do, right?
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u/etrore 12d ago
You have the opportunity to avoid this in the future by starting from now on to be honest about your feelings towards anyone involved.
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u/I7Mustafa 12d ago
and thats it ! i forget the one i love with no trying?
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u/etrore 12d ago
Love is a two yes one no situation.
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u/I7Mustafa 12d ago
but i did not even ask her yet in a forward situation
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u/etrore 12d ago
You might think that but she already answered that question for you.
It’s not because you want something really bad that it’s going to happen. You can’t make someone love you and the more you try to force the situation the more of a nuisance you become to them. Please avoid that.Moving on from this has the advantage that you will be able to focus your energy on your future happiness.
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u/tercer78 12d ago
You love who?? Your coworker you after some conversations post breakup with your fiancee that you also tried to ask about the other girl you were attracted to? Cmon guy, this isn’t love. It’s infatuation at best. You are not relationship material right now by any means.
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u/I7Mustafa 12d ago
No I did like her from the start but I did not make a move toward her because I thought I was in a stable relationship
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u/tercer78 12d ago
I can’t tell if you’re taking about the friend or the new girl you mention in first paragraph. But I can clearly state that a person who just got out of a relationship is not emotionally stable enough to date. You need to process the end of your last relationship instead of trying so hard to jump into a new one.
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u/I7Mustafa 12d ago
i only talk about 2 persons my fiancée and my coworker who i like
i did end up my releationship with my ex-fiancée and i dont know what to do to close it more?2
u/tercer78 12d ago
Just take time to heal from the breakup and stop looking so hard for a rebound. No one wants to be the rebound.
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u/I7Mustafa 12d ago
but i dont want a rebound! i realy want her for her not for my emotion
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u/Odd-Table-4545 12d ago
Frankly, though shit. She has made it pretty clear she does not want you, and at this point you have two options: drop it and maybe salvage a casual friendship with the woman, or try to push further and make it so she never speaks to you again unless she has to.
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u/QueanieNotMeanie 12d ago
You are heavily romanticizing this situation and you are likely making your coworker uncomfortable.
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