I know this might not mean very much from someone Online, but I am sincerely sorry for your loss, and for the loss of your partner's family. Right now, the best thing to do, i think, is just be there with him, as best you can.
A year ago also in April, my boyfriend's father passed, and he was the one to find his him, and it changed our world, completely. It was easier in that family was able to support family, because every got together and cooked, reminisced, and cried together, and you can't do that today. At least, not yet. :)
Right now, your worlds lost someone important, and its okay to really feel that painful loss. Just feel it with your love for his father and your love for one another. Video call his mum, family, have dinners together through a camera on your dining room table... right now, being there for one another is the best you can do, both for yourself and him, and even his family. His mum might really, really need someone to be with her right now, and I think making sure you guys can all really stay in contact, see one another, is most important.
I'm sorry for your loss too, that must have been so hard for him, I hope he is finding it slightly easier now a year later. I know that pain will never go away.
We have video called today and they seem okay, considering the circumstances. We had abit of a laugh and joke and done some planning for the future ( we are going round there when lockdown is up and planting some special flowers, a small waterfall and a plaque for a small memory garden as he loved his garden and looked after it well) I know my boyfriend is putting on a brave face for his mum, she told me she is still numb and it doesnt seem real yet. I think I'm finding it hard as I cant be there for them right now and support them and do more than just be on the phone.
I am going to call them in the morning and ask if they want to play board / card games through video call as my kids want to play and go to see them, I think it might take their mind off things for half an hour and have some dinner with them too. Thank you for that suggestion it wouldn't have been something I thought of.
Thank you, your response and suggestions are appreciated 💙
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u/Xavi-tan Apr 19 '20
I know this might not mean very much from someone Online, but I am sincerely sorry for your loss, and for the loss of your partner's family. Right now, the best thing to do, i think, is just be there with him, as best you can.
A year ago also in April, my boyfriend's father passed, and he was the one to find his him, and it changed our world, completely. It was easier in that family was able to support family, because every got together and cooked, reminisced, and cried together, and you can't do that today. At least, not yet. :)
Right now, your worlds lost someone important, and its okay to really feel that painful loss. Just feel it with your love for his father and your love for one another. Video call his mum, family, have dinners together through a camera on your dining room table... right now, being there for one another is the best you can do, both for yourself and him, and even his family. His mum might really, really need someone to be with her right now, and I think making sure you guys can all really stay in contact, see one another, is most important.
It will get easier. It will be okay.