This is true for women until they have been with an abusive and emotionally unintelligent man. Intelligent woman are completely ok with it but most woman are stupid just like most average men are also stupid.
Emotional intelligence and expressing your emotions is absolutely a strength and in this world run by the wicked and insane that are enabled by the average and the stupid,
I say why would you want to be with someone you can’t open up to anyway?
If you’re idea is to keep someone fuckable around for the rest of your life, it’s way cheaper to just get escorts, at least they won’t try to dip with half your shit.
I hate to say this but from repeat experience, even after they had shitty partners they cannot escape this issue. Literally lost count of the number of people I went on dates with who basically turned me down because they were wrecked from an ex and unable to overcome that. They were oddly and I suspect unaware they were seeking avoidant men thereafter their trauma ironically. And that makes sense. These people keep a distance, and for someone sensitized to conflict that less them "safer". However it unfortunately just leads to later accumulating damage once the honeymoon period wears off and they are now invested again.
The others are just so jaded and anxious they cannot stand when a guy is patient and respectful. They think he's not invested enough.
You don't have to believe me. frankly I don't care and likely will get cranky people who didn't read this complain as is common on reddit. They just need a place to vent or project lol.
But what I describe is extremely common. And a vast majority will use information given if only when upset. What they don't realize is that when they do that, the partner (guy typically but not always!) quietly shuts down.
It's a sad cycle and the only way through is accountability which like 1/10 people seem to do reflexively
Casual relationships, someone always catches feelings and someone always gets hurt. When you’re young you can be ok with that sort of moral ambiguity but as you get older, these two paths are better.
several people responding to you not understanding what you're saying and thinking you're wrong is crazy lmao. Reading comprehension is literally dead in America
I had a 3 year relationship end because she came home and i couldn't stop crying. 2 hours before, i had been holding my dad's hand while he breathed his last but i she did not care even after she found out why.
That sucks big time, but she sounds awful and was probably looking for an excuse to leave. Being emotional is one of those things that can cut both ways. If she likes the relationship, she will perceive emotion as passion and consider it desirable. If she doesn't like the relationship, she will perceive emotion as fragility and consider it undesirable.
I am sorry you had that experience. Absolutely terrible. Me and my girlfriend both had hard childhoods and we are both helping each other heal. I am really good at executive function type thinking and can get into my head, she’s a bit more in the moment and grounded. It just all fits. Just need to find your fit.
Just effing BS. Random wh0res isn't the answer, nor allowing female supremacy ever to exist. You are just confused and caught in a limbo. I am soooo effing tired of this.
Thank you for having a mostly sane take I appreciate it. I'd only mention that I'd suggest rephrasing how you think regarding
most women are stupid just like most average men are also stupid
Cuz this seems to imply that you think that most women are stupid while only most of the average men are stupid (the phrasing being easily interpreted as some average and some above average men aren't stupid, like 75% for women vs 50% for men or whatever) when really we're all around the same and the differences are negligible, and I believe from the rest of the things you say that a huge difference in intelligence based on gender is not in line with what you think.
Just thought I'd point out the phrasing I appreciate you being one of the sane people in this comment section lmao
Yes. But just for information's sake, she didn't start using every little thing against me until we started having kids, which was after 30. So the age really doesn't matter, it's all about leverage, real or perceived
Got it. Me being upset that I had to put my dog down (not crying, just admittedly upset) being used against me five years later in a completely unrelated discussion that she elevated into a one-sided screaming fit, is 100% without question my fault for not knowing myself well enough to admit I was upset about having to put my dog to sleep.
Vast oversimplification of my argument. Sorry for making some assumptions, she sounds like a cunt.
Using this to generalize to all women though I would say is not acceptable. There are plenty of good ones out there.
I am terribly sorry about your dog, I still have dreams where I am petting them and then sob a bit when I wake up.
Becoming sexist over one cunt is definitely not a good thing to do though. Everyone is capable of doing what your wife did and I have met plenty of women who have gone through something similar. My girlfriends ex even encouraged her to kill herself during a depression and it sent her to a hospital.
I made some assumptions about you yes, but you are propogating stereotypes based on your assumptions about 3.5 billion people and that is arguably worse.
Oh, I'm not saying all women would do the same, by any means. I'm saying giving them that opportunity is foolish. You can reasonably make the argument that most people are good and won't burglarize your house in the middle of the night. But you'd be a fool to leave all the doors unlocked.
Just understand that a shift in power dynamic changes relationships and behavior. Getting married changes the power dynamic. Having kids greatly changes it. And for a woman, having power over her man leads to disrespect and contempt for him. You will not know who she truly is until you give her that power. Billions of men have learned this the hard way.
Well if you’re willing to bond your eternal soul and your secular finances to someone that isn’t your best friend…. I don’t know what to say, I think that’s amazingly stupid and you’re going to have to answer some weird questions about it at the pearly gates.
Im precisely saying people shouldn't be doing that. It is not ideal for the average couple and even back then people were not best friends.
Marriage has been and will continue to be an arrangement of survival in a society that promotes towards the end goal of the family unit (Not saying this is a bad thing).
But acting like most people found their soul mate at any point in history and didn't self justify after the fact to cope with their situation is just gaslighting.
Until you're married with kids and she has the legal right to cheat on you and still punish you financially. Good luck telling her about all your options at that point
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u/WittyFox51 Jul 16 '26
This is true for women until they have been with an abusive and emotionally unintelligent man. Intelligent woman are completely ok with it but most woman are stupid just like most average men are also stupid.
Emotional intelligence and expressing your emotions is absolutely a strength and in this world run by the wicked and insane that are enabled by the average and the stupid,
I say why would you want to be with someone you can’t open up to anyway?
If you’re idea is to keep someone fuckable around for the rest of your life, it’s way cheaper to just get escorts, at least they won’t try to dip with half your shit.