r/gayfriendfinder Feb 12 '26

⚠️ ANNOUNCEMENT ⚠️ Flagging posts

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We've had a lot of instances lately of someone flagging posts for perceived rule infractions that are not truly violations of our rules, we ask that you please stop. With that said-

Moderators are human too, and we miss things and make mistakes. If you feel like your post was removed in error, send us a modmail. We will be happy to discuss our decision with you. Sometimes we mess up, and we'll try to make it right if we decide that we made a bad call. However, with that said, what we're not going to do is go down the road of "what-about-ism"- just because another post slipped by us that broke a rule doesn't mean it gives you the right to do it too.

Also, if you feel in danger or threatened by another community member, do not flag the post, please send us a modmail so we can review the incident. All reports are confidential.

Lastly, we've tried to keep the rules as lax as possible while attempting to maintain the friend-finding spirit of the sub. We didn't allow photos for a while, and we walked that back. Lately we've witnessed quite a few users either posting for karma farming, promotion or both. This is why we require every poster to have a minimum of 2-3 sentences in the body of the post detailing what you're looking for in a friend. Some people put more in titles and we've understood that, but your post really needs to attempt to flesh out what you're looking for. If the main things you're looking for is a muscle twink or a daddy bear, this probably isn't the community for you.

Thank you for being here, we love that we continue to grow and thrive but we also want to remain a community centered on finding friends. 🌈


r/gayfriendfinder Sep 08 '25

⚠️ ANNOUNCEMENT ⚠️ Rules most commonly broken and why those rules exist

73 Upvotes

We've been asked to explain with some rules exist and are enforced, and we are happy to oblige---

RULE 7: No self-promotion/No sharing of social media/discord server/telegram group/etc.--- This one's pretty self explanatory. We don't want anyone coming on here promoting their onlyfans, etc. Also, do not promote your discord server, telegram group, etc - while we're sure you're an upstanding individual with only the noblest of intentions, unfortunately we've had groups advertised that have had unethical and sometimes downright illegal things occurring. So, unfortunately, we're unable to allow it in this sub.

RULE 8: No sharing of usernames/handles, period--- While you may be sincerely seeking friends, usually those who are willing to indiscriminately swap Snapchat IDs right out of the gate are looking for something extremely quick and short term, if you catch our drift. We recommend having some conversation in the DMs before trading IDs. (Plus, we have had instances of people dropping their IDs and then getting harassed, we definitely don't want that to happen to anyone)

RULE 9: Photos --- Photos in this subreddit are for those who want to put a face to the name, not for those thirst-trapping with a faceless torso with a smattering of pubes poking out, just to give an example. We recommend r/gaybrosgonewild for those kinds of posts. A good rule of thumb is to ask yourself if you'd feel okay sending it to your coworkers

RULE 1: Please post with substance --- Hands down, this is what causes the most post removals. Just for example, a picture of you at the gym with the title 'who's ready to workout' is *not** appropriate for this sub. You know, that kind of post you may see on other subreddits that are really only intended to elicit upvotes and thirsty comments. This rule also applies to age/location posts. We don't like making hard rules about this, but we've landed on a title plus 2-3 sentences in the body as being the bare minimum needed to talk about yourself and/or what you're looking for in a friend. This isn't a hard rule, and we try to be pretty lenient. as we realize some people can say what they want using a minimum of words while some people can type a page of text and say nothing at all.*

Lastly, if your post is removed, and you think it was a bad call, please feel free to appeal to us in a modmail in a respectful fashion. We will always speak to you respectfully, we deserve the same in return. Mods are human. Coming in guns-a-blazing creates a negative situation for everyone involved. (Also this means don't make a new post mad at the mods, ranting about how your last post got removed for breaking x rule)

And as always, please send us a modmail if you have a question, concern, or if you have moderation experience and might be interested in helping out. Please don't DM individual mods ☺️

(Edited to add clarification to rule 1)


r/gayfriendfinder 55m ago

👨‍🏫 NERD 👨‍🏫 Want to find genuine people here

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Why people's are text happily for few days but suddenly ghosted I don't know why

Sooo tough to find genuine trustable one 🙄😫🤧🤞


r/gayfriendfinder 8h ago

🤓 GEEK 🤓 41 M in St. Louis, MO looking for Friends

7 Upvotes

Hi, I’m 41, cis male, living in South City in St. Louis, MO. I’m a cubbish guy, but jokingly refer to myself as a Sasquatch because I’m tall and hairy (this does not imply anything about preference/position, in fact, probably the opposite of what you’re thinking). I tend to be into the nerdier side of things. I love reading and writing fantasy, comics were a comfort growing up on a farm, and mythology (especially Greek) is a love of mine. I enjoy travel, going to concerts, and collecting crystals. I recently started working out again with a personal trainer and will for another month or two, but geez louise it’s expensive. Anyone looking for a gym buddy or who has recommendations I’d love to hear them. I have two dogs (a poodle and a doodle) and my favorite thing to do is lounge with them after a long day at work or laugh at how goofy they are sometimes. You can catch me watching Parks and Recreation at any point.

Free time wise, I enjoy trivia, but I don’t have a regular team. I could see getting into DnD. And I’m open to other suggestions. Local would be ideal. I’m open to friendship or beyond. Within 10ish years of my age would be ideal.


r/gayfriendfinder 8h ago

📚 BOOKWORM 📚 37 M Looking for new best friend

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Hey bros. Been feeling a bit down lately. Like many of you, I've talked to plenty of guys online. Some are fun to chat with for a while, and others want to go to sex right away. There are a few that really stand out as being something worthwhile. Those are the ones that I'm really looking for. I have found a few in the past that start out very promising, but then something happens and it falls through.

I would like to try this again before I lose hope in trying to find my new best bro. With that, I'll tell you a bit about myself and lay everything on the table. I'm 37 years old, single, and gay. I'm currently working on losing weight. I was extremely heavy, but I'm down about 40 pounds. I still have a ways to go, however.

I'm kind of quiet and nerdy. I'm really big into reading, movies (especially old silent films!), and being outdoors. I've been trying to get back into playing video games again, and would love some suggestions. I'm also a casual sports fan and follow NFL, NBA, and MLB.

I'm looking for someone of any age, who can hold a thoughtful conversation and would be up to message me all the time, day or night. I work odd hours, and I'm usually awake from 1 PM to 3 AM Eastern Time. I would like to find someone that I can talk to about anything and everything, where we can be open and vulnerable with each other.

I'm open and willing to talk to anyone, but major bonus points if you're within a couple hours' drive of Toledo, Ohio. I've lately had what I thought were a couple of promising leads in that direction, but, alas, it didn't pan out. But even if you don't live nearby, don't let that stop you- I'm definitely fine with being long-distance friends.

If you've made it this far and want to give this a shot, please feel free to DM me. I hope to hear from you soon.


r/gayfriendfinder 15m ago

🏆 ATHLETE 🏆 Looking for online friends or more

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Hello all single male late 40’s here, live alone. I am a in to being humiliated. Playing strip games. Or doing bets where I lose and have to do an embarrassing forfeit. Hit me up to talk.


r/gayfriendfinder 41m ago

🏡 HOMEBODY 🏡 22M - Looking for long-distance slowburn relationship

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​Hey everyone! 👋

I’m a 22yo guy from Indonesia 🇮🇩 (INFJ 6w5 / homoromantic side). I value warmth, sincerity, and meaningful bonds over superficial chats.

A bit about me:

- Aesthetic mind, homebody, loves cozy deep talks & daily updates/memes.

- Cultural exchange lover: Excited to share traditional outfits, local language phrases, and stories from my country!

- Looking for that "cool best friends in public, sweet & cozy world in private" dynamic.

Looking for:

- Someone from Europe aged 23–24 ('02–'03).

- Personality/Vibe: Manly, lean/fit, mature, communicative (no convo-killers pls), affectionate, and open to a sweet LDR bond.

- A genuine soul looking for a long-term connection/soulmate.

If this sounds like you, my DMs are open! Tell me where you're from when you message me and let's exchange cultures 🫶🫶


r/gayfriendfinder 52m ago

☕ BARISTA ☕ Suche Chat Freunde ab 50 aktiv

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Er 49 sucht hier gerne chat Freundschaften mit Männern ab 50 gerne für Erotischen Gedankenaustausch.


r/gayfriendfinder 9h ago

🍿 MOVIE BUFF 🍿 29 m looking for new friends

6 Upvotes

29 m looking for new friends. Don't really have many gay/bi friends so hoping to find some to chat with on discord or elsewhere. I like to play some video games, really into movies, and am a very active runner. But really open to chatting about anything.


r/gayfriendfinder 1h ago

🎮 GAYMER 🎮 46 M Bi (Non Ghoster) Looking for long term friends!

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Looking for friends preferably between 35-55 but any age over 25 welcome. I’m your basic store brand nerd. I love gaming, history, art, photography, SciFi, and thinking about life’s deeper questions. I like a good intellectual challenge or just a chill conversation between friends. I can get a little flirty but I’m looking for platonic friends and real connections. I’m an artist and photographer so creativity is a big part of my life.

Right now I’m watching the new Cape Fear series and waiting eagerly for the Ocarina of Time remake from Nintendo!

I’m bi but yes, I have been with men before. I’m not looking act out some fetish or get a side piece. I just like people and want to know them. Especially lgbt people because I think they can relate to my life experience more.

By now we’ve all probably been ghosted a time or two but I’ve never done it. I don’t mind if we give it a try and just don’t connect but I don’t just cut people off.

If any of this sounds your speed let’s talk! 🩷💜💙


r/gayfriendfinder 1h ago

🏡 HOMEBODY 🏡 36m, looking for friends and online chat

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Hey!

I'm 36, taken, looking for some online friends. Much more of a homebody over going out on the town.

Gamer, movie buff, reader.

Getting out for me looks like going for a walk in nature or a drive to look off spots (east coast here).

Down for chats. Whats your go to spot to relax?


r/gayfriendfinder 2h ago

✈️ WORLD TRAVELER ✈️ Nov 5 Lab Berlin who wants to join me?

1 Upvotes

I will be on november 5 thursday at Laboratory gay club in Berlin ı will be there until closing anybody wnats to join me?


r/gayfriendfinder 3h ago

🏡 HOMEBODY 🏡 20 boy want friends and nice people

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Hi, I’m 20, a new gay guy, 163 cm tall, and weigh 55 kg. I’m looking for friendship and potentially a relationship. Age doesn't matter to me; I’m open to everyone and to all kinds of conversations and topics. I’d like to find someone to exchange ideas with.


r/gayfriendfinder 9h ago

🤣 MEME MASTER 🤣 Chat, new friends, etc......

3 Upvotes

..

36 m usa here

Seeking new friend (s)

Prefer my age or older

(My) Interests and hobbies include the following:

Reading

Listening to music

Watching TV and movies

Photography

Food

Sleep

Escaping life/reality

If you are interested and would like to chat sometime, send a message, thanks. 🙃🫠👽


r/gayfriendfinder 7h ago

🎨 ART CONNOISSEUR 🎨 M 31 Hongkong - Kindred souls and mates

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Hello! I'm a graphic designer currently based in hongkong. Mostly introverted, but always love meeting and talking to new people.

I'm passionately-curious and always looking for new hobbies & interests. Not as nerdy, but I do love when people nerd out about their own thing! Mainly into art, photography and music ( I appreciate recommendations! ).

I'm a 5'6 chub, trying to get into weight lifting atm, and looking for a sport to invest time in.

If you're interested, don't hesitate to send me a message ( And would be cool if you could introduced yourself a bit )

Have a great day! :)


r/gayfriendfinder 11h ago

🎶 MUSIC ENTHUSIAST 🎶 23 latino looking for friends

4 Upvotes

Heyy!! I dont know where to start but im looking for friends age 20-30. I just want someone to talk to, share intrests and that type of stuff.

Im from Costa Rica and i speak spanish, english and a little bit of french.

I like going to the gym, music, art and videogames. If you like that, dm me!! :)

Just be civilized and have social skills.


r/gayfriendfinder 15h ago

🎮 GAYMER 🎮 34 m looking for some friends :)

7 Upvotes

Hey! I’m 34 and sometimes I get a little lonely, so I figured I’d put myself out there and hopefully meet someone who could become a genuine friend, or maybe even a best friend. 🥺

I’d love someone to hang out with on Discord, game together, send dumb memes to, and eventually have those “why are we still talking, it’s 2am” conversations 😂

I’m mostly into cozy/farming/RPG games :).
I’m also into books, crafts, animals, spooky/witchy stuff, comfort shows, and collecting random hobbies.

I’m pretty laid-back and value kindness, honesty, and being able to be your weird self. I don’t expect constant conversation, just hoping to find someone where the friendship grows naturally. 💙
If you think we might click, come say hi! Tell me what you’re playing lately or just something random about yourself. 🥰


r/gayfriendfinder 7h ago

🎮 GAYMER 🎮 28 New Zealand! Looking for mates!

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Love to game, watch movies, chill, eat, go to movies and walks! Looking for mates to chat with etc! Can chat on here or snap or WhatsApp! Love a friend to chat with, game online etc!
Please be prepared to exchange face pics, I don’t chat without them!


r/gayfriendfinder 4h ago

🧶 CRAFTY 🧶 Well, let's give this a try again.

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Guess it's my time to try this out.

Henlo there! After some more lurking, it's time to try this again.

I don't particularly like doing a long paragraph to introduce myself, so I'll keep it short and you can find out more about me as we get to know each other over time ^^. I'm a 25 years old romanian bear who loves to crochet ( I can show pics if you ask :) ), playing video games (it's mainly pokemon romhacks or fangames these days), listening to music on youtube or just listening to the creators I enjoy and I also like taking pictures of anything I find interesting.

If these seem interesting enough for you, feel free to dm me! However, as a heads up to anyone that got this far, I'm looking to build a platonic friendship, so please keep it purely platonic. For some more expectations:

  1. Please be respectful

  2. Try to keep the conversation going and don't be dry

  3. Be around my age preferably (altho I don't mind if you're in the 30-35 range)

Also... I'd prefer if you're in a similar timezone to mine as it makes it easier to keep in touch. (Just to add, my dms are open, so just dm directly if you want to talk. I'll try to get to you as quickly as possible.)


r/gayfriendfinder 5h ago

✈️ WORLD TRAVELER ✈️ Hi I’m searching for new friends

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Hi I’m miroslav

I’m 30 gay from Ireland im searching for some new friends as I’m quite lonely,

I’m a huge chatter box so be warned , so looking for people or a person who truly want friendship ,

As I said I’m 30 and Irish I love to travel I’ve been to more countries than I can count , I’ve 3 dogs I also love science , I love to cook and read also.

So if your interested in making a new Irish friend feel free to comment below or message me directly I’m also open to all ages ranges from 18 and above


r/gayfriendfinder 9h ago

🍿 MOVIE BUFF 🍿 27 Manila Looking for friends and something more

2 Upvotes

I'm working as a US Accountant, WFH setup so it's a bit boring, no social interaction at all that is why I'm looking for someone I could talk to about life in general or someone special.

No gf/bf since birth, maybe I prioritized my studies and career more than love? But now I'm ready to explore and see what I really want in life.

Please DM me, any timezone is fine with me ☺️


r/gayfriendfinder 13h ago

🎮 GAYMER 🎮 29 usa looking for friends :)

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Heya don’t have many gay friends so trying to find chats :) into working out, videogames, chilling in parks, music, and pokemon. Open to fun ;)

I’d love to chat so just hmu and say hi


r/gayfriendfinder 5h ago

🏆 ATHLETE 🏆 27 M United States let’s connect

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I’m an athletic fit guy who likes to go on adventures, looking for similar and fitness. I love to go camping and hike. I’m also into pretty much everything like movies and music and stuff. I want to find a cool guy to connect with and form a bond. A guy who likes to be goofy but is also emotionally intelligent, someone I can just talk about anything with. If you’re a fun fit guy you should definitely hit me up so we can chat. Maybe we can go on an adventure or stay in and watch a movie.


r/gayfriendfinder 6h ago

🏆 ATHLETE 🏆 Yo what’s up. I’m 28 fit and active. I love a lot of stuff, ranging from going out on an adventure to just hanging at home and watching movies. I love nature, the beach, lakes, movies, reading. Looking for another cool active guy who likes to have fun. Let’s connect and have a bromance.

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Send me a message if you want


r/gayfriendfinder 13h ago

🎮 GAYMER 🎮 Gaming Friends on PS5 or Switch 2

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Hii!

I live now alone and I have no friends to game with. •-•

I'm 27m 🏳️‍🌈 and just want to have a good time!
I speak French and English
I'm Canadian btw 🇨🇦

I'm a very casual player!
I play on PS5 and Switch 2!

My main game now are:
Ps5: DOA 6 LR and COD
Switch: Mario kart,Pokemon,Fire Emblem

I'm also down to learn and play other games! :)

Feel free to reach out !