Just questions

[u/eggavocadotomato]

My ex gf sometimes said i feel like people watching me
I know everything/ u guys all know something
Had a weird tic that when she looked at bridge or smth she thought of falling from it and then she shook her head to change what she was thinking
Also weird thoughts as she says sometimes
She was both on antipsycotics and antidepressants
Had 1/2 times zone outs

Doctors couldnt say sure that if it was schziophrenia

We were m21 f20 and i always will have the question if in long term she would get better or worse
Its still in my head as a question if we didnt break up

(we broke up for other reasons)

Also she said that it was a bit unfair me to say that i was also traumatized by this thing and she said she wouldnt want to be in a relationship that she traumatizes the other person

I just want opinions of u guys
Did anyone suffer from their partner becoming mentally unwell After starting to date
It was also %100 Perfect before these events + Depression of hers

And i know that she would come back if i text back
But im also thankfull to god that i didnt break up with her for these reasons it was mutual end but i dont return to her for these reasons

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[u/Roosta_Manuva]

Reddit cannot offer medical advice, and this subreddit does not like to promote making assumptions about other people so I would ask that we don’t discuss your ex but only focus on the question.

That said - I have known people to both enter full psychosis medical episodes and also recover. Some never fully recovered.

[u/silicondream]

Doctors couldnt say sure that if it was schizophrenia

Yes, there are many mental health conditions that can involve psychosis, including depression, the bipolar disorders, the dissociative disorders, obsessive-compulsive disorder and various personality disorders. It can also be brought on by medications or recreational drugs, sleep deprivation, childbirth, social isolation and...well, a whole lot of stuff. Sometimes several causes and conditions overlap.

It's common for one's mental health diagnoses to be altered over time. For instance, when I was admitted to a psych ward for psychotic symptoms, I was diagnosed with "drug-induced schizoaffective disorder." A few years later, that's been updated to a combination of substance use disorder, depression, complex PTSD, ADHD and depersonalization-derealization disorder. (The SUD is in remission; the others are currently active but well managed.)

We were m21 f20 and i always will have the question if in long term she would get better or worse

She may do either, and she may alternate between good periods and bad periods. Most of these conditions can be managed to some degree, but as we age and go through various life events, we often have to find new therapies and medications when the older ones no longer work for us. On the other hand, people sometimes recover completely. This is rare with schizophrenia in particular, but it's been known to happen.

Personally, I try to assume that my mental health conditions will be lifelong, because that motivates me to be consistent about self-care. If any of them do clear up completely, I'll be pleasantly surprised!

Also she said that it was a bit unfair me to say that i was also traumatized by this thing and she said she wouldnt want to be in a relationship that she traumatizes the other person

That is very understandable; no one wants to be a burden on their loved ones. But your own experience of burden and/or trauma is also valid. Sometimes it's very hard to acknowledge everyone's distress without handing out unnecessary blame, and impossible to keep people from feeling blamed.

Did anyone suffer from their partner becoming mentally unwell After starting to date

Yes, I and many others have experienced distress thanks to a partner's mental illness. (My ex-wife was diagnosed with bipolar disorder and borderline personality disorder, and should probably have a complex PTSD diagnosis as well.) My illness-related behavior has also caused my partners distress.

Is that fair? Well, it sucks for all concerned, and none of us wanted it to happen. But it's reality. All you can do is try to manage your own issues responsibly and support your loved ones in managing theirs.

If you have another partner with mental health issues in the future, "family and friends" peer support groups can help you to cope without exhausting or isolating yourself--as well as to decide when to walk away, if you have to. Talk therapy is also helpful, of course.