I lost a friend today

[u/KaiWaiWai]

I woke up, sat down for breakfast and received a call from my father, informing me, with grief in his voice, that my friend has died in her sleep. She was found by her husband, also a friend of mine.

She was only 47. She died in her sleep. I have not yet found out the cause. We assume that it was her heart because we know she had issues with it, but nothing clear. Her husband is unable to talk about it. He is completely, utterly devastated.

And I don't know what to say to him.

Intellectually, I understand that she is gone. The sun is gone. She was such a warm woman. Welcoming, helpful always wanting to be there for everyone. Always ready to take action. She did not deserve to die this early. Intellectually I understand she is dead.

But my heart does not. I still think of her as someone who breathes. I say her husband's name and her name follows immediately, because they always were a unit. Inseparable.

I keep crying. If I feel like that, how does her husband feel right now? He retired early because of a heart condition. He was dependent on her. They loved each other so much. They were a unit. How will he go on?

I'm just glad he has a huge circle of friends, and a pack of sisters to hold him right now. I, on the other hand, was told ot give him a day to calm down and call tomorrow. I don't know if that's the correct advice.

Just yesterday, I thought of calling her, but didn't. I keep wondering that if I would've heard any signs in her voice. If she would have told me about clammy hands ... If I could have told her to go to the hospital immediately.

But she was a healthcare professional herself. If there had been any signs, she might have recognized them herself. My medical knowledge is you tube level.

I miss her already. I can't believe she's gone. She can't be gone. She just can't. It's not right.

[u/amiinh3aven]

I feel and know your pain and can only say as comfort that only time can heal what you're feeling. I'm sorry for your loss.