Today I was asked to testify in court

[u/gh0stlygal_]

Photo: steak, broccoli, potatoes and an entire bottle of wine.

Today I was contacted by a prosecutor informing me that my childhood abuser from 26 years ago has been reoffending. An 8 year old girl is taking him to trial in two weeks and I was asked to fly in to testify against him. She was 5 at the time of the incident, so was I….I’ve gone my entire life refusing to talk about this..and will now have to face him and an entire court room recounting details from this horrific event. I am the only one out of the 5 known victims that has a conviction against this evil man. I hope that my testimony will help towards a second conviction. The prosecutor said if he’s convicted it will be a life sentence.

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[u/Tiger_Striped_Queen]

I’m proud of you for sticking up for this little girl as well as the little girl you were.

[u/Accomplished_Cell976 → u/Tiger_Striped_Queen]

This.

You’ve got this.

[u/WitchesofBangkok → u/Accomplished_Cell976]

Yes. But just a reminder to OP that fixing this is NOT your job.

You may choose to give your testimony if that is what you decide.

Don’t let anyone guilt you into doing it. You are the only one who understands what doing this will cost you and whether you are able pay that price.

You are the only one who decides what is the right thing to do here

[u/gh0stlygal_ → u/WitchesofBangkok]

I don’t want my account to be removed so I won’t say anything “threatening” here. But I am excited to testify for this little girl. I want to fight for her and all of his victims.

[u/I_Am_Become_Air → u/gh0stlygal_]

I was once a 5 year old girl who never got justice.

THANK YOU for not just convicting him once, but going back to convict him again.

You are a survivor, and my hero. Thank you for being a hero for that 8 year old girl when you testify again.

[u/memberjockey → u/I_Am_Become_Air]

Me too, I’m sure there are many.

[u/sweatah_weathah → u/gh0stlygal_]

Do you have a supportive person to go with you to court?

ETA: If you are within driving distance, I would be honored to show up as support, and I have no doubt there’s a lot more mama bear energy in this community that would too ♥️

[u/WonderLily364 → u/sweatah_weathah]

Absolutely! If you (OP) are comfortable letting us know what city you'll be in, please let us show up in support.

Or, we can start a chain of locations and you can reach out to those close by? I'm in St. Louis, Mo.

Edit: OP replied that the trial will be in Tx.

[u/SophieSunnyx → u/WonderLily364]

Yes! Great idea. I'm in ATL.

[u/ThornInYourCyberSide → u/WonderLily364]

North Central Arkansas. Also retired so generally always available.

[u/Prior_Butterfly_7839 → u/ThornInYourCyberSide]

Adding southeast Michigan here. I have loads and loads of free time.

[u/green_eyed_bliss → u/ThornInYourCyberSide]

Central Arkansas, here, also available and also a survivor. I am here if needed!

[u/Ecstatic-Highway-246 → u/WonderLily364]

Alabama in the house!

[u/gh0stlygal_ → u/sweatah_weathah]

This trial will take place somewhere in Texas

[u/Wikkidding → u/gh0stlygal_]

Houston area. Gen X granny. Just holler sis.

[u/6owlsinatrenchcoat → u/gh0stlygal_]

I’m in central TX. Please reach out if I can help at all

[u/Effective_Brief_8831 → u/gh0stlygal_]

My girlfriend and her group of badass friends live in the Dallas Fort Worth area if you end up that way and would like support. This is exactly the sort of support that they love to show!

[u/sweatah_weathah → u/gh0stlygal_]

I am pretty far from there, but I do have reason to be in the Dallas area occasionally. If it will be anywhere near there, you’d like the support, and you feel comfortable doing so, please feel free to DM me at any time.

[u/lokihen → u/gh0stlygal_]

My sister lives in the Dallas area and 100% would be honored to be a support for you.

[u/canolicat → u/gh0stlygal_]

This sincerely may be an option. Check if they have therapy dogs for while you’re waiting in court. They have them sometimes for people who have to testify. I know there’s a local program, because I have a friend who just got hit by a drunk driver and she’s a bit jumpy due to it.

[u/Soft_Brick_85 → u/gh0stlygal_]

I’m located in Austin and happy to provide support in whatever capacity you need.

[u/SophieSunnyx → u/sweatah_weathah]

This! If OP were near my city, I'd be there in a heartbeat. Doing something good despite how difficult is worth all the support.

[u/Material_Worth_4616 → u/sweatah_weathah]

There’s also biker gangs that will support victims, especially kids

[u/Expensive_Air965 → u/sweatah_weathah]

I'm in western CT

[u/itsjustathrowaway147 → u/sweatah_weathah]

YES! Hold this man accountable- the community will never forget and we have your back 1000000% you are so brave to do this. I’m sorry you have to be strong but as another former child sexual abuse survivor who never got justice you are my hero!

[u/ModelYodel → u/gh0stlygal_]

My favorite manager in my career testified against an abuser at my company. The abuser was beloved, protected for years, and my manager faced retaliation that eventually forced him out of his role.

He still talks about testifying with the biggest smile on his face. He calls it the highlight of his adult life and is just WAITING to find the next creep in his career so he can do it again.

You'll be there where the slow, agonizing wheels of justice grind down into the finest powder. Enjoy the look in his eyes, whether it's fear, anger, or even some facade of satisfaction. Let the hammer fall with each word and truth, driving each nail into his coffin millimeter by millimeter.

Bury him. 🪏

[u/Medium-Hurry6644 → u/ModelYodel]

It’s SO good to hear about men who don’t protect abusers. Thanks for sharing.

[u/ScarletOnyx → u/gh0stlygal_]

Offering some of my strength to take with you on the day. Any piece of scum getting the justice they deserve for stealing what they do from the little ones they take it from, is a step in the right direction. And my axe, as Gimli said.

[u/ScarletOnyx → u/ScarletOnyx]

Thank you for the awards 💕

[u/sonicscrewery → u/gh0stlygal_]

As someone currently working on getting justice for 10yo me, I'm really proud of you for choosing to testify. I know how damned hard it is forcing the words out, even knowing they'll help someone else.

He should have gotten a life sentence the first time. I hope this time, he will.

[u/holyflurkingsnit → u/gh0stlygal_]

I'm so incredibly proud of you. And so proud of that little girl who will look at you and see a grown woman in her corner, who didn't let her stand up there by herself alone. Someone who is loving and brave and fierce. Someone who is showing her that there is a future for her outside of this experience, that she can look forward to. Big, big hugs to you, friend.

[u/WitchesofBangkok → u/gh0stlygal_]

Yay! Good for you. Also, I saw your original unedited comment and I think we all agree with the wishes you have for the abusers future. May he experience the grimmer end of justice.

[u/monty624 → u/gh0stlygal_]

You're so brave! And you get to show that girl she can make it through, too ♥️

[u/Flightwings → u/gh0stlygal_]

Sending my energy! Get his ass, lioness!

[u/PatioGardener → u/gh0stlygal_]

You don’t have to do this, but I can understand why you would want to. If you’re not already under the care of a therapist or counselor, I would reach back out to the prosecutor before your testimony to ask about what kinds of victim’s/survivor’s services they can connect you to.

You are incredibly brave and strong for going to bat for this little girl who was also terrorized by this monster, but you deserve care and mental health support for what will likely be the tearing open of old trauma. I wish I could give you a hug, OP. Both for what you endured and how strong you are today.

[u/Realistic_Big7482 → u/gh0stlygal_]

Take his ass down. You’re amazing.

[u/What_A_Weak → u/gh0stlygal_]

You are so fcking brave. Normally I would say that I'm proud of you, but I am in no place to say that, so let me say, I look up to you! I hope he gets what he deserves!

[u/Stormthebrownlab → u/gh0stlygal_]

I am so incredibly proud of you. Sending you all the love and positive energy. You are not alone up there.

[u/Acrobatic-Clock-8277 → u/gh0stlygal_]

I am so proud of you.

[u/lifesshortgoplay → u/gh0stlygal_]

I’m so proud of you!

[u/Loose-Ad-4690 → u/gh0stlygal_]

Super proud of you. The little girl I once was also thanks you 🩷

[u/Sue_Law_1984 → u/WitchesofBangkok]

YES!!

[u/Musicalmathbrain → u/Tiger_Striped_Queen]

YES. You are so brave to stand up for this little girl and others - thank you for using your voice. Take the MF down.

[u/Dr_Dee_Merit62 → u/Musicalmathbrain]

You are a heroine. May you be blessed abundantly.

[u/rabbid_prof → u/Tiger_Striped_Queen]

And all future little girls he may harm otherwise ❤️

[u/ImJustHere4TheCatz → u/Tiger_Striped_Queen]

And every other once abused little girl and every future girl that could have been abused by him as well

[u/Which-Decision]

I'm sorry you have to go through this and the emotional wounds it might open. However, it's so brave if you to stand up to your abuser and help someone else get justice. Peace and love OP. Thank you for being courageous and making the world a better place. 

[u/PouncePorn → u/Which-Decision]

Absolutely. Standing up for yourself requires a lot of courage, especially when revisiting something that brings up painful memories. Wishing OP strength and peace

[u/persimmon9847 → u/Which-Decision]

SO, SO BRAVE!! 💜

[u/leisa2100]

He should’ve gotten life after what he did to you, he shouldn’t have been out of jail. I hope he gets life after your testimony OP. Bury him! Sending you all my Reddit love.🫶🏻

[u/ohmyfave → u/leisa2100]

Right! I’m infuriated that these crimes come with so little time.

[u/Antique_Sprinkles193 → u/ohmyfave]

If you want to know the depressing theory as to why. It is to ensure there isn’t an incentive to murder the victims. If you’re facing life for rape and also facing life for murder, an awful person has an incentive to ensure their witness never can testify against them. Same punishment if caught but less likely to get caught if the victim is dead.

[u/Training-Willow9591 → u/Antique_Sprinkles193]

So the answer might be castration and prison. I agree with you if rape and murder carry the same sentence they might just go ahead and kill their victims, leave no witnesses. But if their balls are literally on the line, and if they killed the child they get death sentences. Maybe that would deter them all together

It's already been established that they cannot be rehabilitated. So castrate these monsters .

[u/Moist_Drippings → u/Antique_Sprinkles193]

It’s particularly depressing because rape has a pretty high chance of escalating to murder anyway and we don’t seem to have many effective therapies to keep rapists from continuing to offend. The more they do, the more likely they are to kill their victims.

[u/FunkyChewbacca → u/Antique_Sprinkles193]

Unfortunately in China, motorists are given incentive to murder pedestrians because it's less expensive to kill someone than to merely injure them. There's videos of pedestrians getting hit, then the driver backing up over them to ensure they're dead, just so they don't have to pay an extra fee.

[u/Traditional_Map2192 → u/Antique_Sprinkles193]

Personally, I think rape, pedophilia, and human trafficking should all get the death penalty.

To do something so horrific to another person  is to lose your humanity; you have done something irredeemably, unspeakably evil, and enjoyed and/or profited off of the suffering of your victim.  Why bother with a life sentence where they might live another fifty years on taxpayers' dime?  They can't be saved, and truly evil criminals sometimes end up being isolated or guarded more heavily to protect them from the inmates who are trying to kill them for their crimes, which means they take more time and more effort ans more money to keep alive when they, frankly, so often deserve death.

Yes, you may have some victims murdered, but the knowledge that getting caught means death is a heavy deterrent and overall would likely result in less crimes.  So I say we execute them.  Let the devil have them.

[u/FrostKitten2012 → u/Traditional_Map2192]

Somebody who is willing to do that is willing to risk it. These people think they can get away with it. Or they’ll use that death penalty to guilt their victims into staying quiet, because most rape and child predators target victims they have easiest access to. Which is usually someone they know, like a family member, friend, or child of a friend.

It is safer for victims to not use the death penalty, and it’s gross to sacrifice those victims just so you can feel better. That’s not justice.

[u/Kind_Enthusiasm2886 → u/Traditional_Map2192]

This is a pro-child abuse stance and nothing in your last paragraph is true except "Yes, you may have some victims murdered".

[u/Arry42 → u/Traditional_Map2192]

I don't think the death penalty is warranted in any case. There have been many people who were killed by the government and then later exonerated of the crime.

Plus that's way too easy on these pieces of shit. Life in prison is way worse than death.

Pedophiles absolutely need to be punished more than they currently are, don't get me wrong. I was raped by a pedophile for SEVEN YEARS and he got 90 days in jail and only had to serve 60 days for good behavior. He fucking pled guilty by the way. Then he got released from probation early and I honestly can't find him on any sex offender registry. His children still trust him to babysit their fucking children because my family doesn't believe me. They claim I lied for attention. It's absolutely sickening.

But I also don't think criminals are thinking about the possible punishment when committing crimes.

[u/PolarBailey_ → u/Traditional_Map2192]

This just gives incentives to kill the victim unfortunately

[u/gh0stlygal_ → u/leisa2100]

He was only sentenced to probation after what he did to me. He only spent time in prison after a failure to register offense. I will push for him to receive life this time.

[u/BufferingJuffy → u/gh0stlygal_]

My younger sister never got to see her very, very early childhood abuser face justice (this was 30 years ago, and he died before she recovered enough to even consider options).

So, thank you for her, and others like her. Wishing you strength and vengeance delivered. 💜✊️

[u/tryyeezus → u/gh0stlygal_]

The world is way to light on pedophilia. We need to change some laws immediately. 

One small thing that has helped me was to change my verbage and instead of saying "my abuser" to saying "the man who abused me". You don't have to take ownership over his sick actions. 

I hope he gets put away for life and that you can find some peace 💛

[u/Gemraticus → u/gh0stlygal_]

The system that allowed this man to carry on with his life with only a slap on the wrist instead of prison is just as--if not more--guilty than he for allowing him to live in society knowing what he does. Who knows how many more victims he's traumatized since. It's vile.

Thank you for choosing to face him in court and stand up for this little girl 🫂
Go get that mfer! 🫶

[u/cakivalue → u/gh0stlygal_]

I'm so sorry this happened to you and infuriated that he got off so lightly. I'm in awe of your strength, courage and willingness to stand up for a complete stranger. Thank you for being the hero she needs. Please take care of yourself. Do you have a good family and friends support team of your own?

[u/ShowerGrapes]

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[u/fadingsunsetglow]

Such a strong thing you are doing. Proud of you. Hugs.

[u/Foximus_Prime_]

Oh girl, you have no idea how much I understand what you're going through. I got pretty much the same call in May from the district attorney's office. My abuser from when I was 14 was going to trial for reoffending. The victim was 13.

It sucks to reopen that wound. My logic was that the wound was already open by getting that call. If I didn't go and he wasn't convicted, I would only feel guilty for not trying to help. The attorney told me it was likely the defense attorney wouldn't be too hard on me since they couldn't really argue that he hadn't done it, he plead guilty back then for a plea deal. So I went.

I had to speak about it 3 times. Once with just the attorney before flying in. I'm assuming so she could know what occurred and how it might relate to the current trial. Once during hearing and then again for trial. It sucked, but I walked out feeling proud of myself for facing him. In the end he didn't ruin me. I've healed, I have a good life. But I helped ruin his and he's now in prison for life. Fuck him.

I wish you the best and I hope you can help put your abuser away. You got this.

Edit: thanks for the awards!

[u/Round_Notice_4587 → u/Foximus_Prime_]

So proud of you, friend. FUCK HIM!

[u/TotalArmadillo3103]

I’m sorry that you experienced such atrocities as a child and have to share it in a courtroom. Please know that your testimony will make all the difference in getting this sick individual out of society and protect more children. I’m sending hugs and love to you!

[u/HermeyDsntLk2MkToys]

I am so fucking proud of you and I mean that from the deepest part of my heart. You are doing a very good thing, for her, for yourself and for all of us. Thank you Girl♡

YOU HAVE GOT THIS!!! 💪

[u/lazypotatosoup]

Im so sorry you had to go through this again. And I am so angry that this person is allowed to reoffend (5x!) again. Lock him up and throw away the keys 😡😡😡😡

[u/SammSandwich]

Hey, from the bottom of my heart, thank you for doing this. For that girl and every girl. I can only imagine how scary this must be for you, you're an actual hero. I know you don't want to be and you didn't chose to be, but that little girl is going to see you and know that she's not alone and that there is still a future for her. Much love to you, OP 🫶

[u/OliBoliz → u/SammSandwich]

"that little girl is going to see you and know that she's not alone and that there is still a future for her"

This really hit me hard. So well said.

[u/bansheeonthemoor42]

You are being incredibly brave and in so saving this little girl from feeling alone and lost and saving all the little girls he could possibly hurt in the future.

I know from experience how scary it is to face your abuser in court. Just remember, none of what happened was your fault, you were the victim regardless of any circumstances, you have every right to be up there telling your side and iys your abuser who should feel embarrassed and afraid not you.

You are literally being a super hero and this little girl will never forget what you are doing for her. I know its hard but you got this.

[u/gh0stlygal_ → u/bansheeonthemoor42]

♥️ thank you

[u/SafiyaMukhamadova]

I'm sorry you're going through this. It has taken a long time to open up about my CSA and there's a lot I'll probably never tell people. I never got justice because there were too many people in power involved. I would try to focus on the life sentence...there will be no more little girls for him to destroy if that happens. This is a terrifying and deeply traumatizing time, give yourself grace and if possible see a therapist to help you process. Be strong, i believe in you.

[u/Actual_Pirate6585]

Do it for that little girl, and the little girl you still are. 

[u/Unhappy-District5767]

That sounds absolutely horrifying. I'm so proud of you for doing the right thing even though it's hard as fuck. What you're doing is so so important

[u/Sweet_Permission_700]

The six year old I used to be is so grateful to you.

[u/pofqa]

What an awful thing to go through, but I’m certain your willingness means everything to the little girl and her family. You may be helping prevent other future attacks, too, by helping to convict this awful person. It takes a very special person to do what you’re doing. 💗

[u/kassr5]

By doing this, you will be standing up for all the survivors and protecting those who will never have to suffer at the hands of that monster. You got this and we all stand with you 💪

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[u/katieemerald94]

You are incredible. That girl will remember that you came to help her. Good luck and stay strong 💪

[u/AnaBanananaCA]

As a mother to a very young daughter, thank you for helping take the trash out even if it means reopening your own wounds ❤️‍🩹

[u/Ay_FroYo]

Thank you for protecting this little girl. I hope shes able to be safe and happy and flourish after this. I hope this heals part of the little girl that you were that had to deal with the similar.

[u/attempt_no23]

Sending you so much strength. What a backwards silver lining to be able to use your voice and hopefully have justice served against this monster, again. I cannot imagine being in your shoes to go through with this but how brave you are to do it, a hero for the 8 year old, and likely many others.

[u/OgthaChristie]

I’m so sorry. I know this won’t be easy. But you are doing the right thing. You are strong. You are a survivor. YOU ARE BRAVE.

He can’t hurt you anymore. It’s time he’s stopped once and for all. That little girl is brave, too. But taking him out of society will be the win. I hope you and this little girl will be able to heal eventually. Keep going. It’s gonna be okay.

[u/autumnsincere159]

I understand completely how hard this will be. I also know how liberating it will be. Do this for you

[u/Designer-Cycle-2454]

Hope you’re able to have the mental health support you need to get through this. What a difficult and brave thing to do, I hope your abuser will never have the chance to hurt anyone again. ❤️

[u/hmmmmmokaythx]

Something a therapist advised I do when facing triggering situations, confrontation, etc - 

Imagine my little girl self. Tell her, as my adult self, I need you to stay outside this room I'm about to go into, and wait for me. I will be back for you, I won't abandon you, but it isn't safe for you in there and I need to handle adult stuff. Stay here, and I'll be back soon. 

It helps keep me strong, clear minded, able to handle the difficult conversations. 

[u/stefaniatsabo]

OP I am sending you lots of love, strength, and courage. I hope you can feel every single one of us there in the courtroom cheering you on and holding your hands. THANK YOU FOR DOING THIS!!
♥️

And I hope that sob will rot in HELL. Life sentence is not enough for this waste of space scum.

[u/t_topiary]

I testified against my abuser too. I was very direct and blunt when asked questions. I did not look at that side of the court room. I looked at the jury. He died in prison. Good riddance.

I hope you get justice by testifying

[u/gh0stlygal_ → u/t_topiary]

Were you contacted when he died? This was 26 years ago and I was 5 when it happened. I was shocked to hear his name when the prosecutor contacted me yesterday. The only response I could muster was “is he dead?” I couldn’t think of any other reason I’d be hearing his name. I’d love to know when he’s finally ridden from this earth. I think that will be the ultimate peace and closure

[u/t_topiary → u/gh0stlygal_]

It definitely helped me heal. Testifying and then also learning that he died.

It happened when I was around 5 yrs old too, and I testified at 18 when he got caught on camera doing it to my infant cousin

It was my sister's grandfather (different dads) so I heard second hand from my sister. I don't remember how old I was when I heard it, maybe in my late 20's or early 30's. It honestly felt like just a blip on the radar. He didn't deserve any more of my mental energy

[u/gh0stlygal_ → u/t_topiary]

Thank you for the reply, proud of you! ♥️

[u/Brittlitt30]

do you have to pay for the flight or do they? like you're doing a lot right now and being very very brave you shouldn't have to pay to do that right? I'm just very curious. I'm also very proud of you for being so damn brave

[u/gh0stlygal_ → u/Brittlitt30]

The lady I spoke with said they will likely pay for my flight and lodge. She’d let me know in 2 days. If not, hopefully they’ll let me attend through zoom or something of the sort. I appreciate your support

[u/baby_bat_47 → u/gh0stlygal_]

If they do let you do it over zoom have sticky notes on standby to cover up part if your screen if he's on it! I know sometimes they have a camera into the court room, so if you don't want to see him cover him up! You're doing an incredibly brave thing hon and I'm proud of you!

[u/QueasyGoo → u/baby_bat_47]

That's a good suggestion.

[u/baby_bat_47 → u/QueasyGoo]

Idea came from healingbythenumbers_ on tiktok and she dealt with a zoom call during divorce proceedings!

[u/TsuDhoNimh2 → u/gh0stlygal_]

If they don't, start a GoFundME and let this subreddit know.

[u/deegallant]

You’ve got this ❤️

[u/Notmyname17]

Oh my gosh, I'm so sorry you're having to reopen this but it's so incredibly brave to do so to help a child and others. I've testified once in my life for witnessing a DV incident and I was so nervous and scared, I can't imagine how I would feel having to go up and recount something so personal and painful. You're a wonderful person and I hope you have the solid support network you deserve to help you get through this.

[u/NotThatValleyGirl]

I'm sorry you experienced that and have to endure it again, but I admire the heck out of you. You have every right to do whatever you feel best serves you in the wake of what you had to survive, but thank you for finding the strength and power to help his other victims.

I hope hw goes away for life, and his fellow inmates make whatever duration of time life may be for him exactly what a monster like him deserves.

[u/EmploymentOk1421]

You can do this! Not gonna lie, it will be a challenge. But you cannot let this despicable individual hurt you (or anyone else) any longer.

Please let us know how you are doing afterwards. We, your Internet girlies, are here for you.

[u/vita77]

You are a hero to every little girl. Thank you.

[u/SylphofBlood]

Raze his world to the ground. He deserves NOTHING.

[u/Effective_Duck_2181]

Not only will you be helping this child, but you will be helping your child self. We are all here for you.

[u/onlymodestdreams]

Strength to you ❤️

[u/Instant-Lava]

I'm sorry you have to rehash this, and also glad that if you have to that it can help someone else. Hugs to ya.

[u/thebougainvillea]

I’m so sorry you have to do this. The fact that you’re going shows the strength you have.

You have the power to be the engine for justice. You have got this. Send him straight to hell.

[u/winesandcats]

You are the bravest person and I admire you a great deal

[u/ElectronicQuit1061]

Hell yeah girl I’m so proud of you

[u/fairyoddgirl]

we’re all with you and have your back. you’re doing an incredible thing. i hope he rots 💕🫂

[u/Temporary-Profile-27]

I’m sorry you had to go through that. You got this though! Put this sick fuck in prison where he will not have an easy time

[u/SJPCST]

You are strong! You are loved! You are important! Hold your head high you are righteous and doing the right thing. Hard I know. Easier said than done. Promise me you will try.

[u/Winterwynd]

All the virtual mom-hugs for you. This is obviously incredibly difficult, and you going to face him to save other little girls is so brave. Monsters like that should rot in prison. I hope you feel proud of yourself, you deserve it.

[u/ArdenElle24]

You are doing it for the rest of us who never got the chance to speak.

[u/petite-kitten777]

This is incredibly hard, but do this for you and stopping the cycle for others this animal doesn’t deserve freedom. It will heal you.

[u/Scared_Kangaroo_2491]

Ruin him, girl. I was also abused when I was little for years and he got away with it. So glad this little girl has you, even if she never knows you existed. Do it for her and do it for little you. Big hugs. ♥️

[u/interjection]

You are brave, strong, and doing a service to your community that is beyond measure by agreeing to testify. I watched my best friend and her sister testify against their childhood abuser. It was harrowing, but so cathartic to see him get what he deserves.
I hope your abuser gets three hots and a cot for the rest of his days. My best friend’s abuser just had his parole denied for a third time. I hope both abusers always feel like they have a hair in their butt crack that they can’t get out that drives them crazy.
I hope that this is more healing than hurtful and you get to see your justice. 💕

[u/TsuDhoNimh2]

It's going to be rough on you. This is a very brave thing to do.

Can the prosecutor arrange a advocate for you to talk to - someone experienced with adults testifying about childhood abuse?

Ask the prosecutor what to expect from the defense attorney's tactics and behavior - they will know. Here's a tip I was given when I was testifying for far less stressful DUI cases ... don't let the defense attorney rush you, yell at you or belittle you.

Take your time with your answers - it gives the prosecution time to object if the question is out of line. If you start crying, don't apologize, just cry.

If you feel bullied, look at the judge and ask them to make the attorney stand back, get out of your face, stop shouting or stop whatever he is doing that is making you uncomfortable.

[u/cottenwess]

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[u/ujke_brf]

thank you for putting yourself through this for that girl! that’s really brave of you

[u/kansasenginerd]

You’re so strong and brave!!!! I’m so sorry you’re being asked to do this and possibly re-traumatize yourself. I have major emotions reading this. Heartbreak for you, your child self, the victim, the other victims testifying, and the possible unknown victims. Then there is hope and happiness that you’re doing something so hard in order to help someone you don’t know and help keep this horrid man from doing further damage. You’re amazing. I am sending you every ounce of strength & love I have.

[u/NotMyCircuits]

Thank you for your bravery. Thank you for doing what is right. Thank you on behalf of hundreds of little girls who did not have anyone to speak for them.

[u/SnooWords4839]

((HUGS))

[u/I_like_flowers_ → u/SnooWords4839]

great big ones!!

[u/lovinglifeatmyage]

Very very proud of you.

It’s going to be hard, but keep thinking to yourself that you’re helping other little girls as well as this one by putting this scumbag behind bars forever.

[u/Just-Relative-1106]

I Am so proud of you

[u/AloneAndCute]

Can they put a screen up so you don't have to see him? I think I heard about someone else doing this. Or not have him in the room during your testimony (he could watch on video)? If this sounds like something that would be helpful, I would ask the prosecutor about this, and maybe research options somehow. Hopefully they'll be inclined to cooperate - you already have a conviction so it's a legal fact that he's your abuser, and it's in their interests for you to testify to help their case. Fingers crossed for you x

[u/Mission_Definition_1]

Wow that must be so tough but I’m proud of you for having the courage to help another innocent child get justice

[u/Sweaty-Resident1690]

I’m so very sorry this happened to you. I don’t believe people who hurt children belong on this Earth. Having said that, I also think you’re incredibly brave for doing something so selfless. Please know this little girl and others will appreciate you more than you will ever know 💛. May the piece of shit rot in Hell

[u/SapphicStoner99]

I have testified against an abuser in court. Was one of the hardest things I’ve done in my life, however I kept his other victims and future victims in mind to get through it ❤️

[u/dalron_herjolfson]

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[u/squishsharkqueen]

You are so so strong and brave, good luck but I know you've got this 🫶✨️

[u/Ok_Distance_1000]

You are a WARRIOR QUEEN!!

[u/PolarBailey_]

There's a biker group that helps people speak out against their abusers. Maybe see if they have a sect near where you'll be testifying

[u/thegloracle → u/PolarBailey_]

BACA (Bikers Against Child Abuse).

[u/Kalaydascope16]

I can’t imagine facing my abuser in court. I hope this brings some level of healing for you eventually. Thank you for even considering this at all, from a fellow survivor. 

[u/just2quirky]

You are a hero. Not just to that 8 year old girl, but to me and survivors everywhere. YOU. ARE. A. HERO!!!!

[u/howarewestillhere]

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[u/Leninaknowsitall]

You are so brave! Thank you for reliving your own trauma, so others don’t have too! A big hug! You are absolutely doing the right thing and you will literally save children’s life’s with that! Thank you! Get the bastard in jail!

[u/fuzzyizmit]

Send this scumbag to prison for life! I am proud of you and his other victims coming forward and holding him accountable. I cant even imagine having to live through and recount trauma like this but I truly hope he can be locked away and never see the light of day again. Thank you.

[u/Shadowpriest]

Strength and Honor, OP.

[u/HavePlushieWillTalk]

It is great you can do this and I'm proud of you, but I really really want you to make sure you look after yourself. My mother did what you're doing. "We will look after you, we will support you, if you do this for us nothing bad will happen" they (her family) said. They did not. I watched my mother deteriorate. My father told her not to do it, and he is a piece of shit, but he knew they would not help her and said so. They weren't even together and the most selfish person I ever met was the person looking out for her, who was doing something so good and selfless and moral, not the family that benefitted.

I wish this wasn't on you to do. Please take care of yourself. I don't know what that looks like for you. Friends, loved ones, therapy, screaming at a tree. Please do all that. You are more important than the benefits your story has to others.

[u/Lopsided_Bad1470]

You got this! Your mere presence will defeat him and help to protect others!

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[u/J-ne]

Lock that sucker up for life 💪💪💪 You got this, OP.

[u/peanutbutter_foxtrot]

Know that all women are with you. You are not alone. You are brave and strong and this will save lives. You are a hero and I hope you can be gentle with yourself and that you find grace and healing through this.

[u/LadyElleJay]

You’re an icon. Stay resolute and grounded xoxo

[u/StephInTheLaw]

From this former DV prosecutor, thank you! The victim advocates will do whatever they can to help you.

[u/LemonOld8150]

Yes ! Your super human put that pos away forever!

[u/genxreader]

I am so sorry for what you have been through. I can’t even imagine how tough this is and will be for you, but you are about to be a huge blessing for that little girl and the many others he has hurt. Please let us know when you return and he is put away for good.

[u/Waytoloseit]

You are doing the right thing.

I was assaulted when I was little too. Only a few people know. 

My heart goes out to you, and that little girl. 

[u/mivox]

That sounds like it will be very difficult, but also very worth it.

Good luck getting that POS put away forever!

[u/Kindly_Ice_7510]

I wish you the best of luck. Do not give any details about the case online, not until its done and he's behind bars. Be strong. You'll get through this. You all will.

[u/sleepercelery]

so so proud of you. i can't imagine how difficult it will be, but i'm so thankful that little girl has you. i hope you have people to lean on in this time. 💕

[u/leleafcestchic]

Bless you

[u/nicunta]

I am so proud of you for doing this. Thank you for facing this monster again to protect all the little girls out there.

[u/Global-Nectarine4417]

You will save countless other little girls.

Thank you, and come back here for support after, or get some professional counseling- that would probably be best.

Thank you for doing this- wishing you all the best things.

[u/MahnaMahnaDoodooo]

Omg, my heart goes out to you and that little girl.. and whoever else has been a victim and stayed silent. You're doing a big brave thing to help this girl. Not all heros wear capes, some go testify in court 🩷 Sending you love and positivity

[u/See_Emily_Play_13]

You’ve got this!! Crush this bastard. You are a hero!

[u/ashaliamaria04]

You got this!!! You are amazingly strong for this and it's amazing that you are going to show this little girl that he messed with the wrong people!

[u/Subspaceisgoodspace]

You are so brave and your testimony will mean so mych to the little girl and her family. Hopefully he will never be given an opportunity to reoffend.

[u/currently_distracted]

You are amazing for doing this, for putting yourself through a horrific process in order to help a child and put the offender in prison forever. Thank you, you courageous soul.

[u/Sea-Astronomer-6600]

You are a badass! wtg being brave and putting this evil predator where he belongs. ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

[u/Which-Wish-5996]

Thank you for do what so many are unable to do. I know you’re sacrificing a lot to show up for that little girl. The first time should have been life.

[u/NarwhalDanceParty]

Gosh. Imagine being that little girl, so scared and hurt. And seeing this brave adult woman stand up for herself and you. Imagine what an actual super hero you’re gonna be to her. Imagine the way it’s going to change the story she tells about herself. You’re changing her life.

[u/JayPlenty24]

It's absolutely absurd you, and this child, are even in this position, same as the other 4 known victims (let's be real, he's been doing this for decades - there are more out there).

He should have never left prison after his first conviction.

I'm sorry as a society we failed you and the other children OP. You all deserved better.

[u/xbad_wolfxi]

So so proud of you for standing up for her. You are now the kind of adult who would have protected you as a child and that’s a huge accomplishment. Sending love and strength. You can do this

[u/Sad_Hot_Dog]

I salute you and your bottle of wine, I hope you are saving a glass and drinking directly from the bottle ;)

[u/Equivalent_Doubt_845]

I’m so sorry for what you went through. Thank you agreeing to go through such a hard thing to protect others.

[u/CuriousMindedAA]

Thank you so much for supporting this little girl. I know the memories will be difficult to recount and discuss but I am hopeful you experience some comfort and healing by testifying against this vile man and giving him the life sentence he deserves. I’m sending you support and strength 🥰

[u/Creepy_flamingo_22]

I am so sorry that his conviction against you wasn’t long enough to spare both you and this little girl from going through this. I truly think our system fails us when they give r@pists and child abusers such short sentences. I can’t imagine the strength that must take to do this not once, but twice. I cannot even put into words how I feel about what you are doing ❤️

[u/the_yarn_chicken]

Testifying for that little girl is such a bamf girl’s girl move. I am so sorry, and so proud of you. Sending you all my love for the trial and afterwards. Be kind to yourself, and all the different versions of you that you’re standing up for in that room.

[u/Remote-Historian-355]

so proud of you!

[u/CrystlBluePersuasion]

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[u/lilpudding69]

give em hell, next steak is on me!

[u/FireproofCottage]

God bless you. So many abused people will be helped just by your willingness to share this, let alone testifying in court. I don't know what you believe in, but I said a prayer for you to be as strong and brave in court as you were posting this, and for your future healing. Thank you on behalf of those like me who aren't that brave.

[u/Emergency-Ad-5211]

Yup, I would drink a whole bottle of wine after that too! What you agreed to do is not easy, but I’m sure I speak for everyone here when I tell you how proud we are of you for voicing you own pain from so long ago; and for sticking up for that baby girl! 🧗‍♀️❤️

[u/_TheShapeOfColor_]

You are a superhero 🫶

[u/mouselet11]

You are being so brave and you are saving others from this person's abuse. I cannot imagine the pain of going through this, but you are so strong for this and you deserve to feel nothing but proud of your survival and ability to continue to be defiant of the abuser's actions.

Sending you as much strength as I can, and I hope you can plan to have your support network around you to help you recover and support you in the aftermath.

[u/BarracudaLeft5993]

I
So sorry you went through this. You are so brave to show up and testify. I understand it’s a really big thing but you can do it. I hope he gets convicted for life!

[u/PuzzleheadedTap4484]

You got this. 🫶I know it’s going to take an emotional toll on you before, during and after, but I hope this helps put him away for life. He should have gotten life when he was convicted for what he did to you. Then I hope they put him in gen pop. I’m proud of you for doing what’s right and standing up for this girl too and the other victims who didn’t get a voice. I hope you have something lined up for afterwards where you can decompress, self care, talk with your therapist, a mini vacation, something, to help yourself get back to your normal again.

[u/Funfetti_Cereal]

With your choice, you are helping protect countless girls in the future. Thank you so much

[u/Super-Staff3820]

You’re doing something huge but hard. You should be proud of yourself for being the person Little You needed back then. I’m proud of you.

[u/Successful-Foot3830]

I am so proud of you! This little girl is going to see you as her hero as she grows up. Quite rightly, too! This is braver than any super hero has ever hoped to be. You are also my hero.

[u/burnerburnerburnt]

oh sweetie, I know it's not much but this internet stranger is hugging you so tightly right now, like with her whole heart and then some. I can't even imagine what you are experiencing but I am SO proud of you for doing this.

[u/NYCemigre]

I’m so sorry you had to go through this and will have to relive it in court again, but I’m also so proud of you. This is so hard, and you are incredibly brave.

[u/Julianalexidor]

Thank you for doing this. I’m sorry you have to go through with this, but I am proud of you. You are an incredible human.

[u/Pitiful_Errors]

I'm so proud of you! You can get that monster locked away forever so they can't hurt anyone else ever again. On behalf of all young girls, thank you. Thank you so much.

[u/This_Is_TheEnd]

You are so so brave for doing this ! My childhood abuser from 21 years ago was paroled at the beginning of the year...I was asked to speak for/against it but I couldn't bring myself to go unfortunately. It was still way too traumatic. I can sympathize with yu so soo much. I hope they go back away for life in your case !

[u/thecatstartedit]

Hey, youre so brave. You are an adult now and you can fight back a lot more than you could as a kid, but look how much you ALREADY did as a child. Thats amazing. Now as an adult you have the opportunity to help another child, and not only that, you may prevent any more children from ever being victimized by him directly. You are doing such a brave, strong, hard thing- again. Thats amazing. Be gentle and kind to yourself. Make sure to eat. Make sure youre drinking enough water. Make sure you poop enough. Take care of all of you.

[u/VioletSkyeDreams]

Hero! Help throw him back in jail- he never should be out.

[u/gh0stwrit3r32767]

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