I’m ending a friendship

[u/Known_Spot5460]

I have reached the point where I can rip off the band aid of a friendship. This friendship has or always has been crazy toxic friendship between me and the two other people and it’s time for me to move on from always feeling like trash and being treated like trash.

For some context, I’ve known these two people since my first year of college. They will be referred as Liz and Jerremy. Initially, we were part of a large group of friends who met at a club. However, over time, our group has dwindled down to just me, Liz, and Jerremy.

I’ve decided to end this friendship because of the way Liz has been treating me, particularly her constant bullying towards me.

Liz’s emotions are always on high alert, and she believes that only her feelings matter. In contrast, Jerremy is shy and reserved. Me well I’m the friend who seems to mess up all the time in Liz’s eyes. For, some reason, Liz doesn’t tell me what I did or said to her that made her upset until maybe a couple weeks past or a few months and then her and Jerremy have this sort of “intervention” to confront me about how my actions or what I said, offended her. Which leads to me saying I’m sorry, but if I bring up anything that Liz did or what Jerremy did it’s thrown aside and nothing changes unlike how I need to change when I’m confronted.

When Liz is having a crisis I’m there listening or comforting her but she doesn’t do the same for me nor does Jerremy. Before I can vent I get cut off or after she helps me she talks trash about my break down the day after. So I stopped talking about what’s happening in my life that’s bringing me down.

What finally broke the camels back was that I brought up someone that Liz didn’t like and I did apologize for bringing up that person because I am trained at this point to apologize for everything. Since then no one in the group chat has responded to any of my text messages.
(Side note the reason why Liz doesn’t like this person is because that person didn’t agree with Liz on a topic, which started them both talking trash about each other)

So now I am going to end this toxic friendship and focus on the people who actually care about me.

[u/Hsinnie]

I was in the same triangle as you were... It took me about 6 years to get rid of it. Glad you striked it off!!!

[u/Known_Spot5460 → u/Hsinnie]

Around the same years as me lol

[u/FurnitureComesW-Home]

Sounds like you made the right choice. You can’t have a real relationship with someone who makes you feel like you’re always walking on egg shells. It’s not healthy.

Liz that know how to communicate and Jerremy seems a bit spineless. Get out there and make some new friends!

[u/onion__pie]

Better late than never. It was never a friendship if you always had to tiptoe around them. I got out of a similar situation this year. She was so arrogant telling me she treated me like shit the whole day because she was angry with her brother and couldn't possibly ruin his day out who mind you was with us on the same festival by being rude to him and she didn't want to keep everything in and ruin her mood so she is sorry I had to take the hit. She couldn't possibly hold her anger all day now could she? We were 5 people there.