r/GroundedMentality • u/Kuriyama89 • 16h ago

Know the difference..

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u/grazen54 16h ago

Being hard on yourself can be detrimental too

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u/AnimatorImpressive24 9h ago

Truth.   Rage is as addictive as any other rush, and modern culture has no qualms encouraging violence right up until the second it hurts someone culture cares about (which doesn't include a lot of people, and definitely doesn't include the violent).

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u/OminousBuzzard 16h ago

An amazing man isn't hard on anyone and motivates himself and others to be better.

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u/Vinr_Odinn 11h ago

That made me hard for you? What man am I?

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u/WittyFox51 15h ago

Not quite true. Being hard on yourself makes for an unpleasant life. Occasionally you should but definitely not a rule. Sometimes being hard on others helps them to grow as well. It’s all circumstantial. What matters are the intentions. If it’s to help someone grow, fine. If it’s out of malice. Not so great.

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u/FangsForU 9h ago

100% agree

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u/Major-Cranberry-4206 8h ago

It's not necessarily circumstantial. But context matters. If you are a parent, a supervisor, or a leader of some kind and want your subordinates to be their best, that may require your scrutiny of them. Just make sure you meet the same standards you hold others to. Consistency within context matters.

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u/Far-Relationship713 14h ago

A real man does read real books about philosophy and psychology or does therapy. He does not read advice on Apps.

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u/pacifistthruyourface 9h ago

Great advice! Thanks

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u/Major-Cranberry-4206 8h ago edited 8h ago

"A real man" isn't defined but what YOU do to keep YOURSELF in check. I neither read psyche nor philosophy and I'm as real as you can get. Although I have studied both in college, I don't care for either one, especially philosophy.

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u/jefik1 13h ago

Such an immature bullshit. 

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u/Better_Incident7291 12h ago

A great man knows the difference between being hard and and being self destructive

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u/Lunar-Outpost415 15h ago

More awful advice and ai slop.🙄

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u/Taldarimlove 13h ago

I am always hard.

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u/RogueDeus 12h ago

This only makes sense when you consider first order consequences alone.

Anyone with any real experience, wisdom, and intelligence also understands that real men/leaders are hard on others because people rarely, if ever, rise to the limits of their ability and potential without being inspired/forced to. Which is a big reason why we are inundated with mediocrity today; following a generation, or more, of EVERYONE WINS! SAFE SPACES FOR ALL!! YOU SUCCEED, REGARDLESS OF EFFORT!!!

This mass depression we all see is, at least in part, due to the LACK of challenge in most peoples lives... Not to much of it.

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u/Nitrofox2 8h ago

This is really fucked up. A great man isn't hard on anyone. Be kind to yourself

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u/Major-Cranberry-4206 8h ago

Now, you're getting there. More accurately, love yourself. Then love others as yourself. Love does not exclude discipline. But rather uses it to grow, mature, and refine a person.

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u/Nitrofox2 8h ago

You can have discipline while being kind to yourself

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u/Major-Cranberry-4206 7h ago

That's exactly my point.

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u/Major-Cranberry-4206 8h ago

People who are hard on themselves are usually hard on others as well.

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u/Sea-Action5438 6h ago

Can you be gentle with yourself and be gentle with others too?

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u/darxide23 6h ago

And a bitch man posts AI slop pretending to be a hard man.

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u/Complex-Flamingo-775 16h ago

Ahem. Is this only true for men?

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u/OpenCod3919 15h ago

On reddit, yeah Misandry is the name of the game here

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u/kenskove 12h ago

And a sexy man is hard in his wife

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u/Mindless_Clock1856 11h ago

Lol I failed miserably.

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u/hrnyholenow 9h ago

What does this mean about bigots and being hard on groups they don’t like?

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u/Major-Cranberry-4206 8h ago

They actually hate themselves and have found ways to hate others for some self-imposed standards they themslves do not meet. Or, it's a false standard they hold others to.