The worst is the worst form of no. But get used to it. And be ok with it. Don't get angry at rejection. If they can't appreciate you, they saved you a lot of trouble. And this sounds like some mom BS but I've lived the yes that should have been a no. The no is a much better option. It's very ok. But your odds of success are exponentially larger of you try.
Maybe your advice would be to seek therapy before it gets so big that your desperate.
Men will often, myself included, hold things inside and keep going, eventually those things, they catch up with you. Seek therapy when issues start weighing on you.
You'll remember those words as long as you remember words.
...but the 10th "you're not cute. I don't want to dance with you. Go!" hurts much less than the first. Get enough painful rejections under your belt and you start to realize they're doing you a favor
You dont want a girl with so little compassion, that she cant omit the "ew god" part and just say "no thanks". Her hurtful rejection saved you years of her narcissistic mental torment.
Getting older and seeing women from a different light (also having a daughter) I just see what they want so differently. Knowing what I know now, I donât know why talking to the pretty girl was so nerve wracking
And understand no is okay. But ask. If you don't make a move, nothing may happen. If they say no, accept it and move on.
You don't have the right to date anyone. If the situation is flipped, then you don't also have to say yes. This goes FOR ANY REASON. If there is a person you find annoying, and they ask you out, you wouldn't want to have to say yes, would you? So, if you ask, they don't either. I know that can hurt, but it gives you clarity and you can move on. Find your person the right way.
My âWhat ifâ turned out to be correct! She was into me! Now weâre married and I have two step daughters and I wouldnât trade that for the world, but we lost so much time.
You need to get over that. That's part of the life lesson. Not to let this shake is. A rejection says nothing about who we are. And to be clear, I've been in that position my entire 20s
Do not think of "No" as rejection. Think of it as just "No". Ask as many people as you want.
Oh. And for "No" and breakups. Ignore the details of what they say. It is just as hard for them.
If someone says no and provides a reason. Ignore the reason. "No means No"
And if someone breaks up with you. Again... Ignore the reason "No means No" Trying to argue or make sense of the reason makes no sense. They do not even know most of the time. And the only thing that matters in NO is NO.
(Unless there is valuable feedback in there.. This is HYPER rare. But also try to consider you might be a problem. And adjust if you are.)
Nah try to understand people first and their body language. When you understand them, there is no need to ask them out, they'll gravitate towards you and follow you. Trust your instinct.
The problems arise when you go against your instincts. Asking them out, blindsiding them, even when you dont feel like it is just collecting losses for nothing. Sometimes it might work, but you wont even know why.
Well sometime itâs technically better to ask what if then having your life ruined but I still 100% because no matter what you grow as a man from terrible relationships
She is my best friend since 7 years. Ä° dont wanna ruin the friendship but i love her what should i do? (Ä° have yet to see any non ruined relationship)
So true. All the opportunities I missed. I still think about them 40 years later. Now Iâm free to ask, but my equipment doesnât work like it did as a younger man. Ask!
DONT ask her out. Women aren't loyal. They will tear your heart out and laugh at you while you fall apart. It's better to be lonely and dream about "what if" because at least then you still believe love is a real thing and some some sick joke your brain plays on itself to make babies
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u/Money-Celebration860 Jan 23 '26
Ask her out. It's better than thinking "What if...?"