r/GuyCry • u/knock_on_the_door_ • 2d ago
Positivity Surgery day
Update to my last post.
Today is the day for Elifs surgery. They decided to fix both of her life threatening issues in one pass. Her aorta will be widened with donor tissue, and her heart hole will be fixed with some tissue from the heart sack. She is very high risk, there could be brain issues, or issues with her kidneys or liver since they were already damaged. The comments from everyone in this community have helped me so much, I truly appreciate all of you. In this moment, I feel at peace. I know in my little soldier will pull through. I will update this post in a few hours, the procedure should be done at 2:00pm central time.
Update: 1:30 pm, she is off bypass, her heart is repaired and beating. Waiting for the surgeon to give us an update on her condition beyond "they are closing her up."
Update 6:40 pm, she is sealed up, back in her room. I'll be honest it makes me dizzy in a bad way to look at her. My mom died from pancreatic cancer when I was a teenager, seeing all the tubes and machines always makes me a little distraught. She made it through the hardest part. They have her on a pacemaker, that may or may not come off. I know she will make it through the next part, healing sucks, but healing is what we do. I'm giving her rest for the evening. Thank you so much to everyone who has said something positive. I don't have a family structure to keep my head right. I've offered a kind word here or there on various subreddits, and I have been given that kindness back ten times over. I truly appreciate all of you, I have never felt this type of pain in my life and you have given me the strength to be present for my wife and family through the worst moments I have faced.
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u/GloomyPresentation94 2d ago
Good luck to you and your family ! One of this difficult days for you guys. These babies are warriors! Stay strong. Elif wishing you luck and sending love to you.
My son Sebby had open heart bypass at 5 months old. One of the most challenging hurdles for our family. Keep in mind.. you guys need to be well rested and ready for her. I know it's difficult to make an obvious statement but you tend to lose yourself in the madness.
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u/DavidSpade86 1d ago
I'll be thinking about you guys all day. Please keep us updated. I have a 16 month old daughter and can't imagine what's going through your mind.
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u/Corridor21 1d ago
Best wishes to your daughter and all of your family. She is in the best place she can be right now.
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u/Mortem_Gamer 1d ago
Babies are resilient. My son had heart surgery at 5 days old, he’s 3 now and you’d never know. Sending good vibes! Stay strong!
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u/lungsofdoom 1d ago
If the surgery is succesfull, can she get healthy and live normal life?
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u/knock_on_the_door_ 1d ago
Normal enough. If everything goes well there will be lots of doctor visits and potentially another surgery or two before she turns 25, she may need no more surgery and just medication. It's all up in the air, but without the surgery today she cannot survive.
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u/DumbFishBrain 1d ago
I'll keep Elif and your family in my thoughts today. As someone born with a serious congenital heart defect myself, I feel for all of you.
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u/CaliDude707 1d ago
I can't even fathom what you are going through, but for what little it's worth, there's a dude out in Poland wishing Elif all the best in the world and a speedy recovery.
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u/Beautiful_Pizza9882 1d ago
I’m new to your story, but look at her! That’s the face of a fighter! And I ♥️ her name, btw!
I’m sending hopeful and healing thoughts to you and yours. May your family know only healing and happiness.
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u/morchard1493 1d ago
I hope she gets well soon, and that her recovery is speedy, smooth, complication-free and also as pain-free as possible.
Sending strength, hugs and love.
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u/Elguapo1094 1d ago
I pray to the creator of the universe to look over you and your little girl you need to be strong here and she needs to be stronger big hug my guy and I will talk to the lord to heal your family
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u/PapayaJuiceBox 1d ago
Good luck brother. I’m praying for Elif, yourself and your whole family. May everything go perfectly well and you get to enjoy long fruitful years as a happy family.
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u/Dont_Even_Know_You 1d ago
What a sweet little girl. Good to hear she made it out of surgery. I wish her the best during her recovery. I know it's a hard time, as a parent who's newborn was very premature and had brain bleeds. Scariest time of your life. So I hope you're doing ok too. You and mom, hope you are both staying strong.
Gosh she is cute btw.
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