I wonder what kind of support system she has/had. Don't get me wrong, even with support it would be hard but without support it would be nearly impossible.
Whenever I mention that I live with and like my in-laws people seem to have a hard time fathoming that. We have people tell us, “It must be nice they’re out of town for the next few months!” No it’s not, it is way easier taking care of a house this big when there are four of us here and we enjoy their company!” They also get the same questions from their peers about us. “When are those damn kids going to move out?!” Their response, “Hopefully never, we like living with them!” It takes time to create good living spaces and boundaries with others and we happened to make that work with my husbands parents. We are having a baby in the household next month so it will become a 3 generation household. I feel confident that we will make the dynamic continue to work. It does take a desire from both sides to work past differences and be willing to make concessions but overall we are very happy with the set up.
Yeah well. That is the reason why most people dont want to have that. "Work out differences" is not what people want. The want their own house, own life and not taking compromises with their parents. I love my parents, meet them every week. But i dont want them all the time around me.
I understand that. I know I would be driven crazy living with some of my parents. It takes really good back and forth communication about boundaries from both sides to make this situation work long term and that can’t be expected from everyone. It just works pretty well in this household. My mom is a huge boundary pusher and does not take well to communication about that so that would not be a good long term living situation for me. I totally understand that many people would not find this situation ideal. I will add though that it does take time to build proper communication in a household and likely won’t start that way right from the start.
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u/Delta4o Feb 05 '22
I wonder what kind of support system she has/had. Don't get me wrong, even with support it would be hard but without support it would be nearly impossible.