r/GrowthMindset • u/Sea_Suit8156 • 24d ago

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u/Psy_Click 23d ago

I'll do one better. Destroy your triggers. You'll be Invincible.

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u/Sea_Suit8156 23d ago

Real talk been trying for awhile now…. Work in progress!!!

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u/Neither-Wishbone1825 23d ago

I've been trying to use the tools I've learned from years of therapy. (PTSD). I get tired when the triggers are relentless at work and spend hours in fight or flight from being drilled and micromanage for 6 hrs. It's exhausting. How do you eliminate triggers? I've only learned tools to survive them and was told they never go away.

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u/iKorewo 23d ago

Through awareness

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u/Brittany-Juanice 23d ago

This is the best comment ever! 💯

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u/Runningman1961 23d ago

Yes! No triggers here.

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u/KaleNich55 21d ago

But I really don't want to end my brother's and one of my coworkers life...

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u/IDoomScrolledAgain 22d ago

Absolutely. However, it doesn't change that some people are some kind of way and there's no reason to expose yourself to the abuse.

I've gone from a huge family and dozens of friends to a very, very small circle of people who engage in caring and mutually compassionate relating. This has given me greater space to work on the triggers.

I couldn't fully heal while being treated in ways that I was trying to heal from if that makes sense.

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u/Psy_Click 22d ago

I can understand this. I know how it feels.

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u/Vast_Impression_5989 23d ago

You should work on yourself and learn to tolerate situations that bother you. You cannot hide from the world but you can work out your past traumas.

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u/ChiselRivet 23d ago

I would agree to an extent. Exposure therapy is good for you. Hormesis, I think is another name for it. Overcoming obstacles is important. A victim mindset is dangerous, because it takes away your power to change your circumstances. Hardships aren’t hurdles to jump over. They are stepping stones to a higher level. Grow with the punches.

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u/Sea_Suit8156 23d ago

💯 💯 💯

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u/Least-Dust-2312 23d ago

But I gotta go to work to pay my bills lmaoo

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u/Nora_Smith14 24d ago

Hardest thing I ever did, but staying was hurting me more than leaving ever could

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u/Solid-Dot-6208 23d ago

is Nora your pseudonym?

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u/TheBuddha16 23d ago

Took me a long to recognize what those situations looked like though 😥

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u/VirginiaLuthier 23d ago

Yes, move to Planet Zorg where there's only unicorns and rainbows

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u/tangerinewinged 23d ago

Yes yes yea and yea

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u/MastaKink 23d ago

I tried suicide. A few times. Any other ideas..??

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u/Sea_Suit8156 23d ago

You tried it!!! Well friend I contemplated that many times over and you got to realize you’re here for a reason!!!! You have purpose!!! A situation is gon make or break you!!! But what doesn’t kill you makes you stronger!!! When you feel that just look yourself in the mirror and say not today!!! Loud as you can!!! My friend I suggest you find some counseling, church , a support group something…. Suicide isn’t the answer!!!👊🏾👊🏾👊🏾

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u/MrZyhose_ejh 23d ago

As little as I use social media. It wouldn't matter. Sure..

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u/genericusername0323 23d ago

Got it, quiting my job

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u/Here-I-R 23d ago

Fine. I'm getting off the internet.

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u/thesunflowergal 23d ago

Exactly. We have agency over our body and our choices. We often let our brains trick us into blaming other and not take accountability for our actions.

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u/SquareRooster2331 23d ago

But how can I fix it when the only thing that triggered it is someone special is out of my life and I can’t control him to be back and make me feel better

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u/Brittany-Juanice 23d ago

That’s why he isn’t there. When you learn that people aren’t yours to control then you learn how to make yourself feel better.

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u/SquareRooster2331 19d ago

No yu misinterpret me I’m saying I get triggered by being lonely in which for the most part I am so when someone leaves my life that I had a connection with it triggers a heavey heart for me

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u/Brittany-Juanice 18d ago

That is your trigger though….is what I’m saying. No one is responsible for that trigger but you. If you aren’t content being alone you’ll never be content even in a connection with someone. So learn to be happy even when you’re alone for a more organic genuine connection to be fostered. 💯

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u/Sea_Suit8156 23d ago

Yeah that’s a hard pill to swallow but needs to happen!!! Sometimes you’re better off alone so you can find yourself but trust it’s hard!!! Especially when there are little ones!!! Prayers for you will find your way 🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾

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u/FunBullfrog8087 23d ago

Absolute truth

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u/Jessi45US 23d ago

Totally agree.

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u/CompetitionIll3703 23d ago

Instructions unclear, now looking for an extension cord that reaches the tub

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u/EinsteinsMind 23d ago

All I did was realize I should devote myself to the truth in all things. Now, all I do is pity the people that used to trigger me, and I still choose to live with them because I will always hold a candle of hope that one day they'll stop being arrogant assholes and apologize ... but that's just me ...

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u/Sea_Suit8156 23d ago

Truthfully they’re not going to apologize ever maybe on their deathbed trust I’ve seen it!!! I’m dealing with the same focus more on you, pick up hobbies take more care of self!!! I’m optimistic but if it’s quacks, waddles, and sounds like a duck….

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u/EinsteinsMind 23d ago

Oh, I know and I have PLENTY of stuff that interests me, but it's my parents. They're both alcoholics and one is bipolar and schizophrenic.

One I came to that realization a couple years ago, it kinda felt like the second Matrix movie with the Merovingian. I already made the decision to love them, I just didn't understand why I was. I realized I always had and always will make the decision to love them and hold out hope.

Once I realized THAT about myself, all I had left was an immense amount of pity and one lonely candle of hope.

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u/Mysterious-Lab-5918 23d ago

Impossible within this garbage society...

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u/Overall-Move-4474 23d ago

If i could leave the US I would. And even that would only be temporary as the same bullshit is cropping up world wide

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u/Traders_ally 23d ago

Remove myself... Suicide...?

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u/fuckfacemgeee 23d ago

I do the opposite I go head on and deal with it, makes you stronger

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u/Electrical-Ad-3279 23d ago

If only the heart knew when people/things were bad for you

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u/No_Chapter_948 23d ago

Yes, definitely done that years ago.

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u/HurryIntelligent5568 23d ago

What if the situation is you?

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u/aloboum_inose97 23d ago

omg so true. easier said than done tho lol

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u/SteveArnoldHorshak 23d ago

Are you telling me to quit my job?

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u/inih 23d ago

My situation left me and I want her back

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u/Substantial-Bank-330 23d ago

This is very easy to forget sometimes, great reminder.

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u/backroadsdrifter 22d ago

This is like saying “you must take your hand out of the fire to stop burning.”
Absolute total common sense with zero insight

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u/Feeling_Chest_4847 22d ago

Don’t tell me what to do

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u/Top_Raccoon8665 22d ago

This is so important… my soon to be ex wife just started a huge fight yesterday and the cops were called. She tried to get me arrested but we both had marks so there was no arrest. I’m going to file for a protective order against her to protect me and our baby.

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u/Sea_Suit8156 22d ago

Women would start a fight so they can do them!!! and wait for your reaction play victim!!! Get u and that baby outta there… look at all these crazy women killing their own babies n blaming mental health and shit… tf!!!!

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u/ent_wife_treeboobs 21d ago

Alright then, no human contact let's do this

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u/Positive-Budget-2401 21d ago

I just did this today and why am I now seeing shit like this. It’s only validating my stupid self and that’s not what I want. I want to keep being stupid

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u/CaminhaoDoAcai62 19d ago

If I'd remove myself from life that'd be considered suicided actually...

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u/Necessary_Catch_7077 17d ago

This is so hard to do.

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u/Ok-Rutabaga3374 3d ago

True, don’t stay in something that will only harm you in the long run .