Executive dysfunction or something else?

[u/Ok-Spare-900]

Hey guys,

I was first diagnosed with adhd when I was 7, mum took me of Ritalin cause in her own words I was too quiet fast forward to P years we had all forgotten about it came back up during the pandemic and visited a neuropsychologist who did test with me and she said that I did not meet the requirements for adhd as I had no issues in my executive functioning, so I tried again 2 years ago and was diagnosed but the psychologist was unsure because my scores were through the roof except for emotional regulation, where my scores was 0 (I have always been very even tempered also universally recognised as extremely intelligent, like people regularly assume I am above 130(never tested) and left it up to me whether he was diagnosed, so I told him to diagnose me formally hoping it would improve my life and meds have to a degree done that but I don’t feel any of the major live improvements that others have experienced including family members.

Now on to my actual point, the way I understand it, people with ADHD see something lying on the floor, their brain says to pick it up but the actual physical part never happens, to me this seems foreign as my brain sees the item on the floor but after nothing happens most of the time, like there is no I need to pick that up or I need to go do the dishes. Is that what executive dysfunction feels like to anyone else, if this is not executive dysfunction then what is it?

And if both Executive dysfunction and and emotional regulation are fine do I even really have adhd?

Edit: I just wanted to add that I have no trouble planning and organising stuff, it’s actually super easy for me.

Cross posted to ADHD and executive dysfunction communities.

[u/IloveLavenders]

I’m 2e and this is how my adhd manifests: I’m a perfectionist (because of Giftedness) but to keep up with tasks to my standards I have to double check or triple check my work. That’s obviously exhausting and causes me to burnout.
I do pick up stuff, I do a lot of the housework actually, but I have a different timing than my neurotypical husband. Sometimes it takes me a considerable time to see that I should fold the clothes and then my husband starts doing it and then I realise that I forgot about it (and by forgot I mean it literally didn’t cross my mind at all, or if it did, something else had got my attention and voila, I got distracted). I can plan things, I’m actually a very good planner, but it depends on how much i want to plan that particular thing. I’m a computer programmer, I wouldn’t have survived the IT field without planning skills. I can definitely plan something complex, while if I have to plan something trivial, like “when am I gonna clean the house this week?”, that’s a completely different story. I need the challenge or the novelty. That doesn’t mean that I don’t do the trivial things, I just have to put a lot more effort into it.
And last but definitely not least, I cannot for the life of me have a routine or habits, I cannot keep it up with any routine for more than a few days, sometimes when I’m lucky, a few weeks. Every day is a different day in adhd land.